Losing my job has made my boyfriend show his true colors
I was fired from my job last Monday. My boyfriend of a little over a year gave me 2 weeks to find a new one, and I don’t know what he plans to do if I don’t find one by next Monday.
I’ve applied to probably 60 jobs since then and only heard back from 1 and that was just for the initial interview, which I completed on Thursday. I’ve yet to get an update from them.
Since last Tuesday, he has been cold toward me. Up until last night, he had stopped hugging me. He’s yet to kiss me again, even on the forehead. He’d quit tickling me until today, and he used to love tickling me. It was his favorite way to show affection.
I’ve sat him down three times since Saturday to tell him how I’m feeling — how stressed out I am, how he always disregards my emotions as me being “sensitive” and “dramatic, etc. — and to address that he seems checked out of the relationship and that it isn’t fair to me that he’s robbing me of affection at a time like this.
His defense is that he’s overwhelmed because he thinks he can’t keep both of us afloat “indefinitely” and that that makes it hard to be affectionate toward me.
He says I’m not being very affectionate, either, and that I “always seem to be in a bad mood.” Today, when I sat him down to talk again, he said he “doesn’t think it’ll ever feel right for either of us” and that we have nothing in common (he seems to find my interests vapid, meanwhile his are cooking and playing WoW), and apparently have different goals (he doesn’t have any goals besides moving up in the company his father owns).
I told him I’m doing everything I possibly can to make this work, but that he seems to want more from me and I don’t know what that is and asked him to tell me what he wants. He said he doesn’t know.
He also told me to “stop crying all the time and making [myself] miserable because it isn’t helping either of us.” I told him that he doesn’t seem to know how to emotionally support anyone other than his mother (he worships the ground she walks on, spends multiple days a week with her, calls her at least once a day, etc).