I cannot tahan seeing her Instagram stories anymore and pretending everything is normal. Throwaway account because we have too many mutuals and the Singapore circle is way too small.
I have this friend (let’s call her Chloe), she is 25 years old this year. Local university grad, working a standard CBD office job drawing maybe $4k+ a month. But if you look at her IG, you would think she is some crazy rich Asian heiress. Every weekend is a new $300 Omakase dinner, high tea at Capella, popping minimum-spend tables at Marquee, and randomly unboxing new Chanel and Dior bags.
How does she afford it? She is basically “selling” herself to a wealthy married man in his early 40s.
Let me drop the absolute worst part first: This guy’s wife is currently 7 months pregnant, resting at home. Meanwhile, the husband is out multiple times a week treating my friend to endless free drinks, fine dining, and luxury shopping sprees.
It gets worse. The guy actually went behind his wife’s back and rented a whole private condo unit in the River Valley area just for her. Ostensibly, Chloe tells people it’s for her to “have her own independence and move out of her parents’ HDB”, but everyone in our inner circle knows it’s basically their private love nest. He pays the $4,500 monthly rent just so he can drop by for his “sessions” after work without having to book hotels and leave a paper trail on his credit cards.
When I finally couldn’t take it and confronted her about the morality of this—especially the part about the poor pregnant wife—her logic completely stunned me. She just rolled her eyes and said, “Aiyah, please la. If he doesn’t spend the money on me, he will just go to Geylang or spend it on KTV girls anyway. At least I’m a local, I’m clean, and I can hold a proper conversation with him. Plus, I never force him to pay my rent, he offered!”
Honestly, hearing that made me sick to my stomach. It really made me realize something: nowadays, some of these “high SES” local Singaporean girls (SG bu) are absolutely no different from the stereotypical Thai or Viet bu that they always love to look down upon.
The only difference is the packaging and the vocabulary. The foreign workers hustle at KTVs and ask for flower garlands; the local SG bu works a normal desk job and asks for “sponsorships”, omakase, Cartier bracelets, and condo rentals. At the end of the day, the transaction is exactly the same. They are trading their youth and bodies to married men to fund a lifestyle inflation they cannot afford on their own merit.
It’s just so incredibly hypocritical. She acts so classy, judging normal guys on dating apps for not earning enough, but behind the scenes, she is willingly destroying another woman’s family just so she doesn’t have to pay for her own drinks.
Am I crazy for wanting to completely cut her off and maybe anonymously tip off the poor wife? Have you guys noticed this sugar baby lifestyle becoming totally normalized among local girls now?