I need seriously urgent help guys! I’m a PhD student and recently I’ve been assigned a FYP student. She’s has seriously bad body odour. It’s only been 1 week but I can’t stand her smell anymore. I can’t bring it up to my prof cos I think he can’t do anything about it. I’m also afraid I’ll get into deep S that might get me expelled if I told her to shower and use deodorant before coming to office, and she would report me for harassment at work.

Right now her body odour has been severely trapped in my entire office, and I can’t perform my work tasks comfortably even when I return to work after office hour. Even if I get my prof to get other staff to supervise her, it still doesn’t help because she’ll still remain in the same office/lab. What’s the best way to overcome this situation without getting into trouble?

Thanks a lot guys. Urgent!!!

Here are what netizens think:

• If her BO is due to her personal hygiene choices, do you think by confronting the matter she will care about how u feel or what u smell?If her BO is due to something she has not control over, do you think by confronting the matter it will change anything?

• From the looks of it , it sounds like you are a guy and it’s a touchy subject. Maybe you can approach another female student that you are close to to kindly tell her

• since you are wearing a mask, put axe oil on tissue and place on your nose behind your mask.

• Be direct rather than enduring it. U can buy a deodorant as a gesture that you care for her well being . Just put across it tactfully. I believe she will appreciate you rather than feeling embarrassed.

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Are 170 cm + girls really that super common these days?

I am a guy of height 171cm and I find it kinda repugnant when I talk a walk along the streets and see these fellas roaming, be it in office attire or exercise attire. Whatever happened to the 160 plus or 150 plus ladies?

I remember back then in 2015, when I took a ride in the mrt during peak hours, the ladies will be mostly shorter and it is not common to see 170cm plus ladies. Today it is the opposite. I will be blocked by these ladies and I need to even count myself lucky if I can even see a shorter one.

To those reading this post, if you laugh at this I believe you are the fortunate 180cm + or 190cm +. Probably most of you here cant even relate to this kind of odd and left out feeling though.

(If any of you 170cm guys have grown taller using some medicine or surgery method, please let me know. I believe there is a way.)

End of rant.

Here are what netizens think:

• There’s a surgery to help increase your height by a couple of inches. Of course it entails deliberately breaking your bones, and a few months recovery period at least. But since you’re obviously insecure about your height, I’m sure you wouldn’t mind it

• Not our fault that you’re short (by your standards) AND evidently insecure. I also find it repugnant when men of such a combination walk down the streets, be it in office/exercise/informal attire.If women have to be short to cater for guys- lmao- why don’t you grow taller to accommodate??

• Don’t hate the player, hate the game. Don’t worry, it should be a short one for you.

• The only height that matters is your little brother

I’m 40F, with a well paying job, single with no commitments so money was never an issue. I don’t need a man to take care of me. I have no interest in settling down and the maternal instinct just never kicked in. I’m happy being single. I’ve had a few relationships over the years but never got to the proposal stage with a guy. Sometimes I do feel lonely. I also have friends with benefits and one night stands to ease through the times when I need some comfort. I feel that since I’m single I don’t need to answer to anyone about how I live my life.

Because of my interests and lifestyle habits, most of my friends are guys and most are married. I do talk about my S life with a few of them whom I’m close to. What I cannot stand is some of these wives of my friends openly show that they don’t like me.

Since covid I also feel like all these social contacts have been conveniently cut off by some of these women. I used to be one of the few females among the guys when we hang out. I’ve met their wives in the past but somehow never seem to blend in. I find this is ridiculous. Just because I choose not to settle down and bear children, I am being outcast. Why can’t I be friends with whoever I want without being judged? I did accidentally got a little too close to one of my friends but nothing happened. Nothing started so there was nothing to end. I didn’t think it was a big deal until I notice I was excluded a few times. Why is a little mistake amplified into such a ridiculous situation?

He got to keep our group of friends while I got kicked out. I knew these people for over 10 years and 1 little mistake completely wiped away my presence in the group while he get to behave like nothing is wrong.

Try being 40 and single before you tell me it’s easy to find new friends during covid.

Boss threatened to fire me for getting a second job am I in the wrong here??

I’ve been working at the same place for 5 years and have been a manager there for 2 of those years. I recently had a change in my financial situation that requires me to get another job because the job I currently have does not pay enough and will never pay enough.

At my current job I barely earn above minimum wage despite working there for 5 years, being a manager, and having most of the responsibilities and being expected to be available pretty much any day of the week whenever they need me.

I’ve asked my bosses for raises for the amount of work I do but they refuse to give me one. I also have brought up to them that they hold me to a different standard than other managers there and let the other managers do whatever they want and work as little as they want while expecting me to be available practically 7 days a week.

