I’m (54M) my (52F)wife of 32 years is treating my adult age sons (26M) and (21M) like they’re pets. After years of trying to get these men to become self sufficient and responsible citizens I’m at my wits end.
Both of my young men live at our home rent-free. They pay nothing for their phones, car insurance or anything toward our monthly bills.
I’ve tried to set up rent and went over monthly expenses and my wife comes to their defense and derails any accountability before I can collect anything.
They have a hard time holding down any jobs because they find issues with everything. They sit in their rooms and play games all day and night because they have no drive or motivation.
My wife says she’s just trying to be a protective mom and doesn’t see anything wrong with this parenting style.
She believes they will just magically mature someday. I’m going crazy because I feel like she’s harming these adult aged men by treating them like small children.
We both got married when we were young and struggled our way through school and had very little support from our own parents.
I don’t understand why she protects them from maturing and becoming self-sufficient. I’m ready to get divorced. I need advice.
When you think of outdoor adventures, the last thing that comes to mind is a leech crawling into your eye. However, for one Thai man, this unimaginable scenario turned into a painful reality.
It was a regular day of hiking on Monday, November 6th, when a group of friends ventured into the wilderness in Thailand. Little did they know that their hiking trip would take an unexpected, and quite horrifying, turn.
The Unbelievable Encounter
Apichart Prommathat, one of the hikers, shared this shocking incident on Facebook. He described the event as “unbelievable and frightening.” As they were exploring the great outdoors, one of Apichart’s friends set his camera on the ground to search for the perfect photo spot.
Unbeknownst to the hikers, a leech had crawled onto the camera, settling on the viewfinder. When Apichart’s friend picked up the camera, he failed to notice the leech and lifted the device to his face, aligning the viewfinder with his eye.
It was at this moment that the leech crawled into his eye and attached itself near his tear duct, resulting in excruciating pain.
Apichart and his friend tried to remove the leech with their fingers, but it proved to be a slippery adversary. This struggle continued for about 30 minutes, with Apichart’s friend screaming in pain during the ordeal. They lacked the proper equipment and weren’t sure how to handle this unusual situation.
Seeking Expert Advice
In the aftermath of this unsettling experience, Apichart reached out to fellow trekkers for advice on dealing with leeches in the wild. The recommendations he received were quite enlightening.
The experts advised carrying salt or salt water while hiking. In case of leeches, a few drops of salt or salt water in the eyes can help dislodge the leech, making it easier to remove. This technique can save you from the discomfort and pain that Apichart’s friend endured.
Moreover, Apichart warned fellow adventurers about the potential danger of leeches lurking on leaves at eye level in some forests. It’s essential to stay vigilant and be prepared for such encounters, as the last thing you want is a leech invading your personal space.
To ensure your hiking experience remains enjoyable and leech-free, it’s advisable to carry salt or salt water, along with other essential hiking supplies. Taking precautions against these tiny yet determined creatures can make all the difference in your outdoor excursions.
Images source: เดอะแบก on Facebook and GlebK via Wikipedia Commons
I’m a newly wed. Met and married my husband after a few years of dating after school. I seldom visit his place for meals during our dating days because both of his parents had been working. They have retired not long ago and my mil started to cook more often and invite us over for meals.
I notice a few times after eating there, I will suffer a serious of bad diarrhoea the next day. I couldn’t go to work and would have to visit a doctor and I would need to take at least a day off because of this.
Other than avoiding raw egg yolks in dishes, I pretty much have a strong stomach and rarely have this happen to me until I start to eat at my mil’s place. I deduced it’s because of my mil’s food hygiene. She don’t allow me or others to touch or help out in her kitchen other than washing up the dishes so the food prep was solely done by her. I notice she chops up cooked meat inside the toilet, with the chopping board on the floor, instead of at the spacious counter top which absolutely disgusts me.
I do not know if this is normal practice for some people as my family doesn’t do this. I mentioned this to my husband each time when I am suffering from extreme stomach pain and he doesn’t think chopping meat inside the toilet was the issue. But he also can’t explain why I LS like crap the next day after having dinner there. I don’t want to be rude but I really don’t wish to continue eating there anymore if this continues. I have tried avoiding the cut cooked meats but I still LS the next day.
In a recent court case that captured public attention, Abdul Karim Syed Musgooth, a 53-year-old man, found himself at the center of controversy. He was sentenced to one-month imprisonment for molesting a 14-year-old schoolgirl at Clementi Mall, according to Channel NewsAsia.
