I (33F) am too ‘smelly’ for my bf (41M)
After 1.5 years of dating, the initial great (and often!) physical intimacy has come to a dry barren desert land…my confidence has dried up with it. Think tumbleweeds and animal carcasses.
No kisses, no touching and no intercourse. I even tried reinventing myself over the last few months trying to figure out the secret to getting him to fancy me again.
After some extreme dieting and the finding a hard landing at rock bottom for my confidence, I decided to ask him straight. “I got the ‘ick’ as you smelt a bit under your arms a few times when we were f-ing so I don’t want to do it anymore”.
I’ve never been told I smell, quite the opposite actually from friends…and strangers.
New insecurity unlocked.
I can’t see a strong relationship coming from no affection.
What do I do now?
Netizens’ comments
- I once read a story in here about a young man who was advised to tell his girlfriend she smelled. This would assure she was paranoid about her hygiene and would become insecure about it.
He wanted her to believe that no one else would want her. If I remember correctly, it was his own father that gave him this “advice”. So disgusting - Break up. It’s not even the smell thing, it’s that instead of communicating that you had a little BO so you could shower/clean up and get back to a healthy relationship, he just kept quiet and then withheld all affection until you broke and asked why. That’s a stupid way of him to handle a really minor concern.
- BO can be a serious turnoff, but if this was never an issue with anyone but him (and nothing has changed health or hygiene wise) this is a him problem.