(We’ve literally had managers who will repeatedly no call no show with no consequences but when I do something like requesting a day off a week in advance they will guilt trip me for not working because “it’s an important busy day and we need you there we don’t trust any of the other managers like we trust you!)

This Wednesday I accepted a position at a new job that is full time and was still planning on working my current job which is part time and just working a few less days there a week.

I had already consulted the person in charge of making our work schedules about my change in availability and we were already working out who would be working the shifts I would be dropping.

On Friday I was planning on coming into work on my day off to tell my boss that I would be starting a new job and working a few less days a week but before I got a chance to come in, he heard rumors that I was quitting

(which ended up not even being about me – there happens to be another worker with the same name as me who also happens to be getting a second job right now which is a little weird but he ended up finding out about my new job because of that anyway)

then he went to the other managers and told them I was disrespectful for not giving him more notice and told them he was going to fire me and he was already making plans to hire someone else to replace me.

I had a meeting with my boss where we talked things over and he didn’t fire me but stands by his claim that I was disrespectful and unprofessional for not telling him sooner and for “telling everyone that works there about it aside from him and keeping it a secret from him” which is simply not true.

But am I in the wrong here??? Should I have given more notice than I did even though I wasn’t quitting and had already gotten the scheduling figured out with the person who makes the schedules and got my shifts covered for next week on the days that I need to go in to train for my new job?

There’s so much more I could say about the specific dynamics and ways me and other workers have been treated there over the years but that’s the gist of the situation right now.

I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months. He said he wants to date casually because he’s in the process of getting a divorce.

But he asks me to hang out probably 5 or 6 days a week. We’ve been very vulnerable with each other and are definitely sharing a connection. He invited me over to have dinner with him so he could cook his mom’s favourite meal, it was the anniversary of her death.

He tells me how wonderful I am all the time. He’s cried in front of me talking about vulnerable things. But he still says we are dating casually and he does not want to be monogamous. I am invested at this point. I have feelings for him that I may have never felt in my whole life. At this point, I feel like I am being led on or he just doesn’t know what he wants or feels. I want to communicate this to him but I don’t know how or when. His words do not match his actions. I can tell that he cares for me and feels the same connection that I do. I don’t want to give him an ultimatum. Maybe I should tell him I just need to back off for a little while? I dont know what to do.

I just sent him this text message – I need to take a step back here and establish a boundary. Your actions do not match your words (we are NOT dating casually) and I need to protect my heart.

His response: I understand. I do really like you and enjoy your company. I am not trying to confuse you or mess with your heart. I do actually think about you and how you are doing. I consider you to be a wonderful person that I like spending time with. Honestly out of anyone i have met on that silly app you are the only one i feel that way about. Me not wanting to commit has nothing to do with “getting laid” or wanting to date around. Relationship is exhausting.

I guess I should follow your advise as well. I don’t like the thought of you dating other people but I also know that I am still a basket case from my divorce. The last thing I want is to bring any of that baggage to you. It has been wonderful spending time with you and I guess that is providing (selfishly) me a level of comfort. Can we get together tonight or tomorrow and discuss in person? I feel like intentions get lost over text.

Then he just said he’s falling for me too. Now I’m so freaking confused.

How do I get more fluent/confident in doing dirty talk with my bf?

I’ve been with my bf for almost 4 months, and we sometimes/often dirty talk. I’m not very confident and often struggle finding the right things to say so usually just repeat certain phrases and reword them if necessary.

It’s not that I’m not interested, it’s just that I struggle coming up with things to say. I want to be more confident about it because I know he likes it when I’m confident and It would make me feel better.

He also recently told me that he likes the idea of being called ‘daddy’ but I just don’t know how to say that without feeling awkward about it (it’s not that I don’t want to say it, I just don’t know how to I guess)

Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can get better at this stuff?! I’m getting frustrated with myself for not knowing how to do this better

Netizens’ comments

1. Sounds like you need to get from 0-100 real quick in order to let loose. Find your kinks…what do you like and think about those things in action. You’d be surprised how dirty you can be when you’re extremely turned on.
2. If you are uncomfortable with daddy tell him that and you should never be forced to do something your uncomfortable with. Are you more comfortable with things like sir or master? Those might also work for him.
   Just like learning anything, research/studying and practice is the key. Reading stories online is a great way to get familiar with things to say and keep trying new things with him.
   With both of those points communication is very important. Talk about what worked for you, and what worked for him. During that post coital cuddle ask him what things you said that he really liked. Tell him what things he said that you didn’t really like.
3. Try whispering in his ear “rubbish bin”, because that’s very dirty.