Boyfriend (m28) insists on releasing all his load inside me (f26).

Context

I have an IUD and he usually finishes inside me. But I’m tired of being messy and having to deal with it after he leaves. I told him I don’t want him to finish inside me anymore, and he began to panic.

He says that ‘helmets’ are too expensive, a “waste” of money.

I have a skin contact allergy to men’s load so he can’t finish on my external body parts.

And I suggested he finish on a towel or tissue but he shot that down immediately.

Now he’s saying we might as well be ‘pure and virtuous’ because there are no other options.

I used to enjoy him finishing inside me, but in practice it gets so messy, over my clothes, linens, and underwear, takes forever to come out, and generally just smells bad.

What are the other locations where he can release his load? Any suggestions?

Here are what netizens think

• As a guy who wears ‘helmet’, for the exact reason of not making a mess, tell him to wrap it up. Those excuses are crap, and he knows it. You’ve set a boundary. He needs to respect it.
  
• Mouth. You could also shift responsibility for clean up to him. If he wants to finish inside he’s going to be helping you clean up.
  
• I understand unprotected s- is more appealing than having s- with what feels like slimy cling wrap on your ‘kkj’, but it’s not something worth throwing a tantrum about.
  
  Find a guy who will wrap it up or at least aid in the clean up. I can’t imagine ever leaving my partner to clean up a mess I’m partially responsible for unless told otherwise.
  
• If your main complaint is the mess and there are no other concerns like pregnancy, there are ways to fix the messiness!
  
  We keep towels in the nightstand to grab as soon as we are done so I can immediately put it between my legs while I make my way to the bathroom.
  
  Once there, I put a panty liner on to catch the remainder. I can’t stand it slowly trickling out overnight. Hope this helps.

I’m a 28 year old male and I am losing physical attraction for my 28 year old wife.

Context

We have been together since she was 19 and I was 20, we have the deepest connection I have ever felt with any other human.

In the last few years she has gained nearly 45 kg and also developed a number of open skin lesions and scarring from excessive itching all over her chest and backside – at first this didn’t really matter to me.

However, it has now gotten to a point where I love her and can find her face the cutest thing I’ve ever laid eyes on but when our clothes come off, I can’t stay turned on and can disengage mentally from s- or close my eyes to enjoy it more.

I feel awful about this and I have been hiding it by faking enjoying s- sometimes and just not bringing it up.

I screwed up in a time I got really emotional and was crying and she kept pressing me on what the issue was and I kept mentioning it was things I push away mentally (which I do very often and is something I’m in therapy for).

However, she then pressed me on an example and I was emotional and this was the only one I could think of as I was crying and I feel horrible to have let her know this. I have no idea what to do now to repair her self esteem and our relationship so looking for advice.

Also looking for advice on how I can make myself care less about her body or help her to get healthier (I’m also worried about my life partner being obese and the accompanying health issues).

This is not the first time I have brought up her weight in a health context but this is the first time I’ve communicated how much it is affecting me in the bedroom.

Here are what netizens think

• 45 kg is a lot, is her mental health ok? Is she on any meds? That kind of weight gain is often a sign that someone is not ok.
  
• The least of your concerns should be about losing attraction towards her. Look at the root of the problem. Eating disorder? Hormonal imbalance? Depression?
  
  Just honestly talk to her and ask her what can you do to help her. If you really truly love this women and know deep in your heart you will not be the same without her, help her. Be there for her and be patient & kind .That’s the best you can do to understand why she is in that state now .
  
  Much luck to you both.

My twin brother’s gf video called him, but I answered because my brother was unavailable. The gf thought I was my brother / her bf and showed me her bottom hole. Now my brother hates me.

Context

My brother and I are twins in our 20s. Not only do we share the same face, but we also share the same apartment.

Yesterday, like any other day, my brother had to poop. While he was pooping, his phone rang. He always leaves his phone charging in the living room, which happened to be where I was at the time of the call. The caller was my brother’s new gf.

She was trying to video call him. I answered the call to see if the gf would know it was me and not my brother. My intentions were harmless. I was just having fun. The gf was calling from her accommodation in Bali, which is where she went for a holiday.

The connection was really bad. We struggled to communicate. I repeatedly said my name and explained that my brother was in the bathroom, but it was unclear how much of that she understood due to the delay and us accidentally talking at the same time.

Yeah, I was done playing guess the twin. The bad connection made me skip to the part where I was trying to inform the gf that I was not her bf. I had no idea what she was able to hear, but at some point the screen froze during our video call.

It was only frozen for a few seconds. When there was movement again, I noticed the gf was spreading her bare bottom cheeks in front of the camera. I quickly ended the video call. As soon as I heard the toilet flush, I knew what had to be done.

My brother seemed somewhat confused when he saw me standing outside the bathroom with his phone in my hand. I said “you’re gonna hate me” and explained what happened. He was livid. He wanted to know if I hesitated before ending the call.

Even though I said no, he wanted me to tell him how long I hesitated. He literally wanted numbers… 2 seconds, 5 seconds, etc.

