NSF FROM JC TOO GUAI ALREADY, WANT TO LEARN HOW TO BE “DISOBEDIENT” TO GET “RESPECT”

Can disobedience be taught or trained?

The context is that I learnt so much more about the value of disobedience in the army. I was one of those JC students who only does what I’m told, while I see the poly grads and ITE grads knowing when and what commands to ignore, and actually winning the respect of peers and commanders in the process.

It’s as if they knowingly disobeyed, and actually got more out of it for everyone.

Is there some kind of step by step guide to learn this? Some framework or heuristic? I’m starting to see it as an important skill for life, but where do I start without getting myself fired or worse?

Netizens’ comments

1. This is the most JC thing I’ve read, but I applaud you for wanting to improve yourself.
   I’d say instead of reading or learning specifically when to disobey, I’d say go read psychological books. Learn about the psychology of people.
   But if you’d still want to learn. Go read about this thing called transactional analysis. Specifically, the book “Games People Play”. Great book.
2. This is actually a really good question. I would say that what you consider disobedience might be people standing up for their principles or ethics that go against what higher authorities are commanding them to do.
   Standing up for what you believe in might be sometimes considered disobedience but it does garner you respect
3. This is just called street smart rather. You can learn through books, like some recommended, but the best way to learn is to meet different kinds of people and observe and just understand why they do things in a certain way.
   Im pretty sure if you ask those people how they learn those kinds of skills, they wont really know how to answer cos they just dont pick those skills up deliberately.
   For me, i just pick it up based on my interaction and observation with different kinds of people. And just unconsciously apply them.
4. Blind disobedience won’t gain you any respect except from scrubs. The one that you are talking about usually stems from disobedience because it goes against the values of a person. In essence it’s about standing up for yourself.