I used to think I was a great boyfriend. I treated my girlfriends with respect, I was incredibly generous with my time and money, and I always had a good sense of humor.
But, I recently realized that I had a problem: I changed girlfriends like I changed my underwear.
It all started when I was in poly. I got into a relationship with a girl from my class. We were happy for a few months, but then she started to get too clingy. She wanted to spend all her time with me, and I was starting to feel smothered. So, I decided to break up with her.
After that, I moved onto another girl.
We had a lot of fun together, and I felt like I was really falling in love with her. But then, she started to get too serious too quickly. She was talking about marriage and kids and I just wasn’t ready for that kind of commitment. So, I decided to break up with her as well.
This pattern kept repeating itself over and over again. Every time I started to get too comfortable in a relationship, I would find an excuse to break it off. I was never able to stay with one person for more than a few months.
At first, I was able to justify my behaviour. I told myself that I was just being honest and that I didn’t want to lie to myself or the other person. But, as time went on, I started to realize that I was just scared of commitment. I was scared of getting too close to someone and having to open up and share my feelings.
So, I decided to do something about it. I started to take a hard look at my behavior and why I was always running away from relationships. I started to talk to my friends and family about my fears and I started to do some research into why I was so scared of commitment.
I also started to work on myself and my own issues. I went to therapy and worked hard to overcome my fear of intimacy. I also made an effort to be more honest with my feelings and to communicate better with my partners.
It’s been a few years since I started to work on my issues, and I’m proud to say that I’ve changed a lot. I’m now in a long-term relationship and I’m finally able to commit to someone. I don’t change girlfriends like I change my underwear anymore. I’m finally able to stick with one person and be honest with them about my feelings.
I’m not perfect and still have a lot of work to do, but I’m proud of how far I’ve come. I’m so grateful to have a partner who is willing to work with me and support me through it all. I know that I’ll never be able to go back to my old ways of changing girlfriends like I change my underwear, and I’m thankful for that.