How to get partner to take more initiative?
Have been with my SO for 14 years and co-habited for close to 8 years.
Throughout the relationship, I had been the one to plan for every single outing and celebration. On occasions that I don’t, nothing was planned
I pay and plan for holidays. I don’t mind paying, but both planning and paying all the time?? Makes me wonder why I don’t just holiday on my own
Housework minimal done by him, although he works regular hours and don’t OT much. I prepare his bfast and packed lunch. He will do more only if I specifically ask. And if I nag about it, he does more for awhile, maybe 1 or 2 weeks and then slack off again. Doesn’t pick up after himself and leave things lying around despite repeated reminders.
Overweight and cannot persevere through a long term diet change nor exercise plan. He’s not unfit but just lazy. Ask him to join me on my exercises but says too tough and too tired
Always find him playing game on Hp or sleeping when I get home. Sleeps in on weekends. Says wanna spend more time with me and enjoy spending time w me but doesn’t help me with more things so that we can free up time for an evening or weekend date.
Have tried many methods to motivate him but none worked in the long term. Any suggestions? He pretty much does whatever I ask but only if I open my mouth to ask and I mean having to do it every single time. So it’s not like I tell him I need my clothes ironed after washing then he will keep doing it. I have to ask him to iron every single time for each load, if u get what I mean