I was so excited when I strike Toto group 2. I couldn’t believe it was true! Finally, I had the money I had dreamed of—all I had to do was to find a way to manage it properly.

Little did I know that my windfall was going to be gone almost immediately.

Never had so much cash before, doesn’t know how to manage it

I had never managed so much cash before, and I had no idea how to do it right. I thought I could just spend it as I pleased and that everything would be fine.

So I started to splurge on things I had never been able to afford before. I bought a new car, expensive clothes, and jewelry.

I took lavish vacations and went out to eat at fancy restaurants.

I thought I was living the life I had always wanted. But I was wrong. I realized too late that I had been careless with my money. I had no savings and no plan for the future.

I hadn’t done any research on how to manage my finances, and I had no idea how to invest my money.

Spent everything, ended up in debt

I quickly found myself in debt and I had no way to pay it off. All of my money was gone, and I was left with nothing. I had made some bad decisions and I had no one to turn to for help. I felt like a fool.

I had gone from riches to rags in the blink of an eye. I had been so excited to win the lottery, but it had all been taken away from me.

I had been so naive to think I could manage so much cash without any advice or help. I had made a costly mistake and now I had to live with the consequences.

I had been foolish to think I could have it all. I had been so careless with my money, and now I had nothing to show for it.

I had learned a hard lesson, and I would never make the same mistake again.

I knew now that money wasn’t everything, and that I had to be smarter when it came to managing my finances.

I recently knew a girl from dating app.

The first 2 months were great, we chatted alot and met up weekly.

She is my type and i could totally see myself falling for her. All of a sudden, her reply to me become very slow. From texting very frequently, we now barely exchange (only) 2-3 messages daily (she can take 5-6 hours to reply a simple text).

I told her i was interested in her, but she ask me to give her more time. But her replies to me continue to be very slow.

Is this a sign that i should give up on her?

Here are what netizens think:

• She just converted you to spare tyre. Since she ghosted you. You can just ghosted her too. If she really into you, she will initiate conversation. Don’t need think so much about her.

• Yes. She wants you to give her more time to reply to other guys. Don’t expect anything from this lovely bubble of yours hor. Confirm pop.

• Meeting wkly for 2 mths wo action, gals will feel you aren’t interested in them anymore. V obv that she has better options & you became her spare ~ Skip her & move on.

• She’s slow ghosting you. People who reply slow usually means they are not interested. Should move on to other girls. Dating app leh. You should know.

• Sad for you and me bro. U just became a spare tyre. I was a spare tyre recently but deleted her contact. Dun waste time on her already. It’s tough to let her go, lots of cars have spare tyres, seems like its the dating economics. Spare tyres seems common.

I live in a HDB block. This neighbour’s flat is closer to mine than my other neighbour to my right.

Now this annoying ass neighbour sees it fit to stand outside along the corridor and TALK NON-STOP while gardening. Like calling on speaker phone, chit-chatting loudly with their friend from another level etc.

This wouldn’t normally be a problem but they do it so damn often and so damn loudly. I can hear them all the way from my kitchen!! It’s even worse in the living room and unfortunately that’s where my working area is. They also pull this shit at 10pm ??!? And a chit-chat session can last HOURS I’ve heard them talk from noon to 4pm it’s driving me insane.

I’ve tried telling them off, staring at them when they get too loud, blasting music (any recommendations for annoying music?), none of it worked.

Any ideas on how I can handle this? Am I doomed to tahan this for the rest of eternity?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your best bet probably is a charm offensive strategy. Make friends with them and then probably they might be more receptive to you.

• Nothing much you can do if he is doing that in a public space between 9-10. Call the police If it goes beyond that.

• Approach them politely and explaining that their chatting is too loud and disturbing your work. Request for them to chit chat downstairs at the void deck or elsewhere.

• There is nothing you can do, even the police come also cannot do anything. The best you can do is sue them.

My wife was busy with work so she asked me if I could bring my mother-in-law for her medical checkup instead.

Of course, I was more than willing but when I tried to apply for PCL (parental care leave for those who dk), I was rejected by my boss on the reason that my MIL is not my parent.

She told me if I wanted to apply for a day off then I need to use my regular leave. I went to check the SOPs on this and I realised that there are no clear guidelines when it comes to in-laws so technically my boss isn’t wrong and I can’t argue with her.

But doesn’t the whole thing sound ridiculous?

It’s not like I’m on duty or what, or I’m going on a holiday. I’m bringing my wife’s parent to the hospital for check up leh. There are more than enough people in office to cover so why must she be so anal about what leave to take? The more I think about it the angrier I feel.

Leave is my right and not a privilege!!!

Should have just told her I’m bringing my mom for a check up and I wouldn’t have to waste one day of my regular leave.

