I had been living in Singapore all my life, but I had never ventured outside of the city before.

So, when my friend asked me to join him on a trip to Johor Bahru, I was intrigued. I had heard stories of the bustling city and wanted to experience it for myself.

We arrived in Johor Bahru late in the evening, and the streets were alive with activity. My friend and I decided to go to the local pub to get a drink. We took a seat at the bar and ordered a couple of beers. It was then that I noticed a woman sitting at the other end of the bar. She was a hostess, wearing a tight dress and high heels.

The woman approached us and asked if we wanted her service.

My friend and I politely declined and continued to sip our beers. As we were talking, the woman started to tell us her story. She said that she had been working in the pub industry for the past five years to support her single-mom life. The money she earned was barely enough to make ends meet, and she was struggling to get by.

The woman asked us if we could help her out by giving her some ladies drink. She said she would be very grateful if we could just help her with a few dollars to make ends meet. My friend and I looked at each other and decided to do our part to help her out of her situation. We gave her some money and she thanked us profusely.

The woman then proceeded to tell us her story in more detail. She said that she had been working in the pub industry since she was a teenager, and she had never been able to break out of the cycle. She had dreams of going to uni and having a better life, but she knew that was out of her reach due to her meager income.

She then asked me for Wechat and asked if she is attractive. I replied yes, she asked if we could be friends and I agreed.

Soon after she kept texting and texting and asked if she could be my girlfriend. We then go further and further. Eventually, she wanted to leave the pub and asked if I can rescue her from nightlife (Rescue meaning take care of her)

I told her no and said I couldn’t even afford to take care of myself. She has the perception that Singaporeans are rich and money grew on trees.

I’m really afraid to love or commit myself fully in a relationship.

The first crush I had, we clicked well together and we ended talking just like how couples do. But maybe I’m the only one who think that we’re in a rs after all. She ended up ghosting me out of nowhere which makes me question a lot on what had I done wrong and why.

After a few years, I was ready to love and give it a go again to find someone that I want to spend my whole life with. Due to my career and work, it was difficult to meet someone new. So I decided to try on a dating app, which most of my friends found their one there.

And finally after almost close to a year, I matched a girl during circuit breaker period. Our conversation are always two way and we clicked so well. Long story short, we ended up in a rs. Two years plus gone by so fast and I’ve always thought she is the one. What I didn’t expect, suddenly happens. One day, she just drop a big bomb out of nowhere saying all the flaws that I have and things she dislike about me and this rs which she didn’t mention before cause she said she wants to be understanding.

I’ve always told her to let me know what’s she had on her mind or about me so all along I thought everything was fine. In the end, she break it off over a text saying love isnt enough here anymore which I don’t get why she wouldn’t give us a chance or at least meet in person. I couldn’t accept that things just ended this way so I went over and met her. Just to tell her the solutions I came up with to overcome this situation, but the more I talk to her I started to notice she’s gone.

The last thing she said to me was smth too painful for me to deal with. She said she didn’t want to do this to me, and tbh she found someone new and is happier now. Yea I was shocked and took me awhile to get my mind back because it’s just right after we broke up. So yea I really wish her the best, there’s nothing I could do anymore. She’s the only one that I gave all my love to, therefore this is the biggest trauma I have.

I’m afraid to love again just for this to happen in the end. Knowing all the promises doesn’t mean anything and can be broken off so easily. I just feel like I’m replaceable and can be dispose anytime when ppl find someone better than me.

Thank you for reading, it really meant a lot to me to be able to share it out. Sorry if my English is not up to standard. Hope everyone stays strong and have a good day.

A lie

Just sharing a terrible experience today.

I am a singaporean with malaysian spouse staying in JB. Today I cross the borders to Singapore to look for part time work. I contact a fast food restaurant for an interview. The famous KFC restaurant.

Despite showing him my pink IC, the manager asked for my passport as well. I didn’t know that when applying for work, singaporeans need to show passport as well.

He even said no passport cannot work, illegal immigrant he called me. I said Hello, I have pink IC, you want my passport what for? You have plans to harm my family in Malaysia? Or you are a robber planning to rob us? He said it’s under HR request.

