I never thought the day would come when I would be discussing the fact that my wife had been using my toothbrush to scrub her V. I know it sounds absurd, and it is, but it’s something that I found out recently and I’ve been feeling quite conflicted about it ever since.

It all started when I was getting ready for work one morning. I was brushing my teeth, as I do every morning, when I noticed a strange smell coming from my toothbrush. It was a smell I had never smelled before and it was quite pungent. I thought it might be an old piece of food that had been stuck to the bristles, so I decided to take a closer look.

That was when I noticed something that made my stomach turn: a small, white, slimy substance that was stuck to the bristles of my toothbrush. I had no idea what it was, but one thing was for sure: it definitely wasn’t toothpaste. I knew it couldn’t be coming from my mouth, so the only logical conclusion was that it had come from somewhere else.

At that point, I started to put two and two together. I remembered that my wife had been complaining about being itchy down there a few days before. She had told me that she was using a special cream to help, but I had no idea that she had been using my toothbrush.

Needless to say, I was appalled. I couldn’t believe that my wife had been using my toothbrush to scrub her V. Not only was it unhygienic, but it was also a complete violation of my personal space. I felt violated and angry that my wife had been using my toothbrush in such a way.

When I confronted my wife about it, she was embarrassed and apologetic. She told me that she had been using my toothbrush because she was too embarrassed to buy a new one. She said she had been using a special cream that was making her itch and she thought using my toothbrush would be a quick and easy way to get some relief.

I was still angry, but I could understand her reasoning. I told her that she should never use my toothbrush again and that she should buy her own. We agreed to never speak of it again and I decided to let the matter drop.

However, it’s hard for me to forget the fact that my wife was using my toothbrush to scrub her vagina. I still feel violated and find it difficult to look at my toothbrush the same way. I’m trying to move on from the incident, but it’s hard to forget something like that.

My advice to anyone in a similar situation is to talk to your partner about it. Don’t just brush it off and try to forget about it. It’s important to communicate and make sure that your partner understands why it was wrong and that it should never happen again. It’s also important to make sure that your partner gets the help they need if they are experiencing any kind of discomfort down there.

Advice regarding correcting a blunder

In a recent job interview I did well in technical interviews. However, in HR interview while discussing salary, I came up with a number lower to company’s standards.

HR agreed and we signed the official contract. 

Later I came to knoe that salary is on quite low for that job role in that international company. Although that salary is quite good but still it is very low compared to other people with same job role in that company.

I need serious advice from people who are working in corporate sector that how should I correct this mistake?

Should I join this company and ask for increment after one year?

Admin please don’t filter this post, I need serious help.

Editor’s note: If you have better offers from other companies, accept those. But if you don’t, then take this job and perform well before asking for pay increment.

My daughter (14) wrote a giant list for her birthday, but at the top was something called a Dyson Airwrap. She’s quite into tiktokers and youtube and had a bunch of things related to that listed. I was tempted to get what she asked for, but when I saw the price tag I backed off. I feel like that sort of price for what boils down to a hair dryer isn’t a sutiable thing for a girl her age. Instead I purchased some of the more minor things on her list, got her what looked to be a nice hairdryer so she wouldn’t have to use the family one, and some hair rollers.

When she opened her gift, she was immediately sullen and went silent. She didn’t bother to thank me or her Mother, then eventually went off to her room and didn’t come out for a while. Later that week an argument broke out over her behaviour and she went off at everyone over what she considered a grand injustice.

Last year as a reward for doing well on his exams I purchased my son, Aaron (16), a lego set he had been coveting for quite a while. He has had a lifelong obsession with lego and had been struggling with depression and anxiety a lot over the entire year. Aaron not only complete his exams, but doing so well, inspired me to get him something I knew he had been eyeing all year long. The set WAS expensive (I’ll admit it cost more than the hairdryer my daughter desired), but it really perked him up and I felt like he needed it.

My daughter feels that it’s a crime that I got Aaron something like that “unprompted”, while not going above and beyond for her own birthday. I think that she is being incredibly immature and the situations just aren’t the same, but she still is going around acting like a kicked dog and drumming up sympathy with extended family who she felt the need to text about her plight.

How do I settle this?

I lied to not hurt his feelings (10years older). I regret it.

My English isn’t the best, so please forgive the errors. And thank you in advance for your patience.

I’d love some advice :)♡

We have only been able to meet up once. When we first met and well jaja I was a bit taken aback because he wasn’t the man from the profile. But he said that it was for privacy reasons and I understood since I only had pictures of half my face or less. We were going to see each other 2 weeks ago but he rescheduled Friday to Saturday and a few hours before he said he was too busy with work. Something I completely understand.

I’ve never seen myself with anyone ever. I have always thought I’d always be by myself and just have kids in the future. I’m a very shy and study focused person and haven’t experienced much of anything. I’ve always wanted to be with an older person and I’ve had the same crush and on no one else (edit: celebrity) for the past 9 or so years.

