Do guys pay for the ladies’ meal when they go out eventhough they are not dating?
Last weekend, one of my guy friends invited me along with 2 of his female friends for dinner in an upscale restaurant. I accepted the invite because we used to be very close and we haven’t see each other after lockdown. He invited 2 ladies who are originally from HK and China respectively and that was my first time meeting them.
The dinner was okay. It was pleasant enough but I just didn’t jive with the ladies. They are obviously scouting for potential mates and my friend here is their candidate maybe including myself. At one point they discussed about the difference between men from different countries, and said that local men are not very attentive to the ladies.
Like one of the girls complained that the guys here do not open the car door for her or carry her purse. They also complained that local men don’t dress up compared to Chinese/Hongkie. She expected all men should do this and not just when you are dating.
When the bill arrived, the ladies did not even attempt to take their wallet out. They expected us to foot the bill. It’s a fine dining establishment and a full course dinner costs close to 300.
So I immediately asked the table how are we going to spilt the bill, anyone wants to use their card to earn points and we can just use eWallet to send the money to the person we owed or we can pay cash etc. If look could kill you should see their face when I suggested that.
The Chinese girl even piped up, “I thought men pay for the meals. In my country, that is what they would do.” as if I need to follow their culture. I retorted that I would not pay for strangers whom I have no relationship with and they were obviously offended by it.
My guy friend did not side with me and offered to pay for them. Then they have the audacity to tell me I won’t get a girlfriend because I’m a cheapskate and should be more like a gentleman like my friend.
“Honey, I have a boyfriend and it seems like you two should learn from me.” They did not expect that and were totally dumbfounded. Anyway, the dinner ended on a sour note and my friend did indeed paid for them. He paid more than 1000 for a dinner and I don’t think he’s getting another date.
He blamed me for my antics and I should pay for women and this is a very common thing. He probably thought I would share the total bill with him.