The Day of the Incident
The incident in question occurred when Abdul Karim was 51 years old and unemployed. He was accompanying his wife for grocery shopping at Clementi Mall.
After purchasing groceries, Abdul Karim requested his wife to proceed to the bus stop while he finished his cigarette. He assured her that he would catch up with her soon.
However, as Abdul Karim moved towards the bus stop with a trolley containing their heavy purchases, a troubling incident unfolded.
While overtaking a young girl in her school uniform on a walkway, he allegedly molested her by touching her backside. The victim later testified that she felt five fingertips squeezing her and was left in a state of shock.
The victim did not remain silent; she confronted Abdul Karim at the scene, pulling down his mask to identify his face. She repeatedly asked him if he had touched her, to which he kept apologizing.
The distressed victim promptly called the police to report the molestation. Meanwhile, she followed Abdul Karim to the bus stop, where she took a photo of him and sent it to her mother.
Abdul Karim’s wife, a warehouse worker, had waited at the bus stop for about 20 minutes before deciding to return to check on her husband.
Upon her arrival, she found her husband in a heated confrontation with the victim, with the victim holding him back. Abdul Karim claimed that the victim had accused him of inappropriate behavior and scolded him with vulgar words.
The Man’s Account
In his testimony, Abdul Karim presented a different version of events. He claimed that he had been pulling the trolley with his left hand and swinging his right hand up and down to maintain balance.
According to him, the trolley occasionally hit the back of his leg, causing pain. He asserted that he was focused on the trolley when his extended right hand accidentally made contact with the victim’s backside.
Abdul Karim maintained that the victim approached him, grabbed his hand, and accused him of molestation. She then used vulgar language and declared her intention to report him to the police.
Interestingly, when shown video footage of the incident, Abdul Karim denied that it showed him squeezing the victim’s buttock.
The Judge’s Findings
District Judge Brenda Tan presided over the trial and made several crucial findings. She regarded the victim as a highly convincing witness who provided a clear account of the offense.
The victim’s testimony was further supported by video footage that showed Abdul Karim closing in on the victim from the left, even though there was ample space on the right.
The footage also depicted his right hand touching the victim, with all five fingers outstretched.
Judge Tan concluded that the prosecution had successfully proven the charge against Abdul Karim and expressed doubt about the accuracy of his testimony.
The victim, according to the judge, felt angry, distressed, and uncomfortable after the incident. Her life was disrupted for months, and she developed a fear of people walking behind her.
Abdul Karim is planning to appeal against his sentence and is currently out on bail.
I (22M) found out my girlfriend (20F) was cheating on me with the guy she told me not to worry about.
I loved this girl. I bought her everything she wanted, we lived together and I loved her. We had a pretty rocky relationship and today I decided that I was going to fix our relationship.
She had been staying at her father’s house for the past two days and so I decided that she needed to come home.
When I got to her father’s to get her I discovered a hickey on her neck. I knew about a guy that she hadn’t talked to for two-ish years and I quickly msgd him on Instagram.
He ended up sending me the msgs between her and him and she had been lying to him for over a week saying she was single.
I still love this girl but I don’t know what to do. We’ve already broken up but I feel like I can still fix this.
Netizens comments
Dude, just no. She doesn’t care about the relationship with you. She told a guy she was single and has a hickey from him. The cheater should be the one wanting to fix it, not the one being cheated on if it’s to be fixed. Move on, you’ll find someone way better than her because you deserve better.
Don’t let her walk over you. Have some self respect. You really going to let someone treat you like that? It’s probably why she did it, because she knew you loved her to much to leave her. Heck, she left evidence on her neck because she didn’t care enough for your feelings. Now do what every man does after being cheated on. Workout, focus on your career and stay single until the universe sends a girl to you.
33-year-old Siti Zulaika A Rahman was sentenced to a week’s jail for taking videos of her fiance at the Police Cantonment Complex, a protected area in Singapore, according to Channel NewsAsia.
The Case of Siti Zulaika A Rahman
She pleaded guilty to one charge of taking a video in a protected area with her fiance, Mohd Heirizal Kamarzaman, under the Infrastructure Protection Act.
A second similar charge was also considered during her sentencing. taken into consideration. She was jailed because she couldn’t afford to pay the $15,000 fine imposed on her.
What happened?
On 13 July, Siti accompanied her fiance, Heirizal, to report for bail at Central Police Division at Police Cantonment Complex.
