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GF GOT DRUNK AND TOLD ALL HER FRIENDS ABOUT HOW BF IS LIKE IN BED

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My gf basically said a lot of uncomfortable things while drunk, i don’t know what to feel

So earlier today, my gf and I had a little party in her apartment where most of our closest friends are invited (we are more or less 30 persons).

We bought a lot of alcohol and foods but I didn’t drink that much because I need to go home because I have a major final exam tomorrow and I need the remaining hours before the exam for my final review.

All of us know that it was unfortunately scheduled that way that’s why I did not have a hard time convincing them that I really need to go. My gf said that she’ll update me by calling from time to time.

She did call to check me, and to give me assurance that she’s okay and having fun. I was glad because I know they were all having fun, until the latest call that we had.

She called and it seems like she’s a little drunk, but she can still respond to my questions properly.

After few minutes I heard her bestfriend ask questions about our relationship particularly in our activities in the bedroom . My gf answered all the questions with complete details, or maybe more.

I felt uncomfortable as they talk about the things that we do in bed. I asked her to stop, but she didn’t. Even our friends are stopping her for over-sharing but she won’t stop. She then dropped the call out of nowhere.

I felt that I am pissed because it was something that we agreed not to tell to other people, at least the way she did it. But I still don’t want to get mad because I know she’s drunk. I’m trying to understand her but I can’t dismiss this feeling that my boundaries were violated. I can’t focus right now tbh.

BF UNHAPPY THAT GF IS GIVING MONEY TO HER PARENTS, “DEAL BREAKER”

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Can someone give me some advice on what I should do? My bf and I are currently at the stage of discussing marriage and I know for sure this is the guy I want to marry. We had actually broken up several years back because he wanted to pursue his dream of working overseas and I wasn’t ready to leave my life here to go with him. We dated other people after that but none of those relationships worked out and now that he’s back for good, we reconnected and got back together as we realised we are the ones for each other.

Everything would have worked out perfectly if not for the fact that now that we are considering marriage, we start to talk about joint finances. Ever since I started working, I have been giving my parents money to help them out with the household finances. Being the eldest in the family, I know how hard it is on my parents to raise my siblings and I just on my dad’s salary and I really wanted to help them out so they don’t have to be so stressed about money. I don’t really spend a lot on myself and since I stay with my parents, all along I’ve been giving them at least half of my salary. On months when I get my bonus, I’ll give them more.

To my bf, he cannot understand why I need to give my parents money because he has never needed to do so. His parents earn quite a bit and are self-sufficient so growing up, they have never asked him for any allowance. Because of this, I don’t think he gets where I’m coming from and is very adamant that after we get married, I shouldn’t be using our joint finances to give my parents that same allowance. He also pointed out that now my siblings have grown up and are also earning money, my parents don’t have to depend on my money for a living anymore so I don’t have to continue giving them so much.

My bf makes sense but the thing is when I brought this up to my parents, they didn’t explicitly say that I don’t have to give them money but my mom will guilt trip me by saying that if they cannot cope, they’ll just take a loan from the bank and I don’t have to worry. When I ask them if my siblings are giving them allowance, she says they don’t and she doesn’t ask from them because they just started work and probably needs to use the money. When I talk to my siblings about this, they’ll just brush me off and give all sorts of excuses why they don’t even have enough money to use for themselves. I know the rational thing is to do as what my bf says but I feel emotionally trapped and a bad daughter if I don’t continue to give my parents money.

Can anyone tell me what I should do?

SHY 29 Y.O WOMAN NEVER HAD A BF BEFORE – “I’M TIRED OF BEING LONELY”

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I’m a 29-year-old woman who never had a boyfriend. I am tired of feeling lonely and miserable. I see my dreams of having a family fading away.

I’m 29. I’m a physician. I’ve always been a nerd, until the whole Ugly Duckling thing happened to me during puberty and I became what people call “a very attractive lady”.

I’ve always been worried about becoming a good doctor and a good professional. Perhaps that was my mistake because I spent way too many years of my life studying and trying to be great in college and university.

Thing is… Years have passed by, I was rejected for many men because yes I am shy, introverted and don’t smile that often, and I have never had a boyfriend, a proper date, let alone had someone tell me he fell in love for me. My love life is zero. NADA.

I feel like I am wasting my youth in stupid professional quests and the personal life I wanted to have is going away. I just want a family in the end. I want children. I want to love my children and teach them about the world. I want to have a husband and make him happy, I want him to leave work and think “I am so glad I am going home to meet my wife, that makes my day better”.

