I was always interested in the spiritual world and the unknown, so when a man on in a temple approached me a few weeks ago and said he was looking for someone to be a spirit medium, I was intrigued.

He said he had been chosen by a higher power to find someone to be a medium and that I had been chosen to be the one. He said he could help me develop my spiritual abilities and that my journey would be one of great spiritual growth.

At first, I was excited and eager to learn more about my spiritual abilities. I was so ready to start this journey and I was confident that I could do it. The man said he could teach me how to use my spiritual abilities and that he could help me become the best medium I could be.

But then he asked me to pay him. He said that he needed me to pay him a large sum of money in order to help me with my journey.

I was hesitant to pay him, but he said that it was necessary for me to make this spiritual journey. He said that I couldn’t do it without him and that I had to trust him.

So I paid him the money, and he said he was going to pick me up the next day to start my journey. I was so excited and I couldn’t wait to start my spiritual journey.

But the next day, the man didn’t show up. I waited and waited, but he never came. I started to get worried and I called him, but he didn’t answer.

Eventually, I realized that I had been scammed. The man had taken my money and had never shown up to give me any lessons about being a medium. He had lied to me and had taken my money.

I was so angry and frustrated. I had been so eager to start my spiritual journey and I had been so eager to learn about my spiritual abilities. I felt like I had been taken advantage of and that I had been stupid for trusting the man.

But then I realized that I could still learn about my spiritual abilities and start my journey. I decided to start researching and reading about being a medium and how to use my spiritual abilities.

A netizen shared a story online about an incident that she witnessed at a supermarket when she went for her grocery shopping.

She witnessed a woman shouting at her helper and scolding her for not understanding her and said that the woman raised her hand at her helper and the sound of the slap was very loud, causing others to intervene.

She hopes that people can be more kind to one another and wants to bring the issue to light as every human deserve to be treated with respect.

Here is her story

The other day when I was at the supermarket shopping for groceries, I overheard this woman shouting at her helper.

She sounded very annoyed and kept scolding her helper for being very stupid, everything also don’t know. Talk to her also dont know how to respond, like mute.

Her helper looked very scared and was almost in tears. I’m not sure if it’s because of the woman’s accent or because her helper couldn’t understand English, but her helper looked quite confused and at a loss for what to do.

My bf told me to stop staring at others and was trying to pull me away when the woman suddenly slapped her helper.

The piak sound was so loud that it attracted the attention of the staff and some bystanders, who stepped forward to intervene.

The woman was unapologetic and kept shouting at everyone to mind their own business.

I don’t know what happened in the end cos my bf dragged me away but I hope the woman gets punished cos helpers are human too and it’s really not right for her to do this.

Home renovation in Singapore is something that most people will go through in some point in their lives.

But as a homeowner in Singapore, I have had my fair share of renovation nightmares.

Renovation nightmares

I have heard countless stories from friends and family about renovation companies that ran away with their money, leaving them with a half-finished job.

It’s a sad but true reality in Singapore, that many renovation companies often take on more jobs than they can handle, and run away with the job half done.

I’ve experienced it myself, where I’ve had to hire a different contractor to finish the job after my initial contractor abandoned the project in the middle. It’s always a stressful experience to have to start over and hire someone else, especially when you have already spent so much money and time on the first contractor.

I think the main problem is that there are no strict regulations or standards for renovation companies in Singapore.

This means that any company can set up shop and start taking on jobs, without any qualifications or experience. This lack of oversight and regulation gives rise to unprofessional and unreliable contractors who are more interested in taking your money than delivering a quality job.

No assurance

Another issue is that many of these companies are not properly insured. This means that if anything goes wrong during the renovation process, you may have to bear the cost of repairs and replacements yourself. This can be a huge financial burden for homeowners.

These companies also tend to be quite secretive about their processes, which makes it difficult for homeowners to know what they’re getting. Some companies may even try to hide the fact that they are outsourcing subcontractors to do the job, instead of doing it themselves. This lack of transparency can lead to shoddy workmanship, as you have no idea who is actually doing the job.

