Ever since I got laid off in Dec last year, I haven’t been able to find another job.

At the start I admit it could be because I only wanted jobs that could match my previous pay and job scope but even after I lowered my expectations and applied for any job that I thought I could do, none of the companies wanted to hire me as they found me too “expensive”.

I told many of them I don’t mind a paycut, but I didn’t hear back from them and when I called back to enquire on the application status, a few told me that they could easily find someone else “cheaper” who could do the same job. When I heard this I felt really upset and infuriated. Why am I being penalised for excelling at my work? If I hadn’t work so hard to climb up the ranks, would I still have my job?

Even if I didn’t and had to find a new job, would I be subjected to such scrutiny and questioning? Many of my peers eventually start a business of their own when they reach a certain level because they simply can’t stand working for someone else but I like being a salary taker and am willing to offer my services for less.

So why is it so hard for me to do that?

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s just how they think here; don’t let it get you down. Keep going.
• Same situation here. People think that I’m too expensive too and disbelieve I’m willing to take a cut too. Been asking myself being so high up also has it’s problems finding a job too. Sigh…
• *Try Think critically about this ?!!! Know what’s a cleverly designed system and/or scam?!!!

I am a girl, and I have been out to clubs many times in my life.

I’ve seen firsthand the way that guys spend large amounts of money on drinks in order to impress girls. But even after spending all that money, nine times out of ten, they end up going home alone.

It’s a sad truth that so many guys think that buying drinks for a girl will make her like them. But the truth is that it doesn’t work that way.

A girl will not be impressed by a guy simply because he bought her a drink. In fact, it can often have the opposite effect. Buying a girl a drink can make her feel like she is being objectified and that the guy is just trying to buy her attention.

This is why it’s important for guys to understand that the key to impressing a girl isn’t about buying drinks or expensive gifts. It’s about making genuine connections and showing her that you are genuinely interested in getting to know her. A simple conversation can go a lot further than a drink ever could.

I also think it’s important for guys to understand that not all girls are out to be impressed by their money or lavish gifts. Many girls don’t want to be seen as objects and don’t want to be judged by how much money they have. Instead, they want to be judged by their personality and character.

So if you’re a guy who’s out at the club with the intention of impressing a girl, then you should focus on having meaningful conversations and getting to know her. Don’t make it all about buying drinks or giving her expensive gifts. Make it about getting to know her and making a genuine connection.

And if you’re a girl who’s out at the club, then don’t let yourself be taken advantage of by any guy who’s trying to buy your attention. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and say no if a guy is trying to buy you drinks or give you expensive gifts. Don’t let yourself be taken advantage of by someone who is only interested in your money.

So next time you’re out at the club, remember that buying drinks isn’t the key to impressing a girl. It’s about making genuine connections and showing her that you are interested in getting to know her. And if a guy is trying to buy your attention, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and say no.

My sister recently decided to hire a maid for our family. All of us are working adults and we just wanted someone to manage the household chores and cooking.

Before I go on to share about the maid issues, I’d like to give some background info about my sister. She has extreme issues with insects and finding them in her food in particular.

I think it all started when she accidentally ate half of the worm in her vegetables and vomitted on the spot. Ever since then, she’d seldom order vegetables outside. Instead she would personally wash, clean and cook the vegetables herself for the family to eat.

I kid you not when I say she washes the vegetable stem and leafs one by one.

For the hiring of the maid, she was the one who did the searching and interviewing while I simply accompanied her. During the interview with the maid we eventually hired, she asked the maid if she knew how to wash vegetables thoroughly. Of course the maid said yes.

She then shared with the maid about her trauma with finding insects in vegetables and that she really wanted someone who is as thorough as her when it came to washing and cleaning. Again, the maid reassured her that she could the job.

So my sister told her that if she found an insect in the vegetable, the maid would be required to eat the insect as punishment for not washing it properly. I’m not sure if the maid was desperate or confident , but she agreed to my sister’s terms and signed a separate contract for this particular condition. Incase you’re wondering,  the offered salary was $800.

Not even 1 month into working for our family, the dreaded scenario happened. My sister really found a worm in her vegetable during dinner. Enraged and disgusted, she ordered the maid to eat the worm infront of her. We tried to dissuade her in vain and the maid really ate the worm.

Few days later, the maid threatened to report my sister to MOM and refused to work. She said she wants a transfer or my sister would get into trouble. Thing is, apart from this wormy incident,  everyone including my sister has treated the maid really well.

Question is, can my sister get into trouble? Can we just repatriate her and close this chapter without getting the authorities involved? Can the maid really do anything?

Do I have the right to be as upset as I am or is it pregnancy.

I started my current job in April of last year. This lab was not fully functional and part of my job was to help them establish how things would work.

Organize processes & help them to build our new lab. This company is building a new quality/commercial lab. This is something I was made aware of before starting. In June of last year we pick up how much testing and work we were doing.

