My cheating husband
I’ve been married for 28 years, 2 young adult kids and in 2018 I found out my husband who owns his own company is cheating on me with his secretary.
What started of as weekends in the office to “OT” then from another colleague i heard of their business trips together.
He has always traveled on his own and when I suggest to tag along he makes excuses so it’s clear to me now.
We fought very badly when I dug out more proof of his cheating! I even confronted that mistress of his but she denied everything and even mock me, she’s almost 20 years younger than me and I can’t compete at all as aged.
This mistress of his is even married herself and I even spoke to her husband but she is very good at denying everything so the husband is thinking I’m the “crazy boss’s wife”.
Fast forward to today my husband is still a good family man, he provides for the family but deep down I know they are still together as he still calls out her to her when he’s asleep. He is not as secretive as before but he is my husband I see through him.
I thought all was good and I was willing to live through his mistakes but a church friend recently texted me to say she saw my husband checking in to a hotel in town with a young woman(it’s obviously the same mistress as described ). I broke down secretly for hours but when he’s back home I just went about my day per usual as I can’t afford to lose him.
My kids encouraged me back then to divorce their dad but I couldn’t, he’s part of me I really am at my wits end knowing they are still doing funny things behind my back.
What can I do?
Here are what netizens think:
- Honestly, if you can’t swallow it down, gather enough evidence of his affair and file for a divorce and get all the alimony you can. There’s no such thing as can’t live without someone. You will manage and get through it. Just give yourself enough time to heal. With your kids all grown up, it’s actually a good time.
- 28 years. You’re too comfortable. He’s no longer secretive because you knew and yet didn’t leave him. Of course life will no longer be the same. Either continue to close your eyes and have him continue his affairs. (As long as he still has money, it won’t be just 1 affair, there will be more to come.) Or leave him. Choose 1.
- You should have maintained yourself better so your husband isn’t chasing younger women. Best to do the right thing and divorce him so he can marry his secretary.
- I feel sad reading this post because I think you can have a better life and one with dignity instead of putting up with this kind of pain n disrespect.