My boyfriend initiated to break up because I have no fashion sense (I only wear dresses most of the time and to him my dresses look disastrous. The particular piece he criticized was one of my favourite and was from a blogshop; so how ugly looking can it be?) I would love to refresh my wardrobe and diversify my dressing style but I just can’t pass through the thought of spending few hundred on clothes. (I can’t bear to spend his money on clothes too knowing he’s not well to do)
Next, he pointed out that I did not put in effort to lose weight. I’m not obese but I did gain weight. The disgusted look on his face when describing my flabby underarms has been running through my mind. It seems clear to me that he doesn’t find me attractive anymore and appearance matters soso much to him.
I’m still holding on to this relationship because I find it pity to give up without trying to change. For now, I will do what I can – at least if it ends, I know I really tried. Silly to thought his love can overlook my lacking on those issues or maybe there’s no true feeling from the start. It feels so one-sided and I’m heartbroken.
Here is what netizen thinks:
- Why do you still want him? Where is your dignity and self respect babe? Someone has insulted you so much and you still want to hold on and try to change for him?? If he say you not as pretty as some influencer next, are u going to get plastic surgery to please him? Pls lah,” his love” ? There is no love left here but a lot of loathing. You should just give him a slap and leave with your head high.
- One can either find 1000 reasons to be together, or 1000 excuses to break up. You are the former and he is the latter.Even after your weight issue or supposedly fashion sense are resolved, he will still find other things to grumble about, because the heart is more or less set.Let me tell you if his heart is not set on break up, what will he do instead. Buy you a new dress to surprise you, go on fasting or exercising regime with you, compliment you on making effort. List goes on.