My girlfriend asks me to dominate her, but it means “do all the work” and its ruined the bedroom activities between us.
Title sums it up good, but Ill add more detail. When my gf [23F] and I [22M] hook up she always wants me to “dominate” her.
But to me its started to feel less like her being submissive, and more like her being a pillow princess.
What she wants me to do is all of the work: hold her down in a certain way she likes but not too tightly as to hurt her, kiss her in all of her sensitive zones but in the way she likes or it tickles and turns her off, put some of my body-weight on her so she feels overpowered but not too much or its uncomfortable, etc.
I’d be less frustrated with this if I got something out of it, but I don’t. Us f-ing is basically just a full body workout for me except I have to be super aware to not hurt her and I can’t really do anything I want and it rarely ends in me finishing.
Lets also be real here shes the one who is dominating me, and no shade to you femdom folks, but this is a huge turnoff for me.
So at this point I basically just don’t want to sleep with her. Its no fun and a big pain and jerking off is more satisfying. What can I do in this situation if I have already talked to her about this before?
Netizens’ comments
- Sounds like you want different things. If she’s not willing to give in any way after you get her off then she’s not really any different to those selfish dudes who spaff in their partners and then immediately roll over and go to sleep without thinking to use their hands, their tongue, or a toy. I’d bounce.
- If you want to give it another shot, I think you can definitely say that you would like more XYZ or say you’d like to add some sessions where she is focusing on you in whatever way you like (if you make a specific request the way she does is she willing to give it a shot?), and see where that takes you.
- I’m having a similar problem with a partner and I can understand your frustration. It grows tedious.
- Might as well go to a cemetery and help yourself with a dead body
- Wtf is wrong with you man