Recently got to meet this PR.. really kena Gong Tao from her i guess… first time I saw her, found that she got a very nice smile and was very very cute…

the next time i went down, she recognised me and the usual la.. buy flower for her, LD… blah blah…. but she never run around, the whole night with me… really got gimme the girl friend effect…

The thing is, most of the times, she is always with the a “clique” one, she acknowledges to her freinds that i am her property but i think she also very “zao gor” (take care)

her freinds one. i.e. i will ask her how many she needs to reach target, then she tells me 4 na…. so i tell her i will buy her 4 lor… then she will say something like… you buy for my friend (not pretty one) na 2+2… end up always buying for that friend also….

the other day got a newcomer PR(also not very pretty one), first day working then she told me my friend first day working na… buy for her also na, her friend na and the newcomer na 2+2+2…. 

we exchanged numbers and all, she even gimme her number in Thailand somemore, tell me that if i go thailand call her and she will “take care” me….  but she never calls me or sms me… only sms me ask me if i am going down look for her.

and if i do, on the same night, she will message me miss na… jub jub blah blah blah.. but only that night only, other than that… nothing one…it seems that the girl friend effect experiece she gimme is only when i go look for her, but nothing outside of that…. until to the point that i already sian 1/2 already… wana giving up liao…

Any bros/sis can give any advice/ thoughts?

Here are what netizens think:

• this is quite a common case for many TD bros, but not to worry too much, soon or later u’ll get used to it, just enjoy~ I understand tat u might think the gal treat u this way a bit cheating u lah.

• Then u are nothing more than just a regular customer to her..its the same as in a bank or any sales job..we are using our time to exchange for sales to hit our targets…just that this job isnt that glamorous type.

• U are just another customer for her after all.. Getting her Thai number is nothing… What are the chances of u going Thailand?

obsessed with money and felt something missing

28M here working in the pharma sector, and I regret taking a science major in university as I am stuck in a dead end job doing routine testing and to be honest.

I am quite jealous of ppl who are earning more than me, and as my company isn’t doing so well, I want to jump to somewhere that pays well, such as tech sector or civil service (because of the iron rice bowl and lots of bonus). I don’t mind the red tape and bureaucracy as long as I can get paid well.

I am obsessed with money and often spend my time looking at ways to increase my net worth, such as investments (I am covered with various short and long-term investments), and on track to hit $100k very soon. But I just feel inadequate and feels like there’s something missing in me.

I tried using dating apps but I can’t connect with the ladies in there as they aren’t up to my expectations and some of them are quite superficial,which I don’t want.

Here are what netizens think:

• “I am obsessed with money” & “some of them quite superficial”

• OP is only 28 yet believes in the concept of an iron rice bowl… OK, maybe in the civil service or public sector, since they are generally perceived to be more stable or a safe career path. But to imply that they are well-paid and have lots of bonuses… From where or whom did the OP get this idea from?! I do not think they are poorly paid, neither do I think most of them are that highly paid, as compared to the private sector.

• not up to your expectations but you call them superficial? if they were, they would try to dig for your “almost 100k” la. you must be a walking red flag.

• Dude, you’re 28, young enough to invest in reinventing yourself. Pick a profession that pays better and commit to retraining for that sector. Else just apply into the sector and try your luck. Obsessed with money is good, but over obsessed until you lose your humanity is not good. In the end, you can’t bring it with you… But meaningful relationships endure, you’re better off investing in that instead. Life is about choices, pick yours and live with your decisions…

I have recently moved into my bf house. He is a divorcee and has taken over the matrimonial home following divorce with his wife.

However, when I moved in I found it weird that he still keeps pictures of himself and his wife openly on tables and walls. I asked him about it and he just shrugged it off as keeping it for memory sake of his life journey.

So I also realized that everything in the house including bed and sofa has not been changed since when they moved in. I am not sure if anyone feels that its okay. But for me its NOT OKAY not to change the bed or at least the mattress. I do not like that idea that he and his wife had been sleeping on the mattress for years and now I have to sleep on the same mattress. I deserve a new mattress isnt it?

I told him about it and even offered to buy a new one to replace! But he just said he doesnt want to change as its not spoilt. Seriously right now I am thinking if he had even gotten over his ex-wife or not? I do not want to be in a situation when one day he decides to tell me he cant forget his ex-wife and asks me to leave the house.

Here are what netizens think:

• u r being sensitive lah. ayo…. Man only need food and X. the rest, man don’t care.

• Total Red Flag , If he doesn’t change then you should.

• U wana change a perfectly working condition bed just for u?? Mattress maybe I can understand but bed frame too??

