Is it a red flag ?
My boyfriend and I just reached our 1st year anniversary not long ago this month. He does spend time with me from time to time, after his work whenever he is free. Supported me emotionally and mentally when no one was there. For now, he seems to be the guy I would want to spend my life with. (Yeah, I fell crazy in love like never before)
However, I’m not sure whether it is a red flag on these pointers:
1. I realised that he doesn’t post me much on his social media (he only uses Facebook & Instagram). If so, it would just be the food we ate or the scenery around us and my face would be one out of the instagram stories he took. He wouldn’t even post me with him or put me on his highlights or feeds on Instagram & Facebook.
2. When his work starts at 12pm or 1pm the next day, he would go home around 10pm or 11pm when he hangs out with me. BUT, when he hangs out with his friends, he would hang out til 1-3am then go home.
3. Not sure if he is still a gambler, but I’ve caught him a few times sending hundreds to some random account and having high values of transactions out of his bank account (Don’t ask me how I know, I cant expose here). I tried asking his day to see whether he would tell me if he gamble, but everyday he told me he 100% never gamble already.
So, the big question is it a red flag ? Am i blinded by love ? I’m really lost and confused right now. I need some advice but I’m scared to tell anyone around me because everyone loves him. Telling them, would destory his good image.