So I divorced a year and a half ago and haven’t really dated much since. We were together 10 years, so it has been a while. Maybe I just don’t get dating culture these days or I am just so completely out of it and can’t read things properly, but maybe the people of the internet can tell me what’s up.
I went on what I call a date 0 with a girl I met online. We met at a coffee shop and chatted a little over an hour. I mentioned not having eaten as it was around dinner time and she suggested we get dinner. We had dinner, she didn’t let me pay and we split the bill which is fine. Like at the coffee shop I think the conversation went well, we laughed, had a good time, etc. After leaving, she suggests getting dessert and sneakily ends up adding mine to her order.
The date wraps up at around the 3.5 hour mark. Then the “there’s your car, bye” and she just leaves. She texts me first that evening, apologizing for being late, thanking me for seeing her, said she had a good time, hoped I got home safe. I replied I had a good time and would like to do it again and left it at that. The next day I got the “I only ever see us as friends” text.
Now I do not regret the date. I had fun and I even got a free dessert out of it. I am just confused on why someone would extend the date twice if they were not really feeling it.
Here are what netizens think:
- Maybe she was feeling it at first part of the day and not the second part…Don’t look too much into it.-
- Multiple reasons. You’re having fun, but not romantically interested. Something happened in the later part of date that was a turn off. Want to take some extra time to see if there’s some chemistry that you’re not feeling initially.
- She didn’t instantly know if she was interested or not.