A netizen shared how her brother-in-law has been touching her under the pretext of accidentally brushing into her and has been leering at her, culminating in an assault.
Here is the story
Once my brother-in-law caught me breastfeeding my newborn when he and my sister visited me at the hospital. I was exhausted after giving birth and I wasn’t expecting visitors at that time so I was unprepared to cover myself up. I believe this was the only time my brother-in-law saw me topless.
For years I notice my brother-in-law leering at me when we visit each other’s homes. But I chose to ignore it because I trust him as my brother-in-law. He would do things like reach for a tissue box across me and have a full arm brush into my chest. Walk past me and swipe his hands across my butt or close into my inner thigh. The actions confused me and I try to brush it off as accidents.
Once I had to collect something over at my sis place, I didn’t know my brother-in-law was alone at home else I wouldn’t have gone. When it was just the 2 of us alone in the house he assaulted me and only stopped when my sis came back. I finally pieced everything together to realize he had actually been molesting me. In short, I didn’t notice he was attracted to me until the assault.
I didn’t report him to the police but after revealing what had happened to the family it completely destroyed our families. My sis chose to believe my brother-in-law and accused me of seducing him. The people who are most affected and heartbroken are my parents. They have lost me and my sister at the same time. Cny is supposed to be a happy occasion but it’s now laced with sadness for my parents every year because there is no longer a family reunion. I dread the day when my parents pass on and we have to have a funeral. I can stand my sis hating me but I don’t want to see my brother-in-law again ever.
My brother-in-law probably started to have similar thoughts as you in the beginning. I’m not saying you will do exactly what my brother-in-law did. It’s good that you are aware of your thoughts and want to ask for help. Please do something about it before something bad happens.
Ignoring the troll comments, the helpful ones like telling someone (aka your wife) who can help you to safeguard your thoughts from becoming actions is one of the best answers. If your wife knows, she can help you! Keeping secrets in a marriage is never a good idea. A secret, once exposed, may also dampen the fantasy for good. Give your wife the chance and choice to help you. By not telling her, you are also increasing the distance in your marriage. If it means having your sister-in-law move out and your wife explaining or not explaining the reason why, so be it. Facing your wife’s reaction now is way better than the uncertainty of what you may do to/with your sister-in-law in a moment of weakness. Trust your wife to help you. Tell her!