GUY SAYS ITS EASY MAKING ACQUAINTANCES BUT ONCE PEOPLE GET TO KNOW HIM, THEY HATE HIM

People don’t like me once they get to know me

I can make acquaintances somewhat easy, and people can easily like me on the surface level.

But whenever they get to know me they easily start to see through the veneer and that I’m actually a very judgemental, self absorbed, self pity wallowing, broken person.

My only solution to avoid the rejection is probably just to keep people are an arms length, though that’s hard because a penchant I have for over sharing.

It’s especially bad when it’s coworkers, who then just don’t want to be around me and it’s very obvious.

People really don’t like you that much when you are “just being yourself”

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m gonna try and remember to show this to my therapist… because same
2. So what? Don’t judge your likeability based on what coworkers think of you. The workplace is rife with competition & jealousy. Coworkers may not like you if they see you as a threat or a competitor, or if you possess skills or knowledge they would like to have themselves, but lack. Just because your coworkers don’t like you isn’t necessarily a reflection on your overall likeability.
   Adult friendship making isn’t as easy as it was when you were a kid. Don’t expect the same level of involvement or commitment, or ease of making friends. Again, not a reflection on your likeability.
   You sound like you are being very hard on yourself. Surely you have some good, positive traits. Focus on those. Nobody is perfect and everybody possesses to some degree the negative traits you describe in yourself. You can try to improve areas about yourself you think are lacking, you aren’t set on stone. Everyone’s a work in progress. Find something you want to improve, then work on it.
   At the end of the day, the only person who you should want to truly respect you is YOURSELF. Improve yourself for yourself, and don’t bother about others’ judgement.
   Good luck.
3. Well, people do want to be treated well and trust that you are being real with them.
   Have you ever considered working on yourself so you can heal some of these things? That way you could still “just be yourself” but a healthier version.