I stopped replying him and texted another KFC manager, she’s my classmate from ITE. She said no, singaporeans only requires to show IC, vaccination cert and food & hygiene cert if we have any. She said I am welcome to work for her if I do need a job.

Today I finally knew, singaporeans whom marry a citizen of another country, need to show passport when applying for a job in their home country. We are being treated as foreign workers here despite we have flushed our pink IC out.

I do not know whether to laugh or to be angry now……..oh yes I am going to use a skill which is common in singaporeans behavior, to submit a complain against him.

Valentine Day is around the corner. Looking back, there are many things that I want to share.

Throwback to two years ago, 23 years old, I never had a boyfriend. I am that kind of girl with pimples and oily skin. I deemed myself to be single.

Throwback to one year ago, 24 years old, I had my first boyfriend. A boyfriend who loves you for who you are, when he tells you you look better without makeup.

A boyfriend who accompanies you ups and downs. However, as a ladies man, he was talking to other girls too. I was unable to accept it and the relationship fell apart.

Currently, I am in a loving relationship with my fiance.

He is everything I wanted, smart, caring, generous and kind. Most importantly, treats you well, protects you and encourages you. What I want to say is don’t lose hope. A failed relationship does not mean that you are doomed. Be at your very best, be yourself and you will attract the right one. No mind games, no forced convo, and everything just flows.

Here are what netizens think:

• You sound like a person who let your emotions rule your head. Less than a year of being together is still honeymoon phase. Most people who are level headed will ride out at least a few years of being in a relationship with the same person before committing.

• One year ago you are with first boyfriend. Now you have a fiancé? How long was the relationship with the fiancé?

• I couldn’t help but to compare the two…. Ex BF and fiance. A ladies man and one who is not. Good looking and charming against one who is neither?

New staff I hired is paid higher than me

How do you manage the emotional imbalance and confusion if you are to hire your new staff whom is paid slightly higher than you?

And what about your new peers whom are also paid higher than you? I am not privy to such information but happened to chance upon it and being the longest staff around, I am happy to welcome new members who will of course take on or support some of my overwhelming work section but I don’t know how to make out of my inner thoughts when I know all these people are paid higher than me whom I will need to teach and guide over time..

And for those who will suggest I speak to my boss for increment, how do I just do so without showing that I am aware of these people payscale? Or should I just be contented and purge all those thoughts out of my head and mind my own biz? Overall, I enjoyed being in this organization as a whole.

Here are what netizens think:

• Being too comfortable in a place is never good thing in terms of salary progression that is. Loyalty no longer bags you bigger bags, jumping does. So usually people would jump out then back in after a few years outside to get that salary increment. All the best OP!

• You should be thankful you have a job.. Don’t compare.. If not happy.. Just go look for another one and demand more.. No one is stopping you…

• 1)i thought hiring managers should not know thier staff salary except HR ..Are you in the HR?
  2)you train or not..sorry to say companies wont care unless you have not explain in your yearly performance.

• Nowdays its like that. Previous batch n new batch have different salary. This is company decision so if u want to know u have to ask them. U also can make a decision to see if u can get higher pay but maybe with other company

My friend (24,M) who got together with his girlfriend (23,F) about a year ago had a pact to not check each others’ phones in the name of trust. This pact got revoked for reasons unknown and he realized he is in deep trouble.

How to influence the algo???

Bro has won in TikTok’s algorithm. XMMs, university students, OLs, you name it, his FYP has it.
When did TikTok come out? Google says September 2016. Mans spent hours daily scrolling and liking any content that has girls he finds cute, maybe a few food videos, maybe some cats.

The things we do for love

Alas, now that his phone can be checked by his gf, he needs to clear out his ‘liked’ content. On the first day of operation: CLEANSE, he spent 3 hours in bed un-liking as many as he could. A friend was helping him to check and scrolled through his liked content to check their progress only to find out that he has been literally scrolling down for 4 minutes and the liked videos has not yet ended. If I had to put a number on the number of videos he liked I could safely say it’s above 5000.

