We’ve been together for over a year. Whenever we’re in the bedroom, she expects me to go down on her. Every. Single. Time. And I do it gladly! I take my time, I make sure she’s enjoying herself, and I never complain because I genuinely like making her feel good. To me, intimacy is a two-way street.
But when it comes to returning the favor? Whole different story.
The moment I hint at it or ask nicely, the excuses start flying. “Oh, I have a sore throat.” “It’s too dirty.” “I don’t like the taste.” Bro, I literally shower right before we get intimate. I groom myself. I keep everything pristine. But to her, it’s just “gross.”
What really triggered this rant was what happened last night. We were talking about a TikTok video where a guy was complaining about this exact same thing. I laughed and joked, “Yeah, sounds familiar.” She immediately got defensive and said, “Well, it’s different for girls. It’s a hygiene thing, and it’s much harder for us.”
Excuse me??? Different how?
How is it fair that you can lie back, relax, and expect VIP service, but the moment I ask for 5% of that effort, I’m treated like I’m asking her to swallow battery acid? The sheer hypocrisy is wild. If a guy refused to go down on his girlfriend because he thought her anatomy was “dirty,” he would be branded a selfish, toxic partner on Every. Single. Relationship. Thread. He’d be cancelled on Xiaohongshu and TikTok instantly. But when a girl does it, we are just supposed to “respect her boundaries” and suck it up? (Pun fully intended).
I’m not trying to force anyone to do something they hate, but the absolute lack of effort to compromise is what hurts. If you hate doing it, fine—but then don’t expect me to be your personal oral machine every weekend while I get absolutely left on read.
Am I the asshole for thinking this is a massive double standard? Like, if you expect to receive, you must be prepared to give. Simple economics, right? Or is this just the standard SG dating tax I’m forced to pay now?