My blood is boiling. A few months ago, my wife made plans with her friend to go to a club. She’s pretty introverted and typically is more inclined to play video games at home than go to some loud event, so I was happy she was so excited to go out.

Tonight was it. She got dressed up really nicely and looked stunning. I was their chauffeur for the night so they could have some drinks.

I went back home after dropping them off and didn’t expect to hear from her until later.

About 9pm I get a text from her saying that she wants to go home and that there were some guys making her uncomfortable. I was out the door in about 2 seconds.

On the way there, she called me and asked me to just stay on the phone with her. She had gotten separated from her friend in the crowd and some guy was following her. I swear to god I would have drove my car through the doors of the venue if it meant I could to get to her faster. Luckily, she found her friend and I was able to pick them up without much issue.

She explained that there were some guys hitting on them and asking to dance. Her friend danced with one guy but my wife was just vibing to the music and didn’t want to dance. Well I guess that wasn’t good enough of a reason for the other guy and he kept pestering her and getting in her personal space and asking her why she didn’t want to.

“Your friend is dancing, why won’t you?”, “Why are you being so shy?”, “I don’t see your husband here” , “just come dance, don’t be boring.”

She said she needed to ‘go to the restroom’ and her friend got the cue and they went somewhere else. Well, the creep started pestering them again.

That’s when my wife started panicking and texted me.

She was shaken up, but this wasn’t even the first or nearly the worst time this has happened to her. She’s been stalked by creepy guys at least a dozen times in her life that I know of.

I gave her a big hug and told her I’m sorry that it happened but that she was safe. There really wasn’t anything else I could do.

I just held her for a minute and hid my blood-curdling rage.

I know that this kind of thing is extremely common for women to go through. I don’t understand how these predatory pieces of shit can have such utter disregard for women.

I got rejected because I’m too tight?

(28) F here. Met up with a guy on Friday after what seemed like a good connection. We were f-ing and he paused mid saying I needed “an average” guy because I’m too tight?

He was complaining that he was feeling more pain than pleasure and blamed it on me, saying that he’s trying his hardest to stuff it in and he’s not enjoying it at all.

So he’s into loose women? Can you even feel anything? I don’t know if the problem here lies with me or lies with him.

everything went from great to bizarre. I have been with guys around his size before and never had a bad time? am I the problem?

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m too tight but I’m the one bothered by it. Everyone has different sensitivities. Guys of a certain size rip and tear me; even with lube and going slow and prepping me. But they don’t feel discomfort themselves.
   You are the opposite version. You didn’t feel discomfort but he did. Nobody is wrong or bad. Body compatibility is a real thing. Don’t take offense. Just move on.
2. Not a problem with you, just his preference. There are way too many people in the world for either of you to worry about this.
3. That really is one odd preference, but to each their own. It’s better he was up front now instead of months later.
4. My friend (well endowed) says it absolutely hurts to the point where he wants to tear up when he’s with someone too tight. He’s been turned down and turned down many girls cause of this issue.
   It’s not you at all.
5. I’ve heard guys say it can hurt if they are too big for their partner. They do stretch more when fully turned on though so he could have taken time out to pleasure you more. Either way nothing wrong with you, don’t worry about it, sometimes things don’t work out
6. Personally? I don’t like overly tight. My wife thinks I’m weird. I’ll spend a long time “warming her up” prior to piv, too relax her and make it looser, although occasionally I’ll really cave getting a squeeze too.
   Social expectations are that tighter is better, so there is a mindset, specially in younger people, that if you’re not super tight you’re not as good as the next. 

My wife (34f) and I (37m) are planning a slightly delayed honeymoon that we are paying for ourselves. We’ll be gone for Christmas this year and the idea is to have a quiet Christmas in a foreign country with just the two of us, our new little family that will hopefully be gaining a new member about 9 months from the honeymoon.

I have a great relationship with my in-laws and they have been beyond generous with us. They paid for a lavish wedding and are just all-around generous and welcoming. My wife has a somewhat strained relationship with her mother and when they spend a lot of time together it usually puts my wife in a negative headspace. Despite this, they spend a lot of time together.

Over lunch today, my MIL found out we would be gone for Christmas and immediately started planning with the rest of the table to join us for part of the trip. My wife agreed that it was a great idea and they all started making plans. Nobody asked me how I felt.