Yet I don’t have any of this. My ambitions are very simple and mundane, and yet I can’t have them. People say I intimidate men for being “too beautiful and too successful”. I can’t believe them. I just think I may seem to be a rude or a very desperate woman who repels men.

Before you talk about hobbies… I have tried basically anything to pursue my passions and hobbies. I have joined so many courses and activities I am exhausted now. I didn’t spend my life locked in the basement.

I have tried every possible course, class, activitie, hobbie I liked in order to meet new people. I speak multiple languages, I swim, I can cook, I have a MBA certificate, I’m a certified professional make up artist, I have taken photography and drawing classes. I have tried online dating, too. And it was an awful experience. 99,9% of men there only wanted casual hookups and weren’t that interested in me.

I am tired of all this. I am not asking much. Yet it seems that I can’t have these simple things I’m asking. I just want to have a FAMILY, that’s all. And it’s absurdly hard for me.

I sometimes see my mother looking at me with a pitiful look and it crushes me. She said it already, she said that she feels sorry for me.

She’s always asking “But isn’t there a nice guy where you work, a guy you could date?” I feel that my mother doesn’t talk much about it in order not to hurt me, but I feel she’s worried as well. And perhaps a little sad and disappointed.

My friends don’t even ask me about guys anymore. They used to ask, a few years ago, if I had met any interesting men. They have stopped asking this.

I’ll be turning 30 this year, and I couldn’t make my personal life work so far. In 30 years, I couldn’t meet the man of my life and couldn’t have a family. I couldn’t even have a proper date. I didn’t even have a guy ask me out.

I feel like a failure. Yes, I feel like complete shit.

I just wish I knew how to feel better about myself, while I don’t find anyone. It’s been a long time since I felt genuinely happy about myself.

GIRL DONT WANT TO WORK CAUSE SHE NO MOOD, WANT PARENTS TO FEED HER

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I (30F) have been working for so many years as a breadwinner. 5 years ago my mom died and my brother (25M) got depressed and lost the will to apply for work. I also got depressed but obviously, I have no one to lean on. My dad (61M) cannot work already. He is already physically very slow but will cook for you. My partner (41M) after on and off breakups (it is in my history but I gave him last chance now) has not gotten lucky in having work for 3 years. Now I currently lost my wonderful job due to the recession. My last day would be on August 6.

I have been burned out (my company is very kind) due to me being the sole breadwinner and most of the time doing chores as well. Everyone except my dad has not yet known that I will be out of work. I wanted to rest, heal, and move on. I lost the motivation to find work again. I have not saved a single cent and all my big travel goals have not yet been met.

My brother somehow understands me and said I can have a loan first to move on. But you know I have not heard, “I will apply for work for now”. Something like that. My partner said I can rest for a month but he is pleading that I work after so he can have his business working while I support him financially. He promised that he will return all this favor with money and time (it means I do not have to work if the business grows). He is starting it now but is very far from making it grow yet. That he is doing it for us and so the relationship will not be affected. He said if he can only land a successful job (he will not let me work) but so far none got him yet. I feel like Im wrong when turning this down. It is not like I am being supportive but I have been dragging myself to work already. I can’t even stay on the PC for long due to not having any motivation.

My dad might be shocked by the news. I don’t know but I am expecting he will understand.

I wanted to rest even for just 3 months. I am no longer motivated. My mental health is suffering I guess. I just want my parents to feed me.

If I tell them that I will rest whenever I want so that I can regain my motivation? And that they should just let me be.

GIRLS FOUND QUIET GUY “BORING”, NOW CALLS HIM “THOUGHTFUL” AFTER HE EARNS $200K/YR

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A netizen shared how he is quiet and introverted, and girls found him boring because he thinks about what he says carefully.

However, after he started earning $200k per year, the same girls are now calling him “introspective” and “thoughtful”.

Here is what he said

A few years ago, alot of girls hiam me because they say I am quiet, introverted and boring person just because I think about what I will say carefully.

Now I am earning 200K per annum, those girls say I am introspective and thoughtful when I speak. Money talks

Netizens’ comments

  • Those are not true friends..True friends will say the same thing regardless of your wealth
  • That, and you elevate humble bragging. 
  • Money is king in this world… People say money is not everything.. Honestly money is everything and money talks.. Money is evil too..
  • Just wondering if you are a quiet person, how do people even know how much you earn. Is it the first thing you say is always “I earn 200k per annum”? Hmm…

GIRL WITH ANXIETY DISORDER SAYS SHE FEELS BAD FOR GIVING HER BF ATTITUDE

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I have anxiety. I didn’t know I have been living with it until I was in my 20s. I’m now dating a really nice guy for the past 9 months but I realise my anxiety is causing him a lot of hurts.

