We talk so much about how it’s wrong to expect females to have stereotypically “feminine” behaviours, like being demure or doing housework. Sure, I agree. We shouldn’t be expected to do certain things because of gender attributes.
Why, then, is it completely ok the other way round? My guy friends are routinely dragged out by their partners or female friends for the sole purpose of being shopping bag carriers, drivers, and/or ATMs. We’re the de facto leftover food finishers whether we want to be or not. And no, not all guys are ok with cockroaches, nor do all of us have some innate DIY expertise, or whatever stereotypically “guy” thing we’re expected to do. Furthermore, asking these types of questions elicits banal responses like “who hurt you?” instead of any effort to understand.
Sure, some guys are ok with being “the guy”. But if there can be an expectation one way, then it should go the other way too. If not, then women can pay for and carry their own things, walk on any side of the road, and stomp their own darn pests.
Here are what netizens think:
- Some guys are perfectly happy to do it for their girls coz their love language is acts of service. Some girls love it when their guys do such things for them coz their love language is acts of service. As long as the girl reciprocates and the guy feels loved, I think its fine. If it’s one-sided, then just find someone else.
- All guys have an innate DIY expertise once puberty hits.
- I do everything except kill my own roaches. I ask my helper to do that. She’s a one-punch game. So she’s living proof that females can and will kill roaches when required.