Hi, I would like some advice on what I should do – leave or stay?
To give some context, I’m currently dating a guy for about 5 months. However, he is unsure if he wants to continue and be official as he felt that a part of him still love his ex and he still thinks of her everyday.
There are a few things that I’m concerned about that makes me feel like I should leave
– How we first had S: I told him I was not ready to do it and he said we will just kiss but he still ended up doing it and told me it doesn’t feel good that I resist
– How we first decide to date: he was pestering me to go on a date with him and even tried to do this in office that makes me uncomfortable
– How he make me feel: I feel that he makes me feel sad almost everyday – I think the number of times I feel sad this year prob exceed the number of times I feel sad my entire life
Some reasons why I still stay:
– he provides some form of financial support (pays for most of my stuff)
– He told me that it would be weird if I date other ppl and they found out that I have done it before even though I never had a bf – so it is better for me to stay with him
– We booked a trip for Jan 24 (it’s a secret from the whole world anyway)
– Whenever I decide to leave, it feels that there are always unexpected things to make me stay (eg I got pregnant but we did the abortion alr)
– He tries to be nicer at least he is nicer than before
I have been seeing a counsellor after that incident and honestly, I know there are much better people out there but I’m not too sure why I find it so hard to leave.
Perhaps, it is due to the pregnancy that I was in my own world, the only person I talked to was him as I didn’t wanted to share this with anybody in my life.
I was thinking if we were ever to get together or married, I won’t want to introduce him to any of my family and friends because I’m not proud of him at all. So I know that there will be no future of any sorts even if he choose to stay.
So what should I do? I feel that leaving is the best choice but staying status quo for a while more is also fine. How do I make sure I do leave and get over it if I choose to leave?