First of all, I’m in shambles and this took a lot to write in first place because I literally still can’t put my thoughts together even after over a week after finding out about this.
I (18M) have ‘dated’ my now ex-boyfriend (19M), let’s call him James, since primary school—We confessed to each other when we were 8/9 and pretty much stayed together since then, but only moved onto more serious things such as kissing and dates when we were in secondary school.
We’ve actually known each other for longer than that: we met in kindergarten so it’s safe to say we’ve known each other for 15 years+ and been together for 10 years+. We never broke up and never took ‘a break’ of some sort, either.
Both of our families have always been very supportive of our relationship, so nothing ever went in the wrong direction until 5 months ago.
My twin sister (18F), let’s call her Emily, has known James since we were all little, but never got along too well with her, since she’s always been pretty upset about me spending more time with him, than her, me getting a boyfriend before her, etc.
It was rare to see Emily warm up to James and vice-versa and although we were all classmates and James saw Emily every time he came to my place, they never really bonded properly. They were simple acquaintances and that never really bugged me: Emily has never been hostile or judgmental of James, and James never said anything particularly mean about my sister.
On February 26th, I noticed that James was receiving plenty of messages while he was at my place and that rarely happened, since I knew that his friend group communicated solely on Instagram, and I asked him what that was all about.
He shrugged it off and said that it was his driving teacher trying to get him to schedule their next lesson and I believed him until I involuntarily noticed a ‘<3’ pop up in one of the display texts.
I confronted him about it and asked why his driving teacher would be sending him a heart at 9PM on a Saturday night and he said that I’m making a big deal out of nothing and I should just watch the movie in silence and stop bugging him with questions, but I was too irritated to let him go off the hook so easily and made him unlock his phone and read the messages out loud to me.
He was tearing up and holding cries back when he began reading them in front of me. They were stuff like ‘We’ll manage, I know we will.’ or ‘Don’t worry about being too young to be a dad.’ and I went livid.
The contact name was a ‘:>’ so I couldn’t tell who it was, but I kept pushing him for more details and once he began scrolling upwards to reveal the old text exchanges, it became clear that it was my sister he was talking to. If I had her number memorized I could have figured it out even easier.
She wasn’t home at that moment, so I called her and demanded that she came home that instant because I had found out what was going on between her and James, and she refused and said I was delusional.
James admitted to having an affair with my sister instantly, and began apologizing and begging for me to forgive him.
I found out they slept at least a dozen times behind my back, including in MY BED. My sister and boyfriend doing it in my bed and my boyfriend getting her pregnant in my room, while playing music from my laptop. What a view. James told me most details thinking it would make the situation better but I was and still am absolutely destroyed by this.
I cant begin to fathom what kind of indulgence and forgiveness he thought I would give him after he confessed to sleeping with my twin sister without wearing a condom. He banged my sister behind my back, cheating on me for MONTHS, then looked me in the eye and expected forgiveness.
It was so pathetic that the sobs and apologies made me nauseous and I could feel my head tearing in half. It was the worst thing to hear my sister denying it first hand, followed by James’s lame attempt at winning me back.
I kicked him out of my house and my sister still hasn’t come home yet, even though she was supposed to be back from her trip four days ago. She isn’t answering her phone, isn’t replying to me or my father, and the only texts we managed to get out of her were daily ‘I’m okay’s’ to my mother.
James blocked me on Instagram, iMessage and Messenger and cancelled out our shared Spotify Premium duo and our mutual Netflix and HBO subscriptions, the same day. I didn’t see him much in school either, since we shared just a few classes anyways, but I didn’t utter a single word to him.
The two people I trusted the most betrayed me and and lied to me. I cant believe this is happening to me and I’m trying my best to not spiral out of control. I have no idea what my sister will do with the baby since I didn’t get to read all of the recent messages, and if her and James will get together for the sake of the child, but I’m shattered.
This is the worst thing that’s happened to me and I’m sick.