I had a toxic 3-year relationship that really amplified my anxiety and I started going to therapy after we broke up.

I have always been overwhelmed by negative thoughts and in every situation, I would always think of the worst-case scenario so I can be one step ahead as I don’t want to be hurt.

Coming back to my current relationship, while he is nice he doesn’t understand the anxiety.

He finally told me he had enough as I would get overwhelmed and lash out during disagreements when I feel my feelings were invalidated. I would say the meanest things to push him away unintentionally or just say out my feelings which I don’t even know if it real or if it just my anxiety. And it has affected him a lot. I get anxious at a lot of things, such as forgetting an important matter it causes me a lot of stress and he said it stresses him out too.

Even with a year of therapy, anxiety is not something I can manage perfectly and it’s affecting my relationship. I have been reading, I know it’s not intentional and I know my anxiety will never go away.

I do know and realize I need a partner who can fully empathize with my condition, I tried to share my feelings with him, but he told me tried to bear with it and he told me he can’t stand it anymore.

Even when I’m single, having anxiety makes me feel unlovable and negative and unaccepted by society. Although I can put on a good mask for my day to day at work and my friends, whom I am extremely thankful for who assures me when I’m having an anxiety attack, I was able to feel better.

I don’t know if there’s someone out there who can fully accept my condition and support me in my journey or is everyone just going to be pushed away by me when my anxiety acts up.

I really don’t know and I wish I had a choice to not have this and I really have this thought that I’m too much of a burden for anyone.

MAN ADMIRES HIS BOSS WHO ALWAYS “DISAPPEAR” FROM THE OFFICE

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I really admire my boss. He is my number one idol. In all my years of working, I have never met anyone like him who earns so much but yet does so little.

Whatever he can tolak, he will tolak. Whatever he can siam, he will siam. Whatever he can ignore, he will ignore.

Master of evasion

When everyone is working OT in the office, he will just carry his bag and walk out loudly and proudly with a smile. You can tell he is not paiseh at all because he will eye contact everyone and tell them to jiayou. He’s so cool leh. He really has reached those zen level where he gives zero fucks about what people think about him.

And most of the time he’s not even in the office. We think he is probably attending other meetings with clients or what but who can confirm? I heard from his secretary that he will sometimes cancel these meetings last minute because he has other things to “attend to”. Nobody knows what these things are but he’s the boss ma, who will dare to question him? That’s what a successful boss should be like. With or without you, your team still can function. Gone are the days where the leader needs to chiong with his men.

Only stupid leaders do that. Smart leaders chill somewhere and enjoy the profits while making their guys work. Why work hard when you can work smart or even better still, don’t work? I wish one day I will reach his level. He really is godlike.

Here are what netizens think:

  • It sounds like your boss has mastered the art of delegation and prioritization, albeit in an unconventional way.
  • Your boss seems to know how to delegate tasks effectively, only taking on what is necessary for him to handle personally and passing off the rest to his team. This allows him to focus on high-level responsibilities while trusting his team to handle the day-to-day operations.

1 DEAD, 4 BURIED IN RUBBLE AFTER LANDSLIDE IN CAMERON HIGHLANDS

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A devastating landslide occurred in Malaysia’s Cameron Highlands on Jan. 26, resulting in the loss of one life and leaving four others potentially trapped beneath the rubble. The incident, which unfolded in the serene surroundings of Blue Valley, sent shockwaves through the region, prompting swift response efforts from emergency services and government agencies.

Distress Call and Response

The Pahang Fire and Rescue Department (JBPM) sprang into action upon receiving a distress call at 2:51 a.m., alerting them to the landslide in Blue Valley. Despite the challenging terrain, nine firemen were swiftly deployed to the scene, equipped with the necessary gear to navigate the rugged landscape. Traversing a three-kilometer stretch on foot, the firefighters encountered arduous conditions as they made their way to the site of the disaster.

Victims and Casualties

Among the victims of the landslide were five individuals from Myanmar, one of whom tragically lost their life in the calamity. As rescue efforts intensified, three men and one woman remained unaccounted for, feared to be buried beneath the debris. The search and rescue operation, spearheaded by JBPM’s elite STORM team and K9 units, continued unabated in a race against time to locate any survivors.