During the first visit, Siti took a video of Heirizal with his consent as he exited the glass door. He was seen displaying offensive gestures, which he later uploaded to TikTok with the song “I’m a Gangster” in the background.
The video gained considerable attention, with over 380 likes and 125 shares.
During the second visit, Heirizal filmed the counter desk and a female officer’s face with his phone. After completing his bail reporting, he passed his phone to Siti, who filmed him from the back with his consent.
Heirizal’s exaggerated movements were intended for the camera, and the resulting video contained explicit language directed at the police.
The Legal Implications
Deputy Public Prosecutor Sarah Siaw argued that the Police Cantonment Complex is a protected area under the Infrastructure Protection Act, and there were clear signs indicating that unauthorized filming was prohibited.
The building holds significance from a security perspective as the headquarters of the Criminal Investigation Department and is a symbol of the Singapore Police Force.
Unauthorized filming, even if unrelated to any malicious intent, undermines the message that the area is protected. The circulation of such videos online can lead to the perception that security measures are not enforced.
Sentencing and Mitigation
In light of the case, the prosecution sought a one to two weeks’ jail term if Siti couldn’t pay the fine. In her defense, Siti stated that she didn’t want to take the videos but feared angering her fiance, who was already facing assault charges in court.
Siti said in her mitigation that she “actually didn’t want to take the videos but I didn’t want to anger my fiance”.
She had reported a case of assault against him. She pleaded for leniency, promising not to repeat such offenses in the future.
S’pore police’s press release
COUPLE ARRESTED AND CHARGED FOR TAKING VIDEOS AT A POLICE STATION
On 4 August 2023, the Police received a report that two videos had been uploaded to social media, showing footage taken at a police station along New Bridge Road.
Following the police report, the Police have arrested a 41-year-old man and a 33-year-old woman separately for their alleged involvement in taking videos at a police station.
The man was charged on 5 August 2023 for making a video recording of a protected area without the permission of the authority of that protected area, an offence under Section 29(4) Infrastructure Protection Act 2017. The offence is alleged to have taken place on 1 August 2023.
The woman will be charged on 8 August 2023 for two charges of making a video recording of a protected area without the permission of the authority of that protected area with common intention, an offence under Section 29(4) Infrastructure Protection Act 2017 read with Section 34 of the Penal Code 1871. The offences are alleged to have taken place on 13 July 2023 and 1 August 2023.
As a police station is declared a protected area under the Infrastructure Protection Act 2017, it is an offence to take photograph, make any film or video recording of a police station without the permission of the authority of that protected area.
If convicted, the offender is liable under Section 29(4) of the Infrastructure Protection Act 2017 to a fine not exceeding $20,000, or to imprisonment for a term not exceeding 2 years, or both.
The Police would like to remind members of the public to refrain from taking photographs or filming at any protected areas and protected places without permission of the authority.
Screenshots of the videos retrieved from social media ▼
The festive spirit is in the air as Deepavali, the Festival of Lights, approaches. Little India in Singapore is renowned for its grand celebrations during this time, attracting large crowds. However, with the excitement and revelry, it’s crucial to ensure the safety and well-being of all participants.
Deepavali Celebrations in Little India
To accommodate the influx of visitors during the Deepavali celebrations, the police have issued a traffic advisory, according to The Straits Times.
The Serangoon Road, where most of the festivities occur, is expected to experience heavy traffic, especially on the eve of Deepavali, which falls on November 11th.
To avoid congestion, motorists are strongly advised to explore alternative routes and exercise caution while driving in the vicinity.
Pedestrian Crossings
In a bid to efficiently manage the crowd and traffic, certain pedestrian crossings will be temporarily closed. The Birch Road pedestrian crossings in front of Anguilla Mosque will be closed from 4 pm on November 11th to 4 am on November 12th.
Similarly, the crossing in Campbell Lane may be closed if deemed necessary. Signages will guide pedestrians to the nearest available crossings, and auxiliary police officers will be present to assist and regulate traffic, ensuring the safety of pedestrians and motorists alike.
Liquor Control Zone
Little India, along with Geylang, is designated as a Liquor Control Zone. During the Deepavali weekend, the police have imposed restrictions on public drinking within these zones. From 10.30 pm on November 10th to 7 am on November 14th, public drinking is strictly prohibited.
Those caught drinking in the Liquor Control Zones during the restricted hours can face fines of up to $1,500. Repeat offenders may be subject to fines of up to $3,000 or a jail term of up to 4½ months, or both. Additionally, retailers who sell liquor beyond the permitted hours risk having their licenses revoked.