When asked “bro why you have so many liked videos?”, he looked at us and he really said: “Ting ting ting tang tang ting”

He hopped on the computer cause pointing and clicking might be faster than un-liking them on an iPhone. We will all chilling at a friend’s house together and when it was time to go home he was still at it. See, this is why you download and save them elsewhere instead of liking them you don’t like so much content.

I have not heard from my friend in a few days.. I hope he is still alive. #1view1prayer

A man recently shared that he used replica AirPods and boasted about its quality.

Here is what he said:

I used to be a Jabra Sport Elite fan. Until they started hurting after wearing them for more than 1.5 hours. It was during this period that AirPods became the latest tech craze. However, as a broke student, this meant purchasing them = eat grass for 6 months.

Then I stumbled upon the random chinese replicas, discovered more models, sellers, chips, features and just went down the rabbithole.

As of writing this post, I can safely say today’s replica AirPods have come a long way (AirPods Max also have horh). Battery life is fantastic, transparency and noise cancellation works perfectly (I compared to my brothers’ retail AirPods).

Sound quality: 9/10 Honestly, these reps have much better sound quality than my previous V4.8 (AirPods Pro Gen1 rep). And I don’t know why some people complained about the bass, it’s actually great! However, it doesn’t get as loud as my V4.8, as the V5.1 using 7mm drivers, while the V4.8 are based on 13mm drivers.

Features (ANC/Transparency)

ANC: 8/10 I have tried original AirPods Pro 2. And I have to say that ANC is almost 1:1. That’s great for this price. No, the original Pro2’s are not blocking out all noises for 100%. It’s just reducing the amount of noises you hear, mostly in a quiet way.

Transparency: 10/10 Absolutely amazing, original AP Pro 2’s are just a tiny bit better than the V5.1.

Force touch controls: 10/10 Can’t complain about all of the controls. They work just fine, and I hope they do work anytime.

Microphone quality: 8/10 Absolutely fine. Records fine, call quality is good too. Could be a little bit clearer, but it’s okay considering the “low” price I got them for.

Spatial audio: 7/10 Works, but I’m never gonna use it. Chinese voice plays when switching between Spatial audio modes. Battery life: 9/10 Used for almost 3h, with 36% volume, and still had 62% remaining. Keep in mind that it’s the first day, so this numbers will probably change in the future.

Expect around 80SGD in damage

(Disclaimer: Not promoting for any supplier, not advocating for replicas, not affiliated with any brand nor supplier)

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I (29f) found years worth of explicit messages between my partner (45m) and another girl and not sure what to do next

As the title says, I found at least three years (I stopped scrolling at that point because there were too many and my hand was aching) of texts between my long term boyfriend and some girl.

We’ve been together since 2019 and these go back at least to 2020. There were even texts where she was asking him if I was around and if he really loved me.

I’ve never gone through his phone before, don’t really know why I did now, but I did and I’m torn on what to do next.

At this point int the relationship, our lives are pretty intertwined. We live together, we share a bank account, this list goes on and on.

My first reaction is to want to confront him and leave him right away but i know realistically i should stop and think.

What if anything should I do or prepare before I bring this up with him?

Netizens’ comments

1. YOU BREAK UP. I am so sick of seeing posts where the older man is clearly a predatory, and a creep on top of that. This should not even be up for debate. He’s 16 years older than you AND he cheated. You don’t prepare to bring it up at all.
2. Make an exit plan. Where are you going to go immediately? Can you get a place on your own? If you can, do that first. If not, figure out who you can stay with. If you have a current lease, figure out what you need to do to get off of it and get your name removed from any utilities or other shared bills. Cancel any insurance policies that are in both of your names and get one for just yourself.
3. Go talk to your own divorce lawyer, and do it on the sly. Get some advice that actually applies to your situation.
   If you do break up, you want the best terms you can get. For instance, you keep the home (whether rented or owned). Lawyer may tell you how to keep the most money from your shared account, etc.
   Even if you stay with him, knowledge is power. Please keep reminding yourself: He has cheated on you.