Search and Rescue Operations

With every passing hour, the urgency of the rescue mission grew, with specialized teams employing advanced techniques to comb through the rubble. Despite the formidable challenges posed by the unstable terrain, responders pressed on, driven by a shared determination to bring closure to the families of the missing individuals.

Public Works Ministry Assistance

Public Works Minister Alexander Nanta Linggi expressed profound sorrow upon learning of the landslide, pledging support from the Public Works Department (JKR) in the ongoing operation. While the affected area fell outside the jurisdiction of JKR, the department played a crucial role in facilitating access for rescue teams by clearing the landslide entrance.

Community Response and Support

The tragedy elicited an outpouring of solidarity from both local authorities and residents, who rallied together to offer assistance to those affected by the disaster. From makeshift shelters to donation drives, the community mobilized resources to provide relief to the survivors and their families in their hour of need.

Causes and Precautionary Measures

An investigation into the causes of the landslide shed light on various factors, including heavy rainfall and unstable terrain, underscoring the need for proactive measures to mitigate such risks in the future. Heightened awareness of environmental vulnerabilities prompted calls for stricter enforcement of regulations governing land use and development in landslide-prone areas.

Impact on the Region

Beyond the immediate human toll, the landslide had far-reaching implications for the region’s ecosystem and infrastructure, underscoring the interconnectedness of natural disasters and urban planning. The need for comprehensive risk assessment and infrastructure resilience strategies emerged as pressing priorities in safeguarding vulnerable communities against future calamities.

Government Initiatives and Policies

In response to the disaster, government authorities redoubled their efforts to bolster disaster preparedness and response mechanisms, emphasizing the importance of cross-sectoral collaboration and public-private partnerships. Enhanced early warning systems and community-based disaster management initiatives formed key pillars of the government’s strategy to build resilience in the face of natural hazards.

Lessons Learned and Future Preparedness

The tragedy served as a poignant reminder of the unpredictable forces of nature, prompting a collective reckoning with the imperative of proactive risk mitigation and disaster preparedness. From investing in resilient infrastructure to fostering a culture of safety awareness, the lessons gleaned from the landslide underscored the need for sustained efforts to build a more resilient society.

International Cooperation and Assistance

In a display of solidarity, international organizations and neighboring countries extended their support to Malaysia in the aftermath of the landslide, offering expertise and resources to aid in the recovery efforts. The spirit of collaboration exemplified the shared commitment to collective security and disaster resilience in the face of global challenges.

Media Coverage and Public Awareness

Media coverage of the landslide played a vital role in raising public awareness about the risks posed by natural disasters, prompting conversations about preparedness and response strategies. The dissemination of accurate information and timely updates served to empower communities to take proactive measures in safeguarding themselves against potential hazards.

Environmental Impact Assessment

An environmental impact assessment conducted in the wake of the landslide revealed the extent of ecological damage inflicted upon the surrounding landscape, highlighting the need for ecosystem restoration and conservation measures. Efforts to rehabilitate the affected area and mitigate future environmental risks formed an integral part of the recovery process.

Psychological Support and Counseling

Recognizing the profound emotional toll inflicted by the disaster, authorities prioritized the provision of psychological support and counseling services to survivors and affected families. Access to mental health resources and trauma-informed care emerged as essential components of the holistic response to the crisis, ensuring that individuals received

CATERING COMPANY SUSPENDED AGAIN, PREVIOUSLY 92 FOOD POISONING CASES

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The Singapore Food Agency (SFA) has announced the suspension of KG Catering Pte Ltd, located at 171 Kampong Ampat, for a period of two weeks starting from Jan. 23 to Feb. 5, 2024. This decision comes as a result of the caterer’s licensee accumulating 12 demerit points within a 12-month period, triggering the suspension under the Points Demerit System.

Reasons for Suspension

KG Catering was fined a total of S$3,000 for two offences that collectively incurred 12 demerit points. These offences included failure to maintain licensed premises free of infestation and engaging in the sale or preparation of food in conditions where contamination was likely. Each offence carried six demerit points, leading to the suspension.

Past Incidents and Fines

This is not the first time KG Catering has faced suspension. Previously, from Nov. 9, 2022, to Feb. 11, 2023, the caterer was suspended for hygiene lapses, during which it was linked to 92 food poisoning cases between Sep. 20, 2022, and Mar. 11, 2023. On Nov. 1, 2023, KG Catering was fined S$6,000 in relation to these incidents.

