the guy i lost my virginity to told me i didnt do a good job and now im too scared to get intimate anymore.
i lost my virginity a year ago and didn’t have the best experience. the guy i slept with told me after that i did a really bad job and that i wasn’t good enough etc.
i felt really ashamed and i feel bad since i really want to pleasure the person i’m with and i dont see a point in sleeping with someone if i cant make them feel good.
since then, i haven’t flirted or been affectionate with anyone cause i’m too scared it’ll lead to more and i’ll be humiliated like last time.
i don’t really know what kind of advice i’m seeking more than how i can be less ashamed and maybe if theres any way i can be better? i dont want to be useless in the bedroom
Netizens’ comments
- Why do u feel ashamed? It was your first time. No one is a pro starting. He is toxic. U don’t say those things to ppl.
- To give your virginity to someone and have him react that way is unbelievable. As you mature and grow older you will understand better what you need as well as how to please your partner. Move on from him! You are amazing!
- The ONLY thing to understand here is the guy who said that is a giant a-hole. 100% of the problem was him. You are fine, and will be fine going forward. I guarantee it. Feel free to try again whenever you’re ready. I bet you get a completely different reaction.
- I promise you you did nothing wrong. It was your first time, nobody’s an expert the first time round no matter how much you think you know.
You’re obviously a good person based on your comment about wanting to pleasure them as best you can, take pride in that.