A netizen wrote a respond to a cheating bf post.
Here is the story:
I am in the same situation. For context, i was in a rlnship and had a bto with my ex but we broke up. Reading your post, i don’t find you picky but more of looking for a husband material bf.
In my case, my deal breaker was the emotional immaturity (of course both parties have faults as well). I was willing to stay by him and slowly guide him through but He wasn’t willing to grow and bridge the gap, though i was. Even counselling cannot help. I spent countless nights in tears because i was so sad that we could have something great but it couldn’t work out, it ended up affecting my work, my friendships etc. And plenty of sacrifices because he was not earning as much and i wanted to ensure that we have a sustainable future tgt.
Until finally, under the encouragement of my friends, i took a step.
Since the breakup, i no longer have to endure such hurt or pain and am actually excelling in my work again (previously my boss was worried as it was obvious my performance went down). I am getting a condo too on my own, when previously, i had to worry about him as well (since split ownership). Bobian, have to make lemonade out of lemons.
Of course, like you, i worry about loneliness and being left on the shelf etc., but after this process, i realised, finding a correct partner is more important, regardless of age.
Just want to let you know, plenty bash you for being picky or not staying by a man etc.
Don’t let that get to you.
Being happy is the most important. My entire relationship looked like a fairytale on the surface but it was abusive emotionally and physically behind the scenes.
For all those commenting on how she shld just tolerate or lower standards, let’s be honest here. It is not a woman’s job to make her man feel like a man. She is not a lifelong nanny to look after a man and guide him to grow or be better in whatever aspect or heal. And even if she does, lets face it, not every guy is willing to take that step.
And yes, probably the good men are snapped up so we have to decide if we rather be alone and excel or deal with someone that potentially is a deadweight. I made my choice, jiayou!
P.s. We can always go SDN tgt and check out the market!