A netizen shared how his wife has an extreme rivalry with her step sister and wants to do better than her in everything.
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I know there are a lot trolls here, but there are a couple of legit pieces of advice as well. So here goes, this is my rant. I’m male, engaged, working a decent paying job, renting a decent condo with my fiancé. Nothing too fancy, but we have enough. The problem is my fiancé has some deep insecurity issues whenever she’s compared to her step-sis. Her dad remarried and she’s brought up by her step-mom, who instills a damn fierce sense of rivalry with her step-sis.
How did this become my problem? Cuz when the topic comes up, she will start comparing everything in our lives to her sis. Don’t get me wrong, I love her very much EXCEPT this part of hers. We gel well and everything is fine, but one hint of her sis will make everything blow up. She’s normally a strong career woman, who is economical and logical. But once her sis comes into a picture, suddenly she transforms into this materialistic monster.
Example: when we went for fam visit this CNY, I shivered when my sis-in-law arrived. This normally mild-mannered woman will suddenly compete with her step-sis about LV bags, jewelry, engagement ring, me to the sister-in-law’s husband. Then the bombshell reveal, my sis-in-law is pregnant. One look at my fiancé’s face, and I thought “oh no…”
Sure enough, when we went home, it became a huge argument. Why they can have kid already? Why her husband is a CEO’s son? Why are they living in luxury? Why her husband is earning close to 10k upon graduation?
Well sorry not everyone is born with a silver spoon in their mouth, some of us have to work from the bottom. We have enough and actually should be grateful that we’re pretty well off. If she wants to start trying for a kid, that can be arranged, I’m already saving up anyways. Plus it’s HER that says she’s not ready to have a kid yet cuz she wants to pursue her career first!! I’ve told her plenty of times if she’s that unhappy with me, she’s welcome to break it off, then she’s free to find a CEO’s son to leech off.
But it’s always the same story, the next day after a big argument, she would apologise and say that she’s actually very happy with me and loves me very much. Then she would return back to being normal and sensible. I’ve begged her time and again to go see a professional psychiatrist, cuz what her step-mom did to her definitely messed up her brain. And she does know she has this personality switch too. But she refuses cuz she’s too proud and doesn’t want to let her step-sis and mom found out it affected her this much…
I told her to stop following her step-sis on social media already, cuz that will make her more jealous. No, don’t want, want to have a fight on how I can’t compare up to the CEO’s son every time her step-sis post some new gift she got from the husband… haiz… Again, I love her when she’s in her normal mode, but I am toying with the idea of breaking it off cuz I don’t want to deal with this the rest of my life… sounds a bit selfish.. but is it? Am I selfish to be tired of constantly compared too? Or to not want to always burst out into a huge fight every time my sis-in-law got a new branded bag?
I tell my fiancé already, why does she have to compare herself to an obvious gold-digger? She would say s**t like “a woman’s success should not be measured by her man’s wealth”, but then complain why her step-sis husband is CEO’s son and I’m not? I’m all for women-empowerment but wtf???
Haiz… any legit advice? Other than talking with her? Cuz I did, we are actually a couple who communicates well when she’s not in her crazy mode.