friend drunkenly told my husband she is in love with him
I am so hurt. My husband and I, along with our two kids, rented an air bnb for the long weekend with a couple he has been friends with for years.
We have met up with them several times and it has always been fun. They have a 3 yr old son, so they’re our only friends with a young child, which makes it much easier to plan activities together.
Anyway…They have recently had marriage problems and the wife has been drinking heavily to cope. She was drunk when we arrived at the rental house, and I didn’t notice right away.
However, we put the kids to bed and began playing a card game, and things went bad quickly. My husband drew a card where he had to wear the next player’s underwear on his head (mine), and when he did this, she grabbed them off of his head and put them on her head.
She was saying they smelled amazing and her husband got visibly uncomfortable. We were all laughing, except her husband.
He got up without a word and went to their bedroom. We assumed he was coming back, and continued to play. She started rambling about how my husband is like a brother to her, and she promised she wasn’t trying to make me uncomfortable but she loves him.
Then, with a completely serious expression on her face, she started telling my husband she was in love with him. My husband and I were looking at each other like “wtf…”.
I was pretty drunk and couldn’t figure out how to react. At one point, I accidentally knocked over my wine glass and she got on the floor and was wiping up the mess. She didn’t get up from the floor and my husband bent down to ask if she was okay.
She started grabbing his arms and leaning toward him like she wanted to kiss him. My husband called out to her husband for help and when he came out of their bedroom, she was literally saying “I want to sleep with them”
He brought her to their room and my husband and I went to bed almost speechless. In the morning, she was saying over and over that she couldn’t remember anything.
Really overselling it, in my opinion. She apologized for whatever had happened after her husband told her, and I said it was fine. The rest of the trip was super awkward though.
She eventually sat down with me and said that seeing how great my husband is with me and our kids makes her feelings about her own marriage problems that much more obvious.
She said she would never disrespect our marriage and that she loves that my husband is with me. I told her I accepted her apology and I went to my room to be alone for awhile. It was a lot to absorb.
She started coming to the door and knocking, saying “I hope you’re not mad at me” over and over. My husband came in and she started knocking again, then was opening the door herself. My husband said “not right now”, to which she persisted trying to come in the room. She said “I just need to talk to her”, ignoring my husband completely.
Eventually she left and my husband and I talked about it. I told him I just felt weird and like there were no boundaries there.
Her behavior seemed unhinged and it was making me really uncomfortable. Like I could never accept her apology enough. I don’t know how to react to this situation. We were really good friends, and my husband has been friends with them since school.
Her husband doesn’t even seem phased by the situation, and I feel like I’m either overreacting or not reacting enough, if that makes any sense. I can’t figure out which.
My husband realizes how this makes me feel and also has trouble with deciding how the friendship will be going forward. Any input or advice is welcomed.