Is this fixable? 34m partner of 6 years has tantrums.
I don’t like to talk bad at my partner to friends or family so I don’t have anyone to talk to about this. I also just never find that friend or family advice is objective.
My husband of 3 years and partner of almost 6 goes right to anger very often. He is not violent to me. He will punch things sometimes, often hits himself hard in the head with his fists/hands. He’s broken his own glasses on his face.
I can tell him to do something benign and he gets so irritated if he doesn’t want to do it that he clenches his fists, looks like he has extreme tension in his body, grunts and stomps around.
I wish it didn’t affect me. I try to tell him to have a more mature response. I don’t know what to do. But I’m drained and exhausted by it. I want to laugh, smile, enjoy my life.
He’s so grumpy, and it’s the moment he gets home from work, moment he wakes up. It feels like he comes at everything with a bad energy for the last few years.
If I express any negative emotion he EXPLODES on me. Yells at me instantly. I don’t know what to do.
Please feel free to ask more questions I don’t know how to summarize this very well.
Side note: I’m not perfect. But I do try my best to think of ways to help. When I hug him if he’s really grumpy it often helps but sometimes I don’t feel comfortable doing that. Depending what he’s done or said.