How do I tell her no
How do guys manage a breakup knowing that the girl will turn all crazy?
I have been meaning to tell a girl we are not meant to be but I know her reaction will give me so much stress. I am always in fear that she will act up if anything about our relationship didn’t go her way.
I was not in a mind of commitment 2 years ago and I met this girl, we started out as a open relationship, since we were meeting so much and she needed a place to stay, I allowed her to move into mine.
However, whenever I am out with colleagues for late night drinks (yes, fine, with pretty girls around) or I try to date someone, she would go all crazy when I am back. She will threaten to commit suicide, tell me stories about her committing suicide on her ex-bf, cries the whole day and night. It’s so hard to make her stop except to tell her that I love her.
In recent time, she started asking if I will marry her and I told her no, it’s not what we started out working towards. And yes, her crying and everything occured and she will chill down after awhile and we just keep going through this motion of argument, cries, make up S.
I am not into marriage with her, when I think about it, I have all these concerns that I am not going to put the rest of my life into.
Honestly we are not young anymore, she is in her mid 30s and me in my mid 40s.
How can I let her leave me alone
Here are what netizens think:
- Easy to invite people to your home.. Hard to chase them out.. U must be thinking of free sex and now u end up in this situation…
- U need to show her that you haven’t been using her (even if u have benefited fr free sex on call n housekeeping etc last 2 yrs).
- Show that she’s still respected as a human being- give her a reasonable deadline to move, help with the packing and/or the deposit for the new place, tell her tt u still care about her as a friend. No sex, or u r manipulating her into holding onto the heartstrings. (U would be TA then.) Let her know tt if she can be dignified about this, u guys still have a chance of staying friends, otherwise u will be forced to be very cold about this. Lastly, if u know her friend/family, get her social support network to rally around her during this time. If she has no friends (sometimes tts why they get overly attached n threaten suicide when their only emotional support abandons them), u can suggest counselling for her.
- Give her some notice and give her some compensation for your boat docking into her harbour.