SFA’s Stance and Action

SFA emphasized its serious stance on such offences and reiterated the importance of adhering to good food and personal hygiene practices by all food operators. It reminded operators to only engage registered food handlers and warned of firm action against violations of the Environmental Public Health Act.

Public Advisory

In the interest of maintaining high food hygiene standards, SFA advised the public against patronizing establishments with poor hygiene practices. The agency encouraged the public to report such establishments through its online feedback form or by calling the SFA Contact Centre at 6805 2871.

Conclusion

The suspension of KG Catering reflects SFA’s commitment to upholding food safety standards in Singapore. By taking decisive action against offenders, the agency aims to safeguard public health and maintain consumer trust in the food industry.

FAQs

  1. Why was KG Catering Pte Ltd suspended by the Singapore Food Agency?
    • KG Catering was suspended due to accumulating 12 demerit points over a 12-month period under the Points Demerit System.
  2. What were the offences that led to KG Catering’s suspension?
    • The caterer was fined for failure to maintain licensed premises free of infestation and for engaging in the sale or preparation of food in conditions where contamination was likely.
  3. Has KG Catering faced suspension before?
    • Yes, KG Catering was previously suspended for hygiene lapses and was fined for its involvement in food poisoning cases.
  4. What action does the Singapore Food Agency take against violations of the Environmental Public Health Act?
    • SFA takes firm action, including fines and suspensions, against offenders found to violate the Environmental Public Health Act.
  5. How can the public report establishments with poor food hygiene practices to the Singapore Food Agency?
    • The public can report such establishments through SFA’s online feedback form or by calling the SFA Contact Centre at 6805 2871.

S$1 IS NOW RM 3.53, MONEY CHANGERS OFFERING UP TO RM3.49

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The recent surge in the exchange rate between the Singapore dollar (SGD) and the Malaysia ringgit (MYR) has captured the attention of many individuals. With the SGD reaching unprecedented highs against the MYR, there is a notable influx of individuals flocking to money changers to capitalize on this favorable exchange rate. This article delves into the factors influencing these exchange rate fluctuations, recent trends, predictions by experts, and the implications for consumers and the economy.

Factors Influencing Exchange Rate

The demand for the Malaysian ringgit is notably heightened during the lead-up to the Chinese New Year period. Singaporeans often venture across the border to Malaysia to indulge in festive shopping, while Malaysians employed in Singapore seek to exchange their earnings to facilitate visits to their families back home. This seasonal surge in demand exerts upward pressure on the exchange rate, resulting in the strengthening of the SGD against the MYR.

Current Exchange Rate Trends

The exchange rate between the SGD and MYR has experienced notable volatility in recent days. From hitting a remarkable high of S$1 to RM3.5343 on Jan. 23 to surpassing that threshold with S$1 to RM3.5411 on Jan. 24, the fluctuations have been substantial. Despite this, the rate has since moderated to S$1 to RM3.527 as of Jan. 26. Insights from money changers suggest that the favorable exchange rate is anticipated to persist for several days, with adequate supply to meet the heightened demand, especially during the festive season.

Exchange Rate Predictions

Financial experts have weighed in on the future trajectory of the SGD-MYR exchange rate. Saktiandi Supaat, Maybank’s regional head of foreign exchange research and strategy, foresees the SGD maintaining its strength against the MYR in the coming month, potentially reaching S$1 to RM3.50 by the end of the first quarter of 2024. Similarly, Peter Chia, senior foreign exchange strategist at UOB, anticipates the rate stabilizing around S$1 to RM3.42 by the end of the year. These predictions are influenced by various factors, including anticipated interest rate cuts in the United States.

Monetary Policy and Exchange Rate Stability

The Monetary Authority of Singapore plays a pivotal role in ensuring exchange rate stability through proactive monetary policy measures. By monitoring core inflation figures and adjusting exchange rate policies accordingly, the authority aims to mitigate the impact of external economic fluctuations on the domestic economy. This approach is crucial in safeguarding the purchasing power of consumers and maintaining price stability amidst shifting global dynamics.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the recent surge in the SGD-MYR exchange rate underscores the interplay of various economic factors and seasonal trends. While the current strength of the SGD against the MYR presents opportunities for consumers, it also reflects broader economic dynamics and predictions for future trends. As stakeholders monitor these developments, the role of monetary policy remains pivotal in ensuring exchange rate stability and fostering economic resilience.