But I made a split second decision 5 or 6 weeks ago and got on the site and met him. He reached out to me. We texted and it went well, so we moved to whatsapp. He has such a wonderful voice and voices are a big thing for me. I adore voices and personalities, so when I met him I really didn’t care about how he looked like. He was the complete opposite of the image on the profile jajaja.

I’m not in any way saying I’m pretty, I have a lot of body image issues so I can’t accurately tell how I look like jaja. But the best things I’ve been told by old HK movie lovers is that I look like a mix of some celebs. They may have been just saying that ti be nice but I appreciated it soooo much. 🙁

So when we agreed to having an odd partnership of sorts, I felt ok since it wasn’t a 100% marriage long term type thing. It’s odd to explain, but it brought me some comfort.

Well we have been making a plan since last week. Yesterday and last night I confirmed with him. He said where and since he was mainly free on Tuesday, he said I could choose the time. I am and have been extremely busy and final everything is next week. But I made time. He read the 4pm message and didn’t say anything.

I got ready today and got there at 3:30pm to buy some pants I needed to buy and explored. By 4:30 I asked myself why he hadn’t texted, so I sent him a Helloo. He replied with ” Hello baby” “How are you?” And I was in the fitting room so I texted 2 min later asking if we were going to see each other. He texts back 40 min later asking “how am I with time because he is running behind on some things”. Embarrassed and a little tiny bit hurt, I texted back ” You never confirmed and my parents just left and I’m stuck here with my brothers…” He just left me on read.

I was still at the place walking around and exploring because in my 4 months, I’ve never been to that mall. No one knows (not even my parents) about him, only my grandma. So feeling highly embarrassed I called my grandma at the mall and explored while telling her all the time.

She said I should end things immediately and that no gentleman would not give a heads up the second he knew he would be late. And proceeded to compliment me and tell me I’m to young and too pretty(idk if I believe that jajaj) to be with someone who doesn’t fully respect or appreciate me.

I don’t ever stand up for myself and when I do it takes so much effort. I care too much about hurting others feelings rather than my own. I hate im such a terrible person.

I want to tell him that it was embarrassing! He should have given me a heads up told me he wouldn’t make it or at least let me know. He knows I’m a very punctual person and have had a lot on my plate these past few weeks because of what I study and am doing in my free time for my career.

I’m an extremely loving person and absolutely adore giving love to others. I feel embarrassed. I love giving 100% and don’t mind the absence. Because life is different for everyone so I don’t care but still… it’s embarrassing.

I’m so embarrassed. If anything this only further proves that I shouldn’t be with anyone and my plan is better. Why do I feel more embarrassed than hurt or offended?

I should have stood up for myself instead of lying. These past two months have been terrible jajaja.

I very much wish you all well. Hope you and your loved ones are safe. Please take care and thank you very much for reading, I’d appreciate any and all comments.

Hey there, I don’t use Facebook much and am typing on my phone so forgive the formatting.

I (20f) have been seeing this guy (23m) for about 4 to 5 months now. When we first started seeing each other we both agreed not to see anyone else, we both really enjoyed each other’s company and wanted to see where this would go between us. I told him I wanted to wait 3 months minimum before anything was made official

In the beginning, it was great we were both really excited about each other and what we would be doing in our future together. We were both planning on moving together at the end of the year for different reasons but it just so happened we were planning it for the same time.

He initially offered for us to find a place together which I was a little nervous about at first as we hadn’t been seeing each other that long at this point but I was also really excited about it because I was really starting to care about him.

Fast forward a month until we both moved, I told him I needed to have a frank discussion with him about what this was, we had been seeing each other exclusively for the last few months and everything was great so I figured the next step was to have that “what is this” conversation.

Well it didn’t go how I thought it would, he said he didn’t want to label anything. Yes he was really enjoying spending time with me and acting like a couple but he didn’t want to officially say we were a couple. Not gonna lie this upset me, I thought that what we had was more on the serious side and hearing that he didn’t actually wanna make anything official did sting.

He basically said why does it matter if we make it official, we act like a couple so what’s the problem. I said because it’s confusing to me. We act like a couple but I’m introduced to his friends as a friend or just [my name]. It’s not about the title or what other people think its a clarification for me that this is what I think it is and what I want it to be. I said if we act like a couple then what’s the problem with making it official, what would it change. He didnt agree and then opened up that because of his last relationship (6 years, broke up about a year ago) he has commitment issues. He doesn’t wanna rush into anything and wants to make sure that when he comits again he’s really sure about it. I understand this and respect it but also don’t think it’s fair on me. He also told me he didn’t think he was ready to move in with a partner yet, he told me he didn’t know how to bring it up because he felt like he was stringing me along, saying we could do that and then backing out when it came to it.

Again totally understandable we had only been seeing each other a couple of months and I had alternatives for movin. I appreciated the honesty about it and just needed to know where we stood.

Since I have tried talking to him about it since but he gives me the same answers so I’m at a loss. I do t wanna walk away because I do really care about him but I also feel I’m doing my self a dis service by putting up with this. I just need some friendly ish advice, please don’t be to harsh.