A netizen shared how because he goes to the gym “quite a bit”, his chest is bigger than his girlfriend and he is wondering if he should break up with her.

Here is the story:

“Hi guys, I need some genuine advice. Am a dude in my early 20s and in a relationship for abt 2 years.

She is kind and I appreciate her character and our chemistry. But there is one thing that is bothering me greatly.

Though I have not seen it, I am super bothered by the fact that my GF’s chest seems smaller (super flat) compared to my chest (I gym quite a bit + naturally big chest ).

I know we should not be superficial and ought to look beyond physical beauty and bodily imperfections but I am afraid that I will not be aroused (or even make her feel inadequate) when we sleep together in the future.

What should I do? Should we talk about it? Should we break up?”

Editor’s note: Dude, are you serious…

Okay so let me start this off by saying we do NOT have a fecal obsession or anything like that.

However, I do have a lot of stomach issues. If I eat a single grain of rice I’ll immediately have to use the bathroom. So I’ve limited myself to one meal a day.

My boyfriend knows about my stomach issues. Sometimes when we are doing the deed, especially when doggy style (which is unfortunately his favorite), I find myself either having to slightly pull away or clench because it feels like he’s screwing the poop out of me quite literally.

Even if I don’t eat for the entire day it’ll still happen. I thankfully haven’t had an incident yet but I’m terrified I will.

I it rough in bed so I don’t want it change, but even sometimes in missionary he’ll hit something in there and it HURTS.

I’ve never had this problem with anyone else and he’s about average sized maybe slightly longer but that hasn’t affected me before.

I don’t know how to tell him nor do I really want to but it definitely kills the mood sometimes when all I can think about it not pooping myself.

This is absolutely embarrassing to admit but I had to say it to someone

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My(31f) BF(30m) convinces himself he’s bought me things that I bought with my own money.
Been dating this guy for just over a year and he’s really nice and we get on well.

Before we started dating he seemed to flaunt his high paid job and bought me expensive gifts like a soup maker and printer, just because we’d briefly talked about them at some point.

It felt like love-bombing so I thanked him but also mentioned that they were a bit much and I’d like to spend time together instead of have large gifts, so he didnt buy me any more and we started dating, our dates were based on enjoying each others company instead. This was perfect.

We split dates 50/50 taking in turns to go up and get drinks and splitting food, and occasionally treated each other to small things over the past year. This was all great.

However, over the past year he keeps bringing up times he got me gifts in the past, which wouldnt be too bad… but a lot of the stuff he ‘remembers’ getting me, he never did.

For example, we were watching something and a girl said “I feel I owe it to the guy to sleep with him if he pays for our dates” My boyfriend made the comment “Oh I hope you didnt feel that way when i was paying for all of our dates For the first 6 months.” This confused the heck out of me, because our dates were always 50/50. Also we only went to cheap bars because neither of us like restaurants.

I mentioned a video game that I was really excited for and remember going to the store and purchasing on the date it came out (it came with a free gift) He said ”Oh yeah I remember buying you that.“ And I argued that he didnt buy it me, he said “I definitely did.” I had to show him the free gift, which he didnt remember and get up on google that the game came with the gift, before he would believe me.

We went overseas on a trip which he booked but i sent him half the money for, he keeps bringing up the time “he took me on a holiday” and is insistent that he paid for it all.

The final thing that I found weird as heck is, he made a comment in front of my brother. We were talking again a bout a video game that we are playing through together (hes got his own file as well, this ones just for fun) where he does the missions and I spend the in-game money on dumb stuff like hats. He made the comment that ”It’s just like real life, I make all the money and she spends it all.” And I have NO idea where this came from. We both work full time, we don’t combine finances, we don’t live together, and I hate shopping and barely buy myself anything. He buys himself loads of things all the time, and I don’t care at all. I have never touched his money.

I really like him but this is getting more and more frequent. Also when I got him an anniversary present he acted really upset because he didnt get me anything, even though I never wanted anything (he said he would cook for me but didnt).

