I (23M) am turned off by cuddling my GF (22F).
I (23M) am kind of concerned for my gf’s (22F) health and I’m not sure what to do. To start off, she’s had some eating issues for a while and regularly throws up after meals or avoids eating as much as possible.
This is something we’ve been trying to work through together but it doesn’t seem like there’s been much of an improvement.
She’s so hyper fixated on her weight and food intake and how “bloated” and “fat” she is (even though she’s small in height, not sure what she weights but comfortably fits in a size 00) that she’s always checked out and hardly in the mood to do things, cuddle, or be intimate.
When we do cuddle or hug, it just worries me so much because I can distinctly feel each bone and crevice in her rib cage and my arm fits too well- it’s like a puzzle piece- in the concave space between her lower rib and hipbone.
When I’m rubbing her back all I feel is bone and her spine. When I comment my concern, she says some women’s bodies are just built differently and it really isn’t uncommon or unhealthy to feel a bone every here and there—
I mean maybe I’m just fat but, is it normal to feel your significant other’s bones so prominently while cuddling or being intimate? Boyfriends, do you feel your girlfriend’s ribs when cuddling? How do you feel about it?
If i am correct in my concern, how do I convince her to improve her health? In my eyes, I would love for her to gain some weight, just to be at a healthy place. But she’s even researched weight loss pills? Sometimes I’m at a loss for how to help.