What worries me the most is the fact that these companies can get away with running away with the job half done. All too often, homeowners are left in a state of shock and confusion when their contractor suddenly disappears in the middle of the job. They are then left with a half-finished job and no idea what to do.

I believe that more needs to be done to regulate renovation companies in Singapore. A proper licensing system needs to be put in place, so that only experienced and qualified contractors can take on jobs. Companies should also be required to provide proof of insurance, so that homeowners are protected from any unexpected costs.

Finally, I think that there should be more transparency in the renovation process. Companies should be required to provide detailed information about their processes and subcontractors, so that homeowners can make informed decisions.

Never rush into hiring a contractor without doing your research first. Do your due diligence and make sure that you are hiring a reliable and experienced contractor who will deliver a quality job and won’t run away with the job half done.

I had been working as a freelance stylist for years, and I had a good reputation for being reliable and professional.

I was always punctual, I had a good eye for fashion, and I was confident that I could work with any client to find the perfect look for them.

Got labelled as a chi ko pek

That’s why I was so surprised when I got called a chi ko pek by one of my clients.

It all started when I met with the client at her house for a styling session. She was a young woman in her early twenties who was looking for a new wardrobe for the upcoming season.

She had some ideas about what she wanted, but I could tell that she needed some help to make the right choices.

As we went through her closet, I started to suggest different pieces that she could pair with each other to create the perfect look.

At one point, I complimented her on a skirt she had worn and told her that it was a great choice as it shows off her nice legs

That’s when things took a turn. The client suddenly became very angry and accused me of being a chi ko pek.

She said that I was only complimenting her on her clothing so that I could ogle her body. I was completely taken aback by the accusation and tried to explain that I was only being professional, but she refused to listen.

Threatened to report the matter to the authorities

She then threatened me that she could report me to the authorities for whatever I said and demanded an apology for what I said.

I apologised as I did not want to make things big and ended up leaving her home not getting paid and with the fear that she would anyhow spread rumours of me and ruin my reputation in the market.

I noticed that so many people don’t study, but do better than the honest ones who study. So many people use emotions instead of logic, but somehow score very well academically.

So many people are far from the logic-loving robots without feelings, but end up doing so much better than those who use logic to replace feelings and study all the time. I always ask myself, how did they get there?

That one genius in my class who gets 100 or 99 for every single maths test never studies at all. When we are studying, she is watching movies on YouTube before exams. She’s the only one who cried when the teacher showed us a 911 documentary featuring orphans. She has feelings and empathy. She has EQ. And she still has the highest grades ever.

The other friend from secondary school until JC is ALWAYS shopping for makeup, clothes and accessories after school. She spends her weekends cafe hopping with her boyfriend. She said out loud once, “it’s really not the more you study the better you do you know. You can study hard but still don’t do well.” She got 8 distinctions (yes she took h3) for a levels, and 93/100 for her maths promos when 75% of the cohort failed. And yes, she spends 300 dollars a day just shopping at orchard, while I was using logic to replace emotions, and telling myself to be thrifty because it’s a “virtue”. She doesn’t. It’s feelings that drive her to spend on things she doesn’t need. Yet who scores higher? Her.

My 2 acquaintances from JC are a textbook example of MIRACLE. They spend their Jc Life dating, instead of focusing on studies. It’s again, emotions over logic. Them two can never save a single cent of allowance because as soon as they receive it, they spend it all on manicures and shopping sprees. Their wardrobes are jam packed with unnecessary stuff bought on IMPULSE, NOT LOGIC. and guess what? Both got straight A for A levels, and FIRST CLASS HONOURS in university. And they are in the science stream, which emphasises on critical and logical thinking. If they score well for literature or art I’m not surprised because it’s about people and feelings. But……How do they follow their heart and not their head, but do so much better in SCIENCE than us who study all the time?

And my best friends cousin defied everything we learn since young about a “good model student”. She clubs, drinks and vapes every week. She has about 4 tattoos and multiple piercings. She never, ever, uses logic to replace emotions to force herself to study. She follows her heart. She has EQ, the stuff that makes you love and connect with people. She had 4 boyfriends and 3 friends with benefits. And she got into deans list 5 times already, first class honours as well.