So they had part-time helpers in the lab. When introduced around the company and to other companies, I was introduced as the lab mgr. My lab coats say lab mgr. They took me out of Singapore to other labs to get ideas for the new lab I was called lab mgr.

I had to wait until June of this year for me to get my raise, due to it being when our reviews are company-wide. I never pressed for an official title change I thought would come with the new lab.

In the last four months We have two new employees. They just graduated university. So, here is where my hormones may be affecting my thoughts. I have pestered my boss for my review, partly because of the raise he said I would get,(He said significant raise)I wanted to know how I was doing, and to ask about my title change. A couple weeks before he submitted it, late. He let me know they hired a lab mgr. He said I still would have a big roll in the lab, that I deserve it and have worked very hard and they see that. He said she would be taking his roll, but mgr. title. So I asked him if I then would be the assistant mgr.?

He said yes. That changed again when he finally submitted my review. (I scored very high with no bad remarks) My raise was definitely not significant more like an average company wide raise. He let me know my title would be lab supervisor. It took me awhile to readjust. My new “office and title” were taken. People within the company kept asking me if I am leaving after having my baby. Or if I had been demoted like I had done something wrong. Even though I keep being told how “great” I am running the lab.

I ask for a bigger raise. I get it no problem. Just to then find out my title will no longer be lab supervisor, or assistant mgr, or mgr. Now I am a team lead. This position they expect the other girls, the ones I have been teaching and training and managing will acquire within the year due to their degrees. (I never completed mine, they knew this hiring me, and promising me the lab mgr. position)

Now, I get the feeling from my new boss that I will never get that opportunity due to my lack of my degree. I have plenty of lab experience, I have been the one running this lab for over a year, working my butt off. Working more hours then asked. Even though I took this job to have more time with my family. I feel like it’s all being taken from me. I am not sure if it’s hormones or ego or a mix of both.

I loved this company and part of me really still does. However, I can’t help but feel like I am getting walked all over.

I’m breaking up with my boyfriend because he said I dont know how to blow him.

Dont ask for head and then when I( 20F)give you head you tell me I’m using too much teeth .

This man(22M) literally screams “AAAaaAahhh” every second. “You’re hurting me” “that hurts” or “girl….your teeeeth ”

i apologize to him when he says I’m hurting him and start back and he enjoys it for a second and goes back to crying.

One time he even pulled his pants up in the middle of it basically forcing me to stop and drove to get some food.

and It hurts me because I want him to enjoy it, I’m insecure about it and It got to the point I dont even want to get intimate with him anymore.

He then texted me that he wanted to get naughty with me today and we got into a little argument and he said “well maybe ill only want head if you actually knew how to do it right”

this hurt my feeling and I cant believe he said that . I’ll be breaking up with if I cant please him I’d rather not be with him he can find somebody else.

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I just moved and staying with my brother until I can find my own place to rent. I don’t have much friends aside from him and some people I have met a work.

Most of the people I have met have been through my brother including a guy “Jason” that I started developing feelings. They work together and he sometimes comes over to his after work to hangout.

A netizen shared how he started getting intimate with his girlfriend recently and that he is too nervous to the point where he can’t “get it up”.

Here is the story:

“Recently started to get intimate with my GF. And I realize that I may have an issue of getting it hard with her.

It’s not that I’m not attracted to her but I think it’s got to do with the nervousness that I have when she is being intimate with me.

Do y’all have any tips about this issue? Thank you in advance for reading this”

Editor’s note: I suggest a trip to the doctor, or Tongkat Ali.

Underinsured for insurance? Looking for investing options for midterm too.(3-5 years)

I have just started working in my current company since May. It has a group term life, group personal accident, hospitalisation insurance coverage for all full time employees that you can choose how much to cover from 12x to 48x of your monthly salary. With me being cheapskate and wanting to claim more on flexible benefits, I opted to downgrade from the default 24x monthly salary to 12x monthly salary coverage for term life insurance so that I can get an additional $200+ in flexible benefits that I can claim for items such as dental treatment, spectacles, medical checkup etc. I am thinking if I should continue like this for the next year and so on.

Currently I am paying $500++ in total yearly for a Great Eastern term life and hospitalisation insurance covering death, total and permanent disability, hospitalisation and surgical coverage. I am in the lookout for something that is much cheaper that I am currently paying right now as the term insurance has a coverage of $200k but I am thinking to downgrade to something cheaper like FWD insurance which has a term life policy of paying $13.70 for $100k coverage till 70. Funny thing is right I can afford to have a higher coverage with my current pay but I don’t want to increase my coverage and want to stick to what I am having now. Probably because my father used to tell me that insurance is a waste of money so that idea stuck with me till now ?

My current take home pay is ~$3700 after CPF deduction, after giving my parents $1000 allowance I would invest $2000 into a ETF that I am investing for long term. In addition I would also park $1000 into various 6 months and 1 year T-bills and fixed deposits so I am looking at something that can cover me for the next 3-5 years.