I’m 18f have a gf who is also 18, (don’t judge) and we’ve been officially together for two years so far (even though we’ve had relations since school) and we both live in restrictive households.
My parents simply can’t love and support me in the way I need it and I’ve come to peace with that even though it’s hard dealing with them when big milestones come up. An example would be I’m trying to get a car before my new school year starts up which is in two months. They have used every excuse under the sun for not signing off even though they are not going to help me with payments and I’m responsible with money seeing as I have over $13k saved.
I have a plan of moving out during my second half of year 2 with my gf (we’d know each other for 4 years at that point and we’d both be 20) and Ik that seems rocky but I have multiple back up plans if things go left so I’m good. I’ve been looking just to get a list of yes and no apartments and if nothing changes in the next year and a half I know the best apartments to go to.
I don’t plan on telling my parents until last minute because my mom has a history of telling me I can’t work and messing with my money whenever she doesn’t agree with me and wants to pull a power move.
And if I want to move out and be stable I don’t need anyone messing with my money. Also, I know big arguments and anger will ensue and they’ll tell me to “not come back” “don’t call us if you ever need help” “your ungrateful for what we’ve done for you” etc. and I simply don’t want to hear that in the months leading up to the move for my sanity.
I might be the ungrateful daughter because I wouldn’t be giving them time to process it and because they would feel I am being sneaky about it.
Do you guys think what I’m doing is alright?