My mum has been playing the victim for as long as she could.
For context, I’m already 21. I have a lot of disputes with her since i was 15.
i was ra**** at 15 and all she ever cared was “You better clean up yourself. I don’t want to see you in a dirty manner ” in chinese. She went telling my auntie how “dirty” i was and everyone in the family looked at me differently since then. When she had a bad day at work, she would rant at me and i became the “anger management toy” for her.
She would kick and slap whenever she felt unhappy and when she is done, she act nothing happened and still had the cheek to ask if i was ok. When i ranted to my auntie, she sided my mum and told me how i could have acted differently. Last year,it turned out for the worst.
I went on a 3D2N staycation with my bf as it was our anniversary and my bf surprised me with it. She got so unhappy with it and threatened she would jump down. She called the hotel by pretending she was someone sending for “delivery” and asked under whose booking is this. I had enough of her nonsense so i stayed at my bf hse for a couple of months. She won’t stop texting and calling and then calling my bf mum. I went home afterwards hoping to talk, but she slapped and kicked again till my face bled.
I left home afterwards and vowed to never her again. When i left house, many things rose again. She started playing the victim and calling my auntie and everyone else. So then everyone else called me hoping i would head back talk to my mum once again. I then known from a close friend that actually had cheated on my father throughout my 21 years of my life but my father chose not to say anything to protect the marriage.
How do i stop from this shit happening. It’s been so tiring.