I’m in a dilemma. I have a friend who is nice, amiable, friendly and generally a good-natured person that people are okay with. He is also very brother to me, and trusts me too. The only problem that has started to really bother me is that he physically cheats on his gf almost every other week. He goes to lupsup KTVs, the hostesses there often throw themselves at him (he’s conventionally attractive), and he always reciprocates, some nights even sending them back home – only God knows what he really does there.
I don’t personally know his gf, that’s why I never really felt it was my place to say anything. Once, I casually inquired if they were doing okay, and he always says they’re doing fine and that she’s super stable, not toxic, doesn’t pick fights with him etc. This then made me pity his gf more, because I thought maybe if he was at least really upset with his gf, it’d make his behaviour a little more excusable (as his close friend ok). In fact, their relationship is not rocky at all, they are very stable, had BTO-ed, and he posts her very often on his Instagram etc.
At first, I didn’t think they were going to last long because he always spoke about her as if she was a very convenient “place-holder” kind of gf, loves him more than he does, not his usual type, she chased him first, kind of way. So these were factors that made me believe I should mind my own business and let things naturally fall apart when they should. After all, he’s my good friend right? I ain’t no snitch. BUT, I started feeling uncomfortable when he told us he had proposed to her, WHILE we were at the KTV, with a hostess in his arms LOL. I just really really pity the gf so much, because she’s so so clueless about what he does during nights he’s without her.
I started wondering why the hell does she not go through his phone like usual gfs do, or check his grab/gojek history once in awhile, or get location-tracking apps together etc. It would at least deter him from thinking she’s way too easy to cheat on ma, right? Lesser tendency to want to cheat, knowing he would have to take extra steps etc. It’s just a very sad situation… she seems like a very nice introverted yet bubbly girl too. She is unknowingly going to marry someone that does not even truly love her. And is probably giving her STD/STIs. I hope she gets herself checked one day.
I’m sure he does like her for him to stay with her for this long, and thinks she’s wifey-material etc, but let’s all agree he’s definitely not in love with her. Hahahaha. What would you guys do? Would yall snitch on your bro or just let the poor girl (who you don’t personally know) live her life out naturally in (fake) bliss?