Forgive my grammar and spelling.
So for context, I am a 20 year old female, my friendship group and I have been friends now for about 6 or 7 years and we are quite a close group.
I feel like I get on with everyone and we have fun when we’re together.
This happened the other day, I was scrolling through Instagram and noticed my friend had posted a story of him and a couple other of my friends with the location of a bar in Spain.
Thought nothing of it until I realised that that the two other guys in the picture would never hang out with one another outside of our group…
Strange.. so I text my best friend about it asking if the guys in my group had gone to Spain together. To which she later responded “yerrrr” and sent me crossword game at 3AM.. Nothing else..so I asked her if she was also there, to which she said that the six of them had flown out a few days ago…
and “would’ve been nice for you to come, but we didn’t think you’d want to :)” (I’m an introvert)… to which I responded “I would’ve gone if I was invited but it’s whatever” at this point I was upset that my best friend had been deceiving me the last few days and weeks /months ( booking and preparing for it) and text me like she wasn’t going on a group holiday to Spain without me.
I told her I feel upset and she responded ” how? ” to which I said I felt like I’d been excluded and that the whole thing felt sneaky and strange .. I feel confused and upset that my childhood friends have excluded me like this … she said “it wasn’t sneaky or malicious” (downplayed the whole thing) but it feels like it is. I don’t know whether to believe my friends or trust my gut feeling.
My partner says that they must have a group chat without me, which seems logical due to the number of people who’d gone… and that the group must have discussed me because of the “we didn’t think you’d want to come :)” message.
Also: This is the first group holiday abroad… I’ve been on other group trips away in the UK which is why it’s more confusing they didnt invite me.
They’ve went away for what I can only assume is a week?… I’m not sure how long they’ve been there as my best friend just said she’d “gone away” a few days prior and its been up to me to connect the dots. I just know that they’re still there now. I haven’t spoken to my best friend since .