My(22F) boyfriend(24M) proposed to me in the worst way possible.
My boyfriend of 2 years really, really wants to marry me. He has told me many times I am the love of his life and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He wants to marry me as soon as possible. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But I’m too young to be married right now. I’ve told him this many, many, many times. We agreed to get married in 2025 because of it. But boyfriend still wants to propose to right away.
I’ve known he was gonna propose. We have already picked out an engagement ring together. He’s asked me how I wanted to be proposed to, and I told him in a romantic way, with just the two of us. I don’t want to be proposed to in public, or just out of the blue at home while I’m studying or something. I know it’s selfish to say but I want my heart to pound with love during the moment.
Well. Since then it seems like boyfriend has ignored everything I said I wanted. He’s asked me to marry him 5 times out of the blue at home while I’m doing chores or something. He doesn’t go down on one knee or give me the ring just “Hey wanna get married”. I’ve always said “I’m too young to be married right now, but an engagement is good if you ask me in a romantic way”.
This is where the title comes in, yesterday me and boyfriend went to ren Faire with our close friends. And earlier that week I had a gut feeling he was gonna propose. So earlier that week I specifically told him over the phone “I don’t want you to propose at ren faire, please don’t, that isn’t how I want it to go, I hate being the center of attention”.
Well as we were regrouping and getting ready to leave. Boyfriend (very tipsy) comes up to me and pulls out the ring and gets down on 1 knee. And he asks me in public surrounded by people. I freak out and say “I’m too young” and try to walk away. But boyfriend insists like “we can still be engaged”. So I said fine and he put the ring on. Then people started clapping and I wanted to die. I still want to die thinking about it.
Right away I told him, this isn’t how I wanted it to go, and I told him to please try again. Because I hate public proposals. Well he took the ring back and he’s been spiraling down and emotional rabbit hole. He devastated and mad that I rejected him.
And I need reddits help for what to do next. He hasn’t talked to me since ren Faire. I try and talk to him about it, saying I still love him, and he’s not the problem. But I’m just ignored. What do I do next? I don’t know how I can bring him out of this funk. Are my requests too much? I just really need some advice.