I’m quite sure there are a lot of people who just spend their time not studying. When we are studying, they are watching movies. When we are revising, they are shopping. When we logically listen to what primary school Teachers say about “hardwork” and “ thrift “, they are spending all their money without logic, easily filling their hands with shopping bag after shopping bag. When we are staying at home alone to study using IQ, they are connecting with boyfriends , dating, having sex, and exercising EQ.

How then do all these people get straight A including general paper(not Many can get A for that) , and A for science based subjects. Where did the first class honours come out from then?

I realised sadly that academic results are INVERSELY PROPORTIONAL to how much you honestly work hard.

Is it bad to control the gender ?

Me and my husband has been married for 5 years and have one beautiful boy . As much as we love him everyone wanted a girl . I pretty much had a small depression because of gender disappointment and it took me awhile to love him fully after he was born.

Reasons being? Let’s face it girls are better to their parents they can get away with quite a few things in life as long as they look decent and they tend to be more compassionate, less annoying and quieter .

Now we have been contemplating to have no.2 but we are very afraid that it will be a boy again. Is it bad that we want to abort if the gender isn’t what we wanted ?

Here are what netizens think:

• You think you can get pregnant whenever you want? Some people can be young and yet struggle with infertility even though they had the first child successfully. Let alone abort and try again. After abortion, that could also be the last time you get pregnant or deliver a healthy baby, then how? Spend more on fertility treatments? Try living out your thoughts and you will realise it’s not practical at all. Every baby is a gift. And its foolish to stereotype a child’s temperament based on gender.

• Y’all having a kid or buying a pet dog? Your considerations and choices are appalling if that’s your attitude towards being parents

• This is a living thing you are talking about. You’ll love them nonetheless. Boy or girl doesnt matter as long you love and teach them how to be a better person. Don’t like this kind of mentality

• OMG how can that even be for parents. Supposed to love your flesh and blood regardless of gender unconditionally. Better not have another kid if that is the type of thoughts you have.

I think I need to break up with my gf

That’s it, I’m exhausted, I’m done.

Yesterday we fought again, twice. We were texting and I was trying to convince her to meet up with our mutual friend’s new gf, but she didn’t want to, as our friend is known to always date low-quality girls, and thus always change gf, so she didn’t want to get acquainted with her as she felt like its wasting time, so I was trying to tell her that if never meet she will never know if she’s better than the last.

Things get a bit heated when she started saying that I’m affecting her and I should not disturb her as she is ‘resting’ at home. Then she started words like “we should live our own lives then” and “fine, no contact”. (her exact words)

Of course, I’m upset by this so we stopped talking for about 4hrs when I asked her if she had calmed down, she said yes, but I told her I haven’t and I’m very deeply affected when she threatened our relationship, and I asked her to not do it again, but she said she did it for a good reason, and she felt that she didn’t threaten me, and told me to stop “projecting on her”. At this point, I am really exhausted, and I cried. I tried to tell her that under any circumstances, she should not use these words if she want a relationship to be healthy, and I am really very negatively affected, then she said I need to deal with issues better, that I need a woman to live, and that I am acting like a “below average man”. Needless to say, the argument felt like it was not going to conclude and the words she was using is getting worse.

Things got repetitive for a while, where she kept saying there was no problem so I shouldn’t create more for her, insisting that she didn’t threaten the relationship. Throughout the entire time, I’ve been trying to tell her how her words had been affecting me, she began bringing up our past fights, and that’s when I realise, that the fight was not going to end, she was never going to care about how I felt, and I stopped replying

Thanks for reading about my pathetic relationship life

As a girlfriend, would you want your boyfriend to support you or criticise you in whenever you do something? Don’t get me wrong, this only applies when he thinks you did something questionable.

Maybe it’s something that he doesn’t agree with, but it’s something that you think you didn’t do wrong.

