I was employed as a waiter in an bistro owned by my boss, an insurance agent. He had made some small amounts of money from his insurance business and decided to invest in a bistro. But things didn’t go as planned and the business went south.

At first, I thought my boss was a good guy. He was friendly and always had a smile on his face. He often gave us free food and drinks, as well as compliments. We all enjoyed working for him and thought he was a great boss.

But then one month, the paychecks were late and we were starting to worry. My boss kept telling us that he was just waiting for the money to come in. But as the weeks went by, we began to realize that something was wrong. We started to suspect that our boss had been embezzling money from the business.

Sure enough, one day my boss disappeared without a trace. It turned out that he had been taking small amounts of money from our salaries and using it to pay his personal bills. He had also taken out a loan to cover some of the expenses and was unable to repay it.

I was devastated. Not only had I lost my job, but I was also out of the money I had been counting on to pay my rent and other bills. I was angry and felt betrayed by my former boss. I wanted to get my money back, but I had no idea how to do it.

My boss had gone missing, and I had no way to find him. I was so desperate that I even considered hiring a private investigator to try and locate him. But in the end, I decided against it. I figured that if I went to the police, they wouldn’t be able to do anything either.

So, I was stuck. I had no way of getting my money back, and I was out of a job. It was a difficult time, but I eventually bounced back. I found a new job and was able to get back on my feet financially.

My experience with my former boss taught me a valuable lesson. While it’s important to trust the people you work with, it’s also important to make sure that you are protected. Make sure that you always read your contracts carefully and do your due diligence when it comes to the people you work with. If something seems off, don’t be afraid to ask questions and report suspicious activity. You never know when someone might try to take advantage of you.

In November – December I found out that my dad was cheating on my mom for 2 years with my teacher(Not a school teacher just some random girl who taught me and my brother tuition) after a bit my mom goes to stay with her parents after she confronted dad about the cheating.

My dad started saying what he did was fine and she shouldn’t have to apologise for anything that he did. My mom divorced him and I found out about this in December 23th and my dad has still not told us about what he did, thinking we do not know anything (me and my older brother haven’t told him we know only our oldest brother has)

My dad keeps trying to himself look good for out mom for example im gonna buy a gift to my mom and he says “tell ur mom I bought that” it annoys me a lot and I don’t see him as the person I looked up to before.

My dad also spread rumours about my mom stealing his money and more nasty rumours and it just pissed me off more. (My dad always beat me and my siblings when we were kids) I have trouble showing emotions and I have anxiety because of him. I keep telling him that my mom won’t come back and the next time he tells me that I should hope that he and my mom get back together I would say “Dad, mom dosnt want u anywhere near her and u should accept it and move on”.

Here are what netizens think:

• Your dad sounds like a very toxic, selfish person. Work on setting up boundaries with him because he is just going to keep pushing. He doesn’t care how anybody else feels.

• At the same time, your dad seems clueless. All you’d be doing is making him upset.

Hi, could anyone please confirm if my approach is correct? Additionally, I would appreciate your feedback or advice.

I am a 35-year-old foreigner who had been unemployed for seven months since April, including the period after my last job interview, which eventually led to my current position. I dedicated numerous hours every day to job applications. The time spent editing my resume and writing cover letters was incredibly extensive. I even recorded my applications in an Excel sheet, totalling just over 200. Despite holding a PhD in life sciences from a local university and having 3 years of work experience, I found it deeply disheartening not to receive a single job offer in about six months. Out of these 200+ applications, I only had five job interviews, all of which I believe I performed extremely well in. The challenges arose due to factors such as retrenchment, the closure of biotech start-ups, switch in government’s plan for the nation, and funding cuts across research institutes. Moreover, there have been restrictions on hiring foreigners over the past 6-7 months, as observed from my foreign friends who also struggled to find jobs in Singapore. Regardless of my skills, background, knowledge, and experience aligning with job descriptions, I suspect my applications were often disregarded based on nationality.

After three months of job hunting, I broadened my options to include opportunities slightly outside my expertise, including non-research roles. About three months later, I progressed through two rounds of interviews for a position I’m not particularly interested in. I decided to accept it to sustain myself financially, planning to explore better opportunities in research later on. I couldn’t afford to stay unemployed any longer, so I opted for this job that could provide income, even if it wasn’t my ideal choice.

Here’s where the discouragement sets in. Some of my friends, including locals, criticized me for taking a job meant for more qualified candidates. They argued that these candidates might be more passionate and productive, thus it would be better for the company to hire them instead. Others questioned why I would settle for a job unsuited to my interests, implying that it would lead me back to square one if I quit after a few months. They also questioned the value of learning new skills if I wouldn’t use them in the long run when I returned to research.

I understand that highly qualified jobs are valuable and might be better suited for candidates with more relevant skills. However, am I wrong for taking a job out of necessity? I underwent tertiary education, spent months applying for jobs, put extensive effort into interview preparations, and went through the formal hiring process like any other candidate.

Why am I wrong for securing a job that isn’t my primary interest? Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated.

i could have been absolutely beautiful. instead i look like a monster.

I could have been so beautiful. I have a perfect body, and a cute face. I love everything about myself, except my teeth.