It seems like his materialism is a extreme and he bases too much worth in physical possessions. To the point where hes convincing himself hes buying me things that I bought myself. How can we address this?

A netizen shared a story about how she had a guy friend who liked her for about 5 years and he recently asked her out, lying to his girlfriend about it.

He also made inappropriate comments about her body and hints at being in a relationship with her when he is already attached.

Their friends also noticed that the guy’s girlfriend looks like her.

Here is the story:

“Need to rant. My friend who used to like me (one-sided) for 5+ years recently asked me out for lunch one on one (again). I ghosted him. We know each other for 13 years since JC and are somewhat close friends. He’s currently attached.

Before our previous meetings in the past (we only meet once every 1 or 2 years), I suggested that our other friends could join us but he refused. So, we ended up meeting one on one.

In our first few meetings, he brought up the times when he used to like me and said things like “if this/that didn’t happen, we could’ve ended up together”.

“You have the nicest body”

He also made comments about my body “you are _ cup right? Your future husband is gonna be so lucky” or “you have the nicest body among our friends”.

He’s already attached at that time. Idk if he said these because we are kinda close but I was freaking uncomfortable with that and told him to stop.

What’s more, I thought he told his girlfriend that he was meeting me. But it turned out that he didn’t. I knew because he suddenly got a call from his girlfriend AND he decided to not pick it up the first time, which I thought was something really weird and inappropriate to do to your partners.

After a while, his girlfriend called again. He asked me to keep quiet while he talked to her on the phone?!?! Felt like a freaking third party. That was when I told myself I shouldn’t meet him individually ever again.

Another time he asked to meet again (with another friend), I agreed. We had lunch and walked around. The other friend went to the toilet, leaving me and him.

And guess what? We saw his girlfriend, who was surprised to see him because he didn’t tell her that he went out with us.

Honestly, I don’t even know if the girlfriend knows about me or not. Do guys tell their GFs about their female friends? Honest question because I really don’t know anymore.

Because of all these actions of his, I can’t help but feel like a third party.

Didn’t want to meet him anymore

From then on I kept coming up with excuses to not meet him and kept my distance from him. Also didn’t attend his birthday party, didn’t wish him (which he told me that he was disappointed LOL).

Also, when we were gonna part ways he’d always want a hug. It’s not those quick friendship hugs, but hugs that last for like 5 seconds? IMO I don’t think this is normal, not to mention that he has a girlfriend. Because I don’t want all these to happen between my future bf and the girl he used to like.

Frankly speaking, I don’t feel comfortable meeting him one on one anymore. The fact that our JC friends also said that his girlfriend “looks like me” and that “he’s only together with her to replace me” ain’t helping the situation.

They even asked how I felt about him having a girlfriend after liking me for so long. I mean, what the heck were they expecting me to say, giving such absurd comments.

Recently he asked to meet again and I ignored his messages. Every time when I’m online on WhatsApp I can’t help but be worried that he would see me online lol.

Should I just tell him that we should maintain a distance and not meet individually because of the above reasons? Or am I just being overly paranoid?

I honestly don’t know what guys think but as a girl, or if you were to put yourself in my shoes, when:

– a guy friend doesn’t tell his GF that he’s meeting you

– asks you to shut up when he talks to his GF over the phone

– makes inappropriate comments about you

– mentions the possibility of an rs with you when he himself is attached …

I think it’s really inappropriate and disrespectful to his GF and me??? I’d really appreciate your opinions please.”

Editor’s note: You’re doing the right thing, the guy sounds like he’s off the hinges.

What should I do if I witness dishonesty and wrongdoings at work here in NUS? We have official work hours in here from 830 to 6.

However due to our boss being practically non existent, people had been testing the system. There are certain group of people who come to work as late as 1030 am, and leave work as early as 515 pm, constantly.