• As for his pics with his ex wife, ask him to digitalised it and keep those pics in an album, no need to display it cos u are new mistress of the house. Displaying it like showing no respect for you. Ask him if he likes it if you openly display pics of your ex bf and you together openly in the house you guys are living in.

• But the bed frame ah… Let it stay la. Sibei sayang to throw away when it’s still good and fine. So many homeless people out there want a mattress also can’t afford, let alone a bed frame!

• His ex wife also used your bf’s Didi and lips too. Change them too.

My nerves were on high alert. I was on my very first date with this gorgeous girl I had been talking to for weeks.

We had finally decided to meet up and I was determined to make a lasting impression. I had picked out my nicest shirt and my favourite white pants, practised every conversation topic I could think of and was ready to show her my best self.

We made our way to the restaurant and I was doing my best to appear confident and cool. I resorted to my usual small talk, but it felt a bit forced and I was worried that I was coming off as too nervous.

After a few minutes of awkward conversation, our food arrived and I was relieved to have something else to focus on.

I began to eat my burger and noticed that it was a bit spicier than I had anticipated. I started to feel a bit of a rumble in my stomach and I knew that I had to be careful. I started to eat slower and hoped that the feeling would pass.

Unfortunately, my hopes were in vain. As I was taking my last bite of the burger, I felt a pressure in my stomach that I couldn’t ignore. I knew I had to act fast, so I took a deep breath, stood up, and told my date that I had to use the restroom.

I scrambled to the bathroom as quickly as I could, but as soon as I got there, it was too late. I had accidentally let out a loud fart, and it was one of the loudest ones I had ever heard. I was horrified and couldn’t believe my luck. I knew that I had to get out of there fast, so I rushed out of the bathroom, only to find that I had left a trail of ‘chocolate sauce’ on my white pants.

I was mortified. I had no idea what to do. I knew that my date had heard the noise cause the restaurant was tiny, but I had no idea if she had seen the ‘chocolate sauce’ on my pants. I wanted to make a quick escape, but I also didn’t want to appear too suspicious. Ultimately, I decided to just act normal and play it cool.

I made my way back to the table and apologized for taking so long in the restroom. I tried to act as if nothing had happened, but I could sense that my date was suspicious. She didn’t say anything, but I could tell that she was trying to figure out what had happened. I was so embarrassed that I wanted to die.

We finished the rest of the date in awkward silence, and all I wanted to do was go home and forget the whole thing. As soon as I got home, I changed my clothes, took a shower, and just tried to forget about the whole embarrassing experience.

I never did go on a second date with that girl, and I’m sure she figured out what had happened. To this day, I can’t believe I was so clumsy and made such a mistake on my very first date. I guess I’ll never know what could have happened if I hadn’t farted so loudly and gotten ‘chocolate sauce’ all over my white pants.

“I got shouted at by an uncle today and would like to know if I’ve done anything wrong.

My bf and I were at a smallish eatery with a free seating policy. There were 4 tables with face to face (f2f) seats, and 1 was available when we arrived so we took it. The other f2f tables were occupied by other couples and a group of 3. Elsewhere in the restaurant you would have to sit side by side.

Our meal came, we dug in, then an old uncle inquired from the entrance of the eatery, in an impossibly loud voice, “Can sit behind? [i.e. the side by side formation] I need your table. I have 4 pax and I have kids with me.” We asked the restaurant if we needed to move, but they said it was free seating so we don’t have to if we are uncomfortable. We then declined to move as we were midway through our meal, and the uncle was effectively shouting at us. I couldn’t understand why we were being shouted at? It was quite clear that even couples are allowed to take f2f tables – another couple had occupied the f2f table and we’ve been here more than once. I seriously doubt we have done anything wrong.

Once uncle heard that we declined, he descended at once into an angry tirade. He loudly told his kids that bf and I “have poor upbringing” and “normally people will give up their seats but they want to have their cheap candlelight dinner” as they lingered around the eatery. And could not stop pointing his fingers at bf and I. Did not appreciate this at all.

I get that he was hungry, but we were literally halfway through a meal. Couldn’t uncle have waited for a table to clear up? I mean when I go to restaurants with silly formations and sorely lacking in seats, I don’t demand that they rejig seating arrangement so that I can be seated; I simply wait for a table, annoying as waiting may be. Perhaps if the Uncle had came up to us and asked sheepishly and apologised, I would have agreed. But he chose to demand a table loudly by speaking to us halfway across the restaurant (there was nothing stopping him from entering and approaching us), and didn’t even apologise. Beyond that I really saw no reason why he had to shout at us.

It may be that we would’ve avoided all this by simply agreeing to take a side-by-side seat, but I really disliked the way Uncle felt entitled to our seat simply because he he brought 4 pax. What does one do when a restaurant runs of seats) Wait, wait, wait…”