My mom never cared to get me braces, and today i look like a meme. People are visibly put off by my smile when they talk to me.

My jaw is messed up because my wisdom teeth are pushing and pushing and just making everything worse.

On my x-rays i look like my mom slept with a bird and gave birth to me. It’s just so bad, and there is nothing I can do.

I always see other people get new teeth and be happy, and i get super bitter about my life. I don’t have a single picture from after my 5 year birthday. Nothing.

I’ve completely stopped smiling. All i want is to be normal, and to be able to eat and smile like a normal person.

I want to be able to take a picture with my family without deleting it right after. I want to be able to eat a sandwich in public, and not think about how i look constantly.

Its just so messed up, and i have become so isolated because no one wants to speak to someone who doesn’t smile. I feel cursed.

My girlfriend “freebleeds” all over my apartment and I’m considering breaking up with her

I’m 24m and my gf is 22f. Several months ago she got into this new method of dealing with her periods called “freebleeding”. It’s basically where you don’t wear any pads or tampons (no menstrual products for that matter) and just let the blood flow wherever.

Initially when she told me about this I was kinda okay with it as long as she contained it in her underwear or layed on towels. But then I started noticing period stains here and there. On the couch, drops on the floor, even on the bedsheets. The stains started soaking into the mattress. I didn’t want to embarrass her so I didn’t say anything until the room started accumulating a very weird odor. She said she would start cleaning it but never did.

She started freebleeding into my boxers and when I told her I wasn’t comfortable with that she basically said all of her underwear was soaked and she didn’t have anything else. I’d had enough and told her I wanted her to wear pads or tampons again like an adult if she couldn’t contain her messes.

She said her cramps were less severe doing stuff this way and that she didn’t want to stop. Also said it was childish to act this way about some period stains. I told her it was disgusting and that blood is still a biohazard regardless of where it comes from.

She got offended, said I was calling her dirty and we started arguing. I gave her an ultimatum to use menstrual products or to get out of my apartment and we’d be done. She hasn’t talked to me since and I really don’t want to break up with her but I’m just so grossed out and can’t deal with the smell. Those boxers were high quality too.

Am I gaslighted or overthinking?

I’m one month postpartum and I believe that I wasn’t the same person I was before. Please help me and give me advice.

For context, my husband has an ex, which was a dear friend to him prior their relationship. During our dating stage, he was open to tell me that he wanted to reconnect with her cos he still sees her as a friend. But this ex has blocked him from her socials and no communication since their breakup. They have common friends so he was informed that she was getting married (this happened 2021) But he doesn’t have any updates with her since then. We got married recently and also I have given birth also.

Now, one day, I woke up in the middle of the night, and he was in the toilet. He left his computer on, out of curiosity I checked his recently closed tabs until I saw that he was looking at his ex’s FB profile (using dummy account). I know it’s wrong cos I invaded his privacy but I was just curious what he’s doing on his computer while I sleep. I confronted him about it and he told me that he felt that I violated his privacy. He even said that I had nothing to worry about and he had been open how he wanted to reconnect with her. Moreover, he said that it’s scary that I snooped on his computer like that and he didn’t once do it to me cos he respects my privacy and he trusts me. When I asked him why he was stalking his ex, he said that it wasn’t stalking but more like he wanted to see how she was doing. The argument led me apologizing to him for invading his privacy. He even said that he sees nothing wrong with what he did.

I wasn’t like this before I give birth but now I’m too sensitive about everything. Are my feelings even valid or was it really my wrong for checking his recently closed tabs out of curiosity?

Here are what netizens think:

I am looking at this logically

1. They broke up. Both moved on and are married now. Why is he still so concerned that his ex is getting married?

2. They are ‘friends’ but friends don’t get blocked on social media. He’s actually not able to let go of his ex and has been in a way disruptive to his ex so she blocks him on social media.

3. He has something on with his ex but so far the ex is not reciprocating his efforts.

4. You are invading his privacy no doubt but what made you do that? Something is really suspicious and that compelled you to take the unusual route of investigation. So don’t blame yourself for that.

5. You are post partum, you will tend to blame yourself and develop depressive thoughts due to the negative circumstances that are taking place. I’m sorry to say, your husband is not in the right state to continue the marriage. But he might be a good father. Therefore take note of your mental state and seek help if needed, don’t stop your husband from reaching his child.

Good luck.

I hate that I can never get out of the “honeymoon period”

I’ve been together with my partner for a year now and he seems to have been done with the so-called “honeymoon phase” for a while now.

He doesn’t reply instantly to my texts anymore, doesn’t need to hang out as often, and the lovey-dovey messages have decreased.

Don’t get me wrong though! I totally understand that it can’t last forever and that people have their own lives, and I know he loves me.

But hot damn why does this period never seem to end for me? I still get excited when he texts or calls me, I still love seeing him as much as I can, and I like to send him cute messages or pictures that made me think of us.

Even with my ex, it lasted for years FOR ME until he treated me like crap and we broke up.

I just wish I was more normal when it came to this. It just sucks to feel like I’m caring more even though I know it’s not true but it’s just different now.

I have hobbies and friends to keep me busy, but it’s just not enough. I wish I could just turn it off and be more chill as well.