So long story short, I have a personal rule to never drink alcohol. I have a myriad of reasons from general health to honouring loved ones, but that’s not the point. The point is that I do not drink ever.

My girlfriend and I went to her family party and apparently, they have a tradition of everyone taking a shot to honour one of their dead relatives. Everyone does it at the same time and talks about what they’re thankful for and everything, but I told the person handing me the shot I wouldn’t drink, and he looked at me funny.

Her cousin pointed me out before they drank it and said I need a shot and I said no I’m ok I don’t drink and he said it’s just one shot and I said no I can’t but please continue I’ll just drink something else and they refused to start.

I ended up leaving after being egged on too much and my girlfriend apologized for me and we left. She did her best to defend me but her family is just stubborn. Everyone was talking about me apparently saying that I was selfish and that I was ruining the night.

It was just one shot but I’ don’t know, I couldn’t bring myself to do it.

Here are what netizens think:

• That’s very inconsiderate of them. You could be a recovering alcoholic or whatever. It’s never a good idea to push someone to drink alcohol. Never! And that’s coming from someone who likes to drink… Respect people’s boundaries!

• I mean, alcohol is such a weird thing to pressure people about. Or maybe it’s just me? In general though, the alcohol isn’t as important as the fact that they pressured him into doing something he doesn’t want to, with no regard to his boundaries. ‘No’ is a complete sentence. If they can’t respect that, pick a better tradition.

• Sometimes people feel threatened by the actions of others. For example: if a person likes to drink a little too much, they might feel subconsciously guilty about it. And other people not drinking holds up a mirror to their faces. But if everyone was drinking too, they wouldn’t feel so guilty about it. It is obviously not true for everyone, but sometimes it’s the case.

Im a woman in my 40s and I have 2 children with my ex “Mike”, including “jane” (f17). She is at the age to go to poly and she is in the midst of deciding where she wants to apply for.

We have been lucky enough to save a small education fund, totalling $50,000 for jane. When looking at schools she was interested in, I sat her down and talked her through the process + her fund. (Mike lives in at Pasir Ris but knew we were having this talk.

I told her how much she had and discussed different options. I told her how public schools are typically cheaper and more recognized compared to private schools, and how she might have to take out a loan if she chose a more ‘prestige school’ or didn’t quality for scholarships.

I told her that if she didn’t spend all the money on schooling, it would still be hers after graduation. I also brought up how staying close to home(We stay in woodlands) would save on living expenses if she didn’t want to travel so far. I wanted her to make an informed decision with all the facts, especially financially. Because of this, Jane has looked at applying for Republic Poly which is nearby.

Mike called me furious, saying that jane was considering a school close to where I live and that it was only because I had scared her into it by telling her she couldn’t afford other private schools and travel arrangements.

I told him I’d had an age-appropriate conversation about education, finances, and student debt with jane and she was making decisions that are in her best interest, not mine or his. Before this, jane had considered moving in with her dad as he lived within a short driving distance to Temasek poly which she wanted to go too.

Now she is apparently looking at other schools and isn’t as on board with that discussion anymore. Mike said that I had financially blackmailed her so that she wouldn’t go live with him, and that I’d only told her all these things to scare her financially.

er… there is a lot to unpack here I am 22 years old and he is 24. Last night I saw the Tinder app on his phone and asked to see it. He then rolled onto the floor and death gripped the phone to his chest and told me I couldn’t see his phone.

So I asked if the app is what I think and he said yes. So I’m crying and called my sister to get me. And once I leave his home he follows me and starts telling me that he was just looking for friends.

I ask again to see the app he says no I said well if I’m overreacting then there should be something to prove me wrong. Or some mention that he had a girlfriend or something. And he said no and I said so the conversation was more flirtatious and he says he talks to every girl like that and at that point, he’s crying and said if we are going to break up over an app that he wants me to know he loves me.

But then he said he was talking to someone but they’re just friends ( we also met on tinder. While he had a girlfriend ( I didn’t know )and we were just friends until they broke up)

and when I reminded him of that he immediately got extremely angry at me and told me to go pack my stuff and called me a crybaby. So I don’t know what else I’m supposed to think. He only showed me the messages ( only a few of them) after I left to my parents home. Now obviously I don’t believe any of this. They always say you lose them how you get them.

But I did download tinder and I found his account and it did say he was only looking for friends. We do live together. I’m not sure what to do about this.

Because even in the extremely unlikely off chance that nothing is going on, he still disrespected me by calling me a crybaby and pretending to be a victim.

Here are what netizens think:

• Yep, he is cheating. No question about it. If it were nothing or playing then he would have showed his phone. Clearly he isn’t emotionally ready for a committed monogamous relationship. Just understand that this is all about him and nothing about you.

• Look, even if his tinder said he was “just looking for friends” I’m calling BS. People who are looking for friends use apps designed for that purpose. Tinder is a hookup app. Regardless of what his profile says. I can make a tinder profile rn claiming I’m the virgin Mary. You still use tinder to hook up. That’s what it’s for.

• If he wasn’t cheating, he would just show you his profile and conversations.

So I’m a working part-timer that just got their results back and planning to quit. I told them I want to resign cause I don’t want to study and work at the same time, but the manager insist I continue working even I’m not willing to and that I can cut down my working hrs. ( I don’t think im going into a JC but ya)

She feels my reason to resign isn’t a good reason and tells me I should be able to commit more and this is never stated in the contract.

I really hate working here so I thought is a good chance to resign now but they reject me and are not going to approve my resignation, there is a week notice and I have planned my last working day but now I have to work another 2 more weeks.

I search online that is illegal to do so but the only way to resign is through the manager. Is there anywhere or someone I can contact to report, I can’t find any HQ number for the company.

Here is what netizens think:

• Resignation is not optional. Don’t show up for work and screen shot her rejection, make sure you get it in writing (email, text, etc). If she decides to go further, MOM would love to have a word with your employer.

• Also, if you think they might sue you, don’t worry their finance dept won’t approve the lawsuit budget and the legal dept will ROTFL at your manager.

• You dont need your employer’s approval to resign. Throw letter to make it official, and if they want to make noise its on them. Companies take advantage of employees not knowing their rights.

• Because employers try to guilt trip you into staying on if you’re not sure of your rights and have difficulty saying no so they won’t have to scramble to find a replacement

• Resignation is by an individual, stating their intention to terminate their employment with an employer. It cannot be rejected.