Is my wife cheating on me?
me (24m) and my wife (26f) have been married for almost a year now. At the beginning of our relationship, I saw screenshots of other men’s profiles in her camera roll from hinge and bumble.
I asked her if I was able to go through her phone. She agreed and handed her phone to me. When I was going through her phone, I saw a bunch of screenshots of texts, dating profiles, and the biggest red flag was the 19,500 texts that she still had from her ex.
Keep in mind her and her ex broke up 3-4 years prior to us getting together. When I asked her why she still had all the texts from when she was together, all she said was “I’m friends with his friend group, so I have them as receipts in case he said anything.”
That was a big red flag, we ended up having a huge argument. I don’t what to do. Any help would be amazing. Thank you so much!
Netizens’ comments
- Do people delete texts after breaking up? I don’t delete anything.
- I dont delete texts. I know my husband doesnt delete phone numbers, not even from exes because he told me that. I bet if I rifled through his old phones I could find texts from an ex, but those texts are in the past and I dont care that he couldnt be bothered to go through and delete a ton if texts from the distant past. I’ve never cared to look through his phone.
When I was online dating, I used to screenshot some of the most awful profiles(nobody I’d actually dated), anonymised them and shared them with friends. And I mean the… unhinged ones that were basically a rant about women being single mommas gold diggers. I obviously came off the dating sites when my man and I went exclusive. Some of those probably still exist on my old dead phones, possibly even on the cloud, but I never dated those men and found none of them attractive! They aren’t exes or even people I was ever interested in. It’s not uncommon, seeing how often I see screenshots of dating profiles come up all over the net.
I will also say that I have known people to keep texts messages so they had receipts if an ex talked shit about them. I did the same with a toxic ex friend who was unhinged.
How long have you been together? Had you discussed exes before then? Does she still have contact with this ex? Do they communicate more recently (ie since your relationship?) It’s a shame that you’re only finding this out now, but you havent given us enough information to know how to advise. - She handed over her phone willingly and gave you an explanation for everything. If there were no recent messages and no recent hinge or bumble activity, are you just looking for a fight? Unless there is something inappropriate from after you started dating, you owe her an apology.