my husband left me and our 3 kids
my husband left me and our 3 kids (4f, 2m and 10month) about 12 hours ago. we sat and cried and begged him to stay but he left anyways.
the oldest two screamed and sobbed and don’t understand why daddy left and our infant has been crying since bedtime because my husband was the only one who he would sleep for.
he regrets leaving now and wants to come back and i said no. my eyes hurt, my chest hurts and my head hurts. i’m at my parents now and i feel empty inside
Background: i (23f) and husband (23m) got married at 18. we’ve been together since we were 17. in the beginning it was rocky and pretty f-ed up.
when our first son was born he cheated and caused a lot of trust issues in our relationship. we have did therapy and became semi-okay after this.
we have been okay and for the most part happy. he decided he wanted to move in with his dad (overseas) to gain a better relationship with him because his dad left when he was around 6 and his mother kept him from his dad.
he recently cut ties with his mother and wanted more to do with his dad. he said he wouldn’t be back until he found a job and could get paychecks rolling in and would come visit on his off-days.
i realize my wording wasn’t the best, my crying and begging was done in a private conversation with him and my kids crying and screaming was when he was saying goodbye to them.
i told him if he needed to go he could but i didn’t want to do a long distance relationship because of the previous trust issues and asked him if he could stay.
i offered solutions of us all going to visit on weekends or give us 30 days to figure things out and we all would go.
he left and as soon as he got there and realized i was serious about not wanting to do a long distance relationship he wanted to come back.
he said he realized he f-ed up and wanted to turn around multiple times but didn’t.