Is there a nice way to tell my GF that I don’t enjoy eating her out?
So my GF(f24) and I(m25) have been together for 3 years and known each other for about 10. We have a pretty good and active life on the bed but, I find myself getting annoyed and turned off when she ask me to go down on her due to both her grooming and preferences with oral.
My GF doesn’t shave her private area at all because she doesn’t like the feeling of the hair growing back. I don’t have an issue with that by itself but, it makes oral difficult because she only likes it when I use my tongue on her.
My GF absolutely hates oral if my tongue is touching anything other than her cl-t. I can’t put my tounge anywhere else inside or outside her V as it reminds of her trauma she suffered in her childhood.
Having to focus on one specific spot is hard enough without having to use my fingers to push aside all of the hair she has down there and I still end up with a lot of it on my tongue and in my mouth.
Also, she’s on medication which makes it difficult for her to finish so, if I want to make her finish from oral, I’m having to tongue her without stopping for a very long time.
I’ve definitely gotten better at eating her out over time but, I honestly feel like I’m performing a medical procedure every time I do it instead of an act of love.
I don’t want her to not feel comfortable asking me to go down on her but, I think she’s catching in to the fact that I don’t like it and I want to have a conversation about it. Any advice is appreciated.
- Can’t y’all meet halfway and just trim things up down there?
- She doesn’t have to shave the area.
Get a hair trimmer, put it on the longest length, and just trim the top of the bush.
If it’s still too long, next level.
It’s a hair cut, not a shave.
- I would say something like, “I really love eating you out, but i was wondering if you’d be open to trimming your hair. You don’t have to shave it completely, I’m only asking for us to try having it trimmed down. I’m finding it hard to focus on pleasing you bc it’s getting in the way.