Our 3rd anniversary is coming up next month. Yesterday night, my wife dropped the bomb and said she expects a Louis Vuitton bag. Not a small cardholder or wallet, eh. An actual bag that costs at least $4,000+.
I am completely stressed out. We literally just collected our BTO keys three weeks ago. We are effectively half a million dollars in debt to HDB/bank at a minimum, and that is before we even touch interior design (ID) and furniture. The renovation quotes we are getting are all hitting $60k to $80k because everything in Singapore is so expensive now. Every single cent we have right now needs to be budgeted properly. Cash flow is super tight.
When I told her gently that we should skip luxury gifts this year and focus on the house, she started throwing a tantrum. She said an anniversary is a milestone, her friends all get luxury bags from their husbands, and that I am “failing to provide.” She even said, “The house is a long-term thing, but my youth is passing by.”
Wtf? I am losing sleep thinking about our home loan, the upcoming reno bills, and how to stretch our CPF and cash, and her priority is a branded piece of leather just to show off on Instagram?
Honestly, it makes me feel like a wallet rather than a partner. I look at her now and I seriously ask myself: did I marry wrongly? Where is the financial maturity? A bag means absolutely nothing if we are struggling to afford a proper sofa or fridge next month. Is peer pressure in SG really this toxic until people lose all sense of reality?
Am I being unreasonable here for refusing to buy it, or is she completely out of touch with our financial situation? Any other guys went through this during the BTO phase?