For example? When somebody threw something at you and you got angry; or when the aunties/uncles and even middle-aged adults try to cut your queue when entering the MRT and you gave them a death stare; or when you get annoyed while walking up the escalator on the right side, and a couple stopped walking to talk to each other?

The said boyfriend then told you off and said that you are too narrow-minded.

Was I wrong? Should my boyfriend be supporting me or criticising me?

Here are what netizens think:

• What’s wrong with having zero tolerance against inconsiderate and self-entitled individuals? I would publicly shame them likewise. Sounds like your bf is the narrow-minded one.

• It really depends loh. Different people have different levels of tolerance ma. If he criticises you for being narrow-minded, you roll your eyes at him too loh.

• i agree everyone has different views. but I think your bf can have a better approach rather than criticising you. for instance if you’re being thrown things at.. he can be more concern if you’re hurt. if some aunty cut your queue. he can acknowledge that they are at fault but don’t get mad at them. they are not worthy of you getting mad. ( the point is .. yes boyfriend need not agree with you in everything. but should care about girlfriend’s feeling)

• For all of those things, I get annoyed too but I don’t ever lose my temper. If you tend to overreact, he is not wrong for disagreeing with your reaction, but it sounds like he might communicating things in a way that feels depowering. I would pick “criticism in a supportive manner”.

• Maybe it is the way your bf has put the message across that is off putting to you… maybe you would like to share with your bf how you like to receive feedback on ur behaviour

In a relationship for half a decade and this was what I recently discovered.

For context, I’ve never checked his phone before. However his behaviour over the last few weeks made me think that he might be hiding smth on his phone.

So this is what I found: He initiates texts with a ‘long-time female friend’ and offers to hang out constantly. In those texts are msgs like ‘i miss your hugs’, ‘i would give you a hug if I bump into you on the streets’ – these are things that he doesnt even say it to me. He’s always the one initiating those texts, innocuous ones starting with ‘hi’, or ‘you there?’. She is not responsive, so he will often have to follow up with a second text a few days later.

Their texts are infrequent. Sometimes he texts her right after waking up, other times he texts her late at night, right after we end our late night dates. Many of these texts are him asking whether she’s available to meet.

He proceeds to meet said friend without updating me about it (context: we would always update each other where we’re headed to and who we’re meeting. It’s just how we operate as we don’t meet often). If she’s just a normal friend, why hide it from me? I’m pretty chill with having friends of the opposite sxx and he knows that. We don’t give each other shit for things like that.

Before this incident, we’ve always been open with each other how our week went, who we met during the week and the kind of interactions/conversations we had thoughout the week. I didn’t know about this lady until I saw her name pinned right at the top of his telegram chat.

When confronted, he says he loves me and she’s just a friend? Then why hide? Why try to cover up his tracks?

I don’t understand.

My father have big dreams of doing start ups and creating businesses but all of his ideas have failed.

My mother was the one supporting the family and pouring money into his ventures. Watching my mother worry about finances and putting food on the table, on top of taking care of him, me and my sibling, had made me start to resent my father for being a useless dreamer.

Has a mindset of a MCP

He doesn’t even do anything at home. Typical MCP and expects us to serve him when he’s around just because he’s a man. He’s not a man in my eyes. My mother is a superhero because she stepped up and became the breadwinner instead. She did everything that he didn’t do for the family.

His ego wouldn’t let him accept that he’s not cut out to be a boss of anything so he would always boast of all the ideas that he have. He has worked part time or temp jobs on an irregular basis because my mother has grown frustrated taking care of this man child.

The least he could do is earn his own pocket money. Both my parents grew bitter and my dad moved to some woman’s house. I know he cheated on my mum too. They finally got a divorce. I’m so happy for my mom to be free of him.

Gave him money to do business so he won’t disrupt the lives of my mum and sis

When I’ve started working, my dad tried to make me invest in his businesses. I expected him to flop so I only gave him what I can afford to sign off else he would be bothering my mother or my sister instead.

Whatever little he made or ever earned he would splurge it on himself. In my eyes, he’s just a donor of his ‘cream’ instead of a father.