My girlfriend is gaining weight and it’s bothering me
We moved in together about 6 months ago.
I am not a pinnacle of physical fitness but I exercise regularly and watch what I eat within reason. My girlfriend just is not interested in these things. When we met, she was slightly curvey but she “wore it” well.
She considers herself a foody and she is a good cook. Not gonna lie, I appreciate her cooking a lot. What is starting to bother me is the lack of exercise and the processed junk food she keeps at home. She loves cookies, muffins, pastries, etc.
In the past 6 months, I’ve gotten more in shape and she’s done the opposite.
I try to (VERY gently) encourage her to eat better and exercise but she’s just not having it.
I’m planning to break up with her at the end of the month. I know she’s going to be devastated. I’m not sure if I should be honest or just make up an excuse.
It sucks because I feel like we’re a pretty good fit and that we co-exist well. I’m going to miss her. I really do care about her as a person and I don’t want to hurt her, but I can’t keep living this lie.
I just know deep down that I can’t be with someone who I’m not physically attracted to. I’m not even 30 yet and I don’t want to settle. This could end up being a mistake, but I gotta take the chance.
I’m already expecting the comments to just be roasting me. I’m just a human being trying to get through life. I’m in a dilemma.
Netizens’ comments
My husband and I have both had drastic weight changes throughout our relationship and we both realize that we will continue to change. We both want to lose weight and he has been doing great! I on the other hand have been struggling to lose but haven’t been gaining.
We don’t love each other any less because of it. It’s understandable if you are more attracted to a specific body type but losing interest completely is not something that happens if you truly love them.
We are very honest with each other and my husband did tell me that he finds me a little more attractive at my lighter weight. He does however still find me attractive and loves me for me. People change, physically and mentally. No one you date is going to stay the same forever and that’s just part of being human.
Break up with her. She deserves better. You aren’t willing to help her or even have an honest talk with her. You need to take some time for yourself and grow up a little.