I was feeling pressured, so I said 2 seconds. Without wasting time, my brother called his gf and explained the situation before handing me his phone and telling me to apologize to her. I apologized. The gf accepted my apology.

It seemed like the air was clear between me and the gf, so I asked her what was the name of the song that was playing in the background during the final moments of our video call. She laughed and asked which song. I said all I heard was “whaaaa wha wha.”

My brother grabbed his phone from me and walked away without saying another word.

He’s been avoiding me since yesterday. I think he’s immune to all my apologies now.

I fell in love with a colleague who left his gf of many years for me and now wants to be with both of us, because he cant turn off his feelings for her or me.

Context

I (32) have been in a relationship for 4 months with a man (43) who left his girlfriend of many years (>15) for me.

Supposedly nothing was bad in their relationship and everything was perfect, but he developed feelings for me.

I quickly fell in love with him, we were on the same wavelength straight away and since he was living with her before, he moved out and in with me as that was the easiest solution.

He was honest with her and with me from the start and nothing happened with us until he ended his relationship.

He is also a work colleague, at a job I just started, just before we met.

He has been at a point 2 times where he doubted so much that he wanted to break up. He couldn’t turn off the feelings for his ex.

I understand that because it takes time after such a long relationship and feelings don’t just disappear.

But I thought that it takes time and when the house he and she share is re-rented and he has found his own place, we can focus on us.

He has found a flat that he can move into soon and we cleared out the house at the weekend and moved the furniture into containers.

As of now, their house is newly rented and I was very happy about that. Moreover, it was very intense and beautiful with us in the last time and I had the hope that everything would be fine.

Nevertheless, I constantly had a bad feeling that something would happen and he would leave. And last night he finally told me that he can’t and won’t turn off the feelings he has for his ex.

But that he also has feelings for me that he can’t and won’t turn off. But he can’t go on like this and be with me, but not with her. And the other way around. In short, he wants both.

I am totally overwhelmed and don’t know what to do now. Of course, this has shocked me and I feel sick at the thought of him being in a relationship with both of us at the same time.

On the other hand, I wonder if I’m not open enough and should give it a chance because what we have is incredible.

Also, this is the first time I’ve been happy with a job and I absolutely don’t want the situation to ruin that for me.

This all sounds super absurd and feels weird to write and I feel stupid for getting into such a situation, but maybe someone here has been in a similar situation and has a tip or two to deal with it.

I told my parents I liked men to avoid their arranged marriage proposals.

So I’m pretty straight, maybe slightly bi if we count femboys. Let’s get that out of the way first. I’m also an Indian male around 28 years of age.

My parents have been trying to find me a partner because apparently it is ‘time’ for me to settle down

I have been here for a few years while my parents are still in India.

I’d also like to clear up some misconceptions around arranged marriage. A lot of non Indians seem to think it’s literally your parents choose who you marry and that’s that, but that’s not really the case.

Instead it’s more like your parents tap their network to find potential partners for you, if you like each others pics then you guys meet in person and then you decide whether or not you want to get married.

So basically your parents are Tinder and you get a meeting or two to decide whether or not you want to get married. It’s not quite as bad as many of you think it is, but the whole process feels super rushed and I’d rather date someone before I figure out if we’re compatible or not.

Anyways, my parents have recently been getting on my case about getting married. Apparently I’m getting older, need to settle down and give them grandchildren or something like that.

Basically every time I see them or talk to them online they have a new potential match for me, a picture of some new girl and ask me if I’d be willing to meet her.

​It’s honestly super annoying, but I’m too non confrontational to really put my foot down and say “I don’t want an arranged marriage”, after all if I do there’d be an argument or at minimum some interrogation about why I don’t want one.

​Anyways, I was thinking of ways I could get them to stop harassing me about getting married and the idea in the title popped up in my head.

Decided to tell them that I like men to get them off me, but end up they try to find men to matchmake me with

I decided it’d be a lot easier to just come out and say that I like men then to explain why I didn’t want an arranged marriage.

My parents were fairly conservative but weren’t the types to disown their kids, and if I just said I like men I’d have a solid reason to not get an arranged marriage – I didn’t like girls

​Soooooooooo that’s what I ended up doing last time I was visiting back in India. They were showing me pictures of some girl and I just looked them in the eyes and said “Mom, dad, I actually like men”.

They got really quiet and awkward and asked me if I was sure and I said yes. My mom told me they’d love me no matter what and to do what makes me happy. My dad was a lot more awkward and quiet but later gave me a similar talk about how he was a bit uncomfortable with the idea, but recognizes that times are changing and I should do what makes me happy.

​Overall I did feel kinda bad because of how genuinely my parents seemed to respond to me, but was happy with the result, they stopped giving me arranged marriage proposals and stopped showing me pictures of girls

​That is until last weekend when I went back to India again. I visited them as usual and was greeted by my mom who was more excited than usual.

She sat me down and pulled out a binder with a bunch of pictures of guys. Apparently my parents had spent the last month or so looking for any and all Indian men who I could potentially marry.

So now I guess I’m dealing with the exact same crap but instead of being greeted with pictures of cute Indian girls I get to see pictures of Indian dudes instead.