Fireworks and Sparkler Safety
The police have also issued warnings against setting off improvised explosive devices constructed using sparklers and the illegal possession and discharge of fireworks.
Both actions can result in severe legal consequences, including fines, jail terms, or a combination of both.
I was supposed to propose to my girlfriend next week and I just found out she has been screwing my brother
I had a whole thing planned out. We’ve been dating for seven years, since we were 15.
This afternoon I get a call from my brother’s wife sobbing that she found a video of him sleeping with my girlfriend.
So now I’m trying to decide if I show her the ring and tell her about the plans before I break up with her or not.
Netizens’ comments
Just make sure to break it off for good. That toxicity will never heal.
That’s awful my dude. If anything, be glad you found out now before a marriage certificate and children. Best of luck to you.
Confirm the video. Return the ring and get your money back. Return your gf to the streets. Work with your SIL to tell family and friends about your brother.
Fake propose and tell her after she says yes. She will get excited thinking she gets to marry you then you can swat her down hard.
Facebook user Susiilaa Shanmugam posted a photo of a banner at Mountbatten wishing residents a Happy Deepavali, while at the same time advising residents to “keep (their) celebrations litter-free”.
The photo features People’s Action Party (PAP) Member of Parliament (MP) Lim Biow Chuan, who is the adviser to the Mountbatten Grassroots Organisations.
The netizen captioned her photo “might as well don’t wish right” and in her Facebook post:
“Thank u for the reminder Sir. Just curious if you have ever used this message during Chinese New Year or Hungry Ghost Festival?
Though the message appears to have a positive intent, it is being used at a very wrong time given festivals are a time when those who have endured a tumultuous time come together as one to unite with their family and friends.
I hope to see the same message for the coming Chinese New Year.”
Lim Biow Chuan responds
Lim responded to the incident and said that the photo of the banners were real and not doctored, and added that the banners were placed on his behalf by the People’s Association (PA), according to Mothership.
However, he added that the contractor who put up the banners didn’t clear the location with the PA staff.
He also explained the segment on littering and said that it was an initiative by the Residents’ Network (RN) and not the Marine Parade Town Council.
Lim said that the anti-littering initiative was a result of the RN receiving complaints after sparklers and wrappings being littered in the parks after Deepavali and discussed it with NEA before coming up with the idea to remind residents to be conscious.
He once again reiterated that it was not an initiative by the MPTC, and that the RNs often take their own initiative based on the feedback from residents.
Lim also added that the anti-littering message was used for the first time following residents’ feedback, and he understands that it might have given rise to a “misunderstanding” because the banners were placed side by side, and he has instructed the PA staff to remove it.
He added that they will be removing all the anti-littering banners after conveying the feedback to NEA.
Photos of litter
A resident also shared a notice that they received from NEA and the Mountbatten Grassroots Association, showing photos of wrappers, sparklers and other form of litter on the ground, and some burnt grass from the use of sparklers.
my MIL has put us through emotional turmoil for the last year. We had to cut her off because it was one thing after the other with her.
Fast forward to the last few months, she’s now spreading false info on what REALLY happened to victimize herself.
She posted our family photo to speak of this embarrassing issue on Facebook when she has all of our friends.
we even received a terrible message from a strange number (obviously some one on her side of the family or a close friends) insulting me, without knowing what’s really going on due to her posting on Facebook.
It’s absolutely exhausting to deal with someone like this, we have tried our hardest to heal our relationship with her but it’s impossible.
We have talked with her ex-husbands to try and figure out how to go from here but they themselves ran away and basically told us she’s a psychopath and there’s nothing we can do.
Which we just said let’s ignore it she’ll get tired eventually.. WRONG.
She now sees we’re not reacting to her or giving her the time of day and she did the one thing we told her not to do post our baby on Facebook.
When I saw the post I immediately asked her to remove it as I don’t want our baby on her Facebook for safety reasons and she’s using her for sympathy.
Her current husband texted us and basically said she won’t take the post down because it’s her Facebook and she’s allowed to seek sympathy however she wants to and proceeds to tell me that if I can post my own child so can they because I don’t make the rules.
And proceeds to send me terms and conditions of Facebook (wtf) I’m so disgusted and frustrated with them. There’s no need to bring our baby into this.
What can I do legally to stop her from posting what happened in order to victimize herself and to stop posting Our baby?