Also the same group of ppl have been self-declaring “work from home” and disappears on some days without informing our boss, and does basically nothing at home. Yes in our line of work, theres basically nothing much you can do at home except checking emails which takes 5 minutes.

Lastly, the same group of people have been intentionally hiding their work areas from workplace safety inspection, which is also wrong.

Very tempted to file a complaint against these lazy dishonest  colleagues, as what they are doing is clearly not normal and unacceptable in official companies outside.

Our working relationship is  on bad terms and I do not get along with them to begin with, due to a clash of personality, me being a very work focused company orientated person. I probably would have nothing to lose complaining against them?

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Sayonara Singapore.

I came to Singapore 15 years ago, thinking of making Singapore my home, as it came on top choices compared to other countries, such as US, Australia and Canada.

I have studied here and meet my wife here and had my baby here, however Singapore had a different plan. I am a PR for more than 10 years and they are not ready to give my wife a PR even though she has studied here and been here almost same time as me and they rejected application my wife’s and my child’s PR.

So HDB is out of choice. We both make a combined income of 10k+ but more and more money is squeezed out of us. Looks like Singapore Values free money from China and Hong Kong than integrating locally trained people.

At present our house house hold expenditure is more than 80% of our income and our life style is just average, so you can earn and have a decent life in Singapore. But we feel we are just Surviving here and not really living.

We are not evening talking about luxury here like car, condo etc. Just a basic life. And it’s same for my Singapore friends but slightly better because of HDB. In general, Singapore is becoming a advanced society with surviving people.

What I see from Govt plan is either you are super rich or under 3k family income rest all will just be rich on paper but poor in real life. All my class mates (locals) have already left Singapore and I didn’t listen to their advice to pack up 10 years ago.

Now, I am Surviving. When I tell about these things , most locals will complain you can go back where you came from, but if we keep having such mentalities Singapore will become next Japan.

Right now, govt is happy to collect millions from foreigners ABSB and giving $300 CDC vouchers to keeps locals mouth shut. So, till govt doesn’t prioritise welfare of people, Sg will be millionaires zombie land.

Here are what netizens think:

• So if government gives your wife PR and there will be complains?
• Well… that’s rich coming from a PR earning a combined 10k complaining about cost of living and not being able to get its spouse a PR.
• I’m quite curious what are your household expenses. Spending more than $8k a month is quite interesting if you are saying your family is just average.

So I(m23) met this girl(f19) online for the sole purpose of hooking up no strings attached. I went over to her house a day after we met online to do the deed.

When I met her I remembering thinking damn this girl is hot. We had a cigarette naked on the bed before the deed and we chatted. We ended up cuddling and talking for like 2 hours before she fell asleep in my arms. I slept too and i woke up at 6am to her begging me to do the deed with her. So we did it at 6am and we continued cuddling. I remembered her showing me that she sent her friend a text saying Omg he’s so hot.

At one point she was touching my face and saying I had nice features. So much for no strings attached, there’s a whole ass rope tied up right now. But not gonna lie I enjoyed the night a lot and we are planning to meet up again in a few days.

Is it wrong for me to develop a no strings attached into a relationship?

Here are what netizens think:

• My current relationship of 4 years started very similarly. Was supposed to be a hookup but now we can’t imagine life without each other. Good luck!! Hope this turns out as wonderfully for you as it did for me

• Many relationships start from hookups.My first relationship (first S) was a hookup and it was good, we started dating.2nd relationship started with a bad hookup (performance from my side) but we were talking comfortably before and after sex, we decide to hang out again and eventually started dating.

• My (now) wife of 12 years started as a rebound hookup after my (then) girlfriend of 7 years cheated on me and we broke up. Sometimes you catch feelings. Roll with it.

• Why is it somehow negative to catch feelings anyway? All my “hookup” friends were the most clingy people, desperate for validation and fear of rejection. It’s almost expected to be a hookup before considering a relationship. Maybe stop putting labels on things and just vibe with each other.