My husband’s ex gf is dying. Her last wish is to be with my husband.
First of all, I apologize if this is badly written. English is not my first language, so please be kind.
As the title goes, my[30F] husband’s ex girlfriend[33F] was recently diagnosed with late stage breast cancer and her last wish is to be with my husband[35M].
My husband, let’s call him Seb, and his ex Tanya became bestfriends after their break up a couple of years ago due to her infidelity. They were together for 5 years.
Needless to say, they remain in contact even before he met me. I would be lying if I say it never made me feel uncomfortable even once. It did and it still does because Tanya is still in love with my husband. She never denied it and in fact would even call or message me when she can’t get ahold of Seb.
Aside from cancer, she also has some mental health issues, thus my husband would always tell me to be kind and patient. Seb is no longer in love with her of course. She cheated and Seb swore that he will never get back to her and that he only see her as family.
Two weeks ago, my husband received a call from Tanya to tell him about the sad news. My husband cried with her and told her everything is going to be okay. They were on the phone the whole day. They’ve been in contact almost everyday since we left. Which always bothers me but what can I do?
After that call, my husband told me everything. To be honest, I felt bad for her and I genuinely feel sad. I ask him what’s going to happen now. Seb told me he’s going back to be with her. Which is a shock. He then told me that her last wish is to be with him. I didn’t say anything except “what about me?”. He said he’s going to “visit” me whenever he gets the chance. I walked out without saying anything.
I’ve been avoiding my husband since the phone call and have been ignoring him whenever he tries to bring up the conversation.
I feel like he’s abandoning me but at the same time I feel that I’m selfish for hating both of them. I’m honestly thinking of getting a divorce because obviously he’s choosing her over me but at the same time, I thought of why my husband is so attached to her.
Seb considered Tanya and her family like his own as he doesn’t have one. She’s probably like a sister to him now. But Tanya doesn’t fell the same. She’s madly in love my husband and him granting her wish will surely make her think they still have a chance.
My entire life I’ve been putting others first… I’ve been very patient and understanding about their weird relationship. I feel sick, confuse. I want to call her, yell at her for ruining my marriage, for trying to steal my husband from me. For using her sickness to get what she wants. For being a b. I’m so mad at both of them. What did I do to deserve this?