FML lol

​At this point the plan is to find a girlfriend and tell my parents she totallllllllly turned me straight or just find a friend to act as my bf idk

My wife (28) and I (35) have been married for 8 years now and we have 2 kids together. Before having kids, we used to be very s-ually active, like 10x a week.

We do it very often, but it died down after we had children

Some days we would have s- in the morning, when I come home for lunch break, and again when we are in bed at night.

After our first kid, it slowed down to about 4-5x a week. Then after our second kid, finding time was hard so about 2-3x a week.

Now that both kids are a bit older and off to school, we have a little more time to ourselves during the day.

That said, she works 6 days a week and I work 5 days a week and we do not have any days where we are off together.

However, since I work from home I can see her around the house on her day off.

Today she was running errands/groceries/doing inventories for our side business.

When she got up and get ready this morning, she was wearing leggings and a cute top.

My wife is a very very attractive girl and she’s petite with all the right curves so every time I see her, it’s easy to get excited.

My work office at home is a L shape desk that you can raise or lower to be a standing desk. I prefer to stand over sitting at home so I usually work standing up and only wears a button shirt for video conference.

Sometimes, I don’t even wear underwear because no one is home anyway and it’s relaxing.

While working, my wife came home and was walking up the stairs. I was staring at her pretty much because she’s still the hottest woman I know and still a eye catcher.

She sees me looking and came over to see how my work is doing and I told her that business has slowed down quite a bit and this year is going to be rough.

Started to go under the table and gave me some mouth action, I accidentally peed in her mouth

She started teasing with her hands on my junk and said she can handle rough. This gets my blood flowing to my ‘kkj’ instead of my head and I said “wanna prove it?”.

She got under the desk and started with a little bj while I’m standing working. It was hot. Then suddenly I had a tingling sensation.

My nose was twitching and I told her to pause for a minute. She stopped the movement but still had my ‘kkj’ in her mouth.

A few seconds later I sneezed and a little pee came out. She swallowed it out of reflex and I told her that I didn’t ‘release’ and that I think it was pee.

The look of disbelief on her face and she ran to the bathroom started gargling Listerine. She said no more BJs and instead of apologizing, I said “like today or forever?”

Hi! I’m a 29 yo male and my biggest weakness is insurance ladies. I swoon over them just like how young girls would over a guy who just got into OCS. There is just something so refreshing about girls approaching guys.

Over the past 8 years I got the privilege to know and date some amazing insurance ladies. At first, I was taken aback by the notion “they just want your business” but then later on I changed my perspective and view the purchase of a policy as opportunity to start dating an insurance lady after I have verified that she is single at the first free financial consultation.

But why not just pursue them? Why do you have to buy a policy? The main reason is because buying a policy near the beginning of getting to know her will avoid yourself being labeled as “timewaster” then you can start asking her out on dates periodically which I make the most of to try and attract them.

But isn’t it a waste of money to buy policy? Why not just go to Geylang? It actually isn’t really because you are still getting critical illness and disability coverage at the end of the day. You can also get policies with significant coverage as cheaply as $95-$100/month.

But what if things don’t work out and she friendzone you? That has happened to me before and I am prepared for it. Hence, I usually go for policies with no monetary value such as term plans. I usually give myself 1 year to determine if there is real chemistry between me and said insurance lady. If not, then no hard feelings, I cancel the policy and wait for the next cute insurance lady to approach me for policy review.

But isn’t it expensive to keep cancelling and starting new policy because the premium will then be higher?

It actually isn’t. This is because as long as you are healthy and under the age of 40, the premiums will not be significantly more expensive. In fact, you may actually save on premiums because between the period when you cancelled with your current insurance lady and wait for the next insurance lady, you are not paying premiums.

Hope this advice help those hopelessly single guys get out there get some dating practice and maybe even help you land your first insurance girlfriend!

I remember the day I was scrolling through my boyfriend’s laptop, looking for the photos he’d taken from his most recent business trip. Little did I know, the photos I found on his laptop weren’t from his business trip—they were from a red-light district adventure he had gone on without telling me.

I had been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and he had just gone on a business trip for a few days. The day after he got back, I decided to snoop through his laptop to see if he had taken any interesting photos while he was away.

When I started looking through the photos, I noticed that they were all from a red-light district. The photos had a certain “seedy” feel to them, which immediately made me suspicious.

I knew my boyfriend was a bit of a wild child, but I had no idea he would go to a place like that.

Then, I noticed something else—all of the photos had synced onto his iCloud, which meant that he had deliberately taken these photos and uploaded them to his phone. I felt betrayed, angry, and hurt all at once.

After a few days of stewing in my anger, I decided to confront my boyfriend about the photos. When I asked him about the red-light district photos, he told me that he had gone on a spontaneous adventure while he was on his business trip.

He said that he had been feeling a bit adventurous and wanted to explore a new part of town. He claimed that he didn’t do anything wrong or illegal, but the photos were enough to make me feel betrayed.

My boyfriend apologized and promised to never do something like this again. He said he was sorry for not telling me about the adventure and promised to be more open and honest with me in the future.

Should I break up with him?