I stayed out of the conversation because I didn’t want to make a scene since there was extended family there. I kept squeezing my wife’s leg and trying to communicate with my eyes that I was uncomfortable but she either ignored me or didn’t realize.

As soon as we left the restaurant, my wife asked me if I was upset. I told her I was very upset and hurt that nobody thought to ask me about my preference. She told me that it probably wouldn’t pan out anyway and that I was overreacting. I told her she was dismissing me and then she got in her car and drove off without saying goodbye.

I have been home for hours now and she has been in the bedroom intermittently napping. I don’t want to make this fight bigger than it already is, but I’m getting increasingly frustrated and hurt that my wife hasn’t attempted to make peace or even acknowledged me.

If they joined us, it would be up to 7 people including siblings and partners. They discussed visiting us for only Christmas Day, but already the MIL is vying for more time. I can feel my honeymoon being chipped away. Not only is this a very different plan than my wife and I had discussed in private, but I’m concerned that my MIL’s presence will put my wife in a bad mood. I’m also concerned that I will be in a bad mood because it’s not what I want at all. I don’t want any bad feelings on my freakin honeymoon!

Besides feeling dismissed, I’m frustrated because the fact that my MIL thinks she is being denied spending Christmas with us means that my wife never communicated that we intend to alternate years and this year belongs to my family. So that’s a bigger issue. And the fact that my wife enthusiastically agreed to the plan means that if we tell the in-laws that they are uninvited, it will be clear that I am the reason. I wish my wife would stand up to her mother rather than making me look like the bad guy.

But is it antiquated to expect that we spend our honeymoon entirely by ourselves? Am I a bad husband if I don’t find a way to bend on this

Guy humilates me for being “Too wet and nasty”?

22 f. This morning I had a guy over after chatting with him for a week on Tinder. i don’t know, i knew something was off in the first 10 mins of the session because he would look down and make these facial expressions of disgust…

it made me feel so insecure and off ….he went soft on me throughout the session, and we just called it quits.

I asked him what was wrong, and he just replies “I thought another dude finished inside you with the amount of slime you have coming there, you gotta tone that down it’s a turnoff for most guys”

I was struggling to make sense of what he said then and so confused that i just responded ” a real man would be elated if you’re causing that”

He responds “Not to me its gross”

I have never had an encounter like this…. and I can’t control how i feel or what my body decides to do when im excited and getting caught in the moment, sometimes i wish i do Cuz i get a little embarrassed sometimes…

Do you think it was something else or code for something else that he just doesn’t wanna say? Can anyone make sense of this and the issue? is this really a turn off for some guys????

Edit: I’m very hygienic, i spend hours in the bathroom getting ready to start my day every morning.

Netizens’ comments

1. So this guy was offended by your natural lubrication? That tells me he’s dead in the bedroom and is used to dry poo-say
2. He is immature and selfish and does not deserve the attention you gave him or the time you shared with him; I am sorry that happened. Never compromise your standards to be with with anyone
3. I’m thinking he really had no experience. One day he’ll look back and feel humiliated that he ever treated you like this…once he has enough experience to see reality.
4. Even worse is that he EVER thought it was okay to speak like that to someone, never mind when you are in a vulnerable position of mid-act. His attitude is the only “nasty” thing that happened here.
5. He’s inexperienced and judgmental. Just avoid him because I can tell you straight up the majority of us men crave this! And why? It’s a sign you’re obviously turned on by us and what we’re doing, plus your body has the ability to produce ample amounts of natural lube easily, which some women have issues doing.

i lost my virginity at a massage parlor at 18 and i feel so much shame

when i was 18, i went with a few friends to a massage parlor in JB to lose my virginity. The girl that I chose led me into the room.

i was really nervous, and she told me to have a shower, i hopped in the shower and showered and put my boxers back on, she came back into the room after i was done.

she then grabbed my pants and pulled them down, and she massaged me on the table when i was lying face down, and then i flipped over and she saw my D at full attention, she then put a condom on and blew me.

after i f her and came super quickly. the whole experience blew my mind, she was really genuinely nice to me and said how handsome i was ( I know she is getting paid but it was still nice)

I have a long history of suffering from extreme anxiety, and this experience was basically the first time in my life anyone had shown me any affection (again, I know it’s paid but still) and at the time it really did help me overcome my fear of talking to women and it gave me a lot more confidence.

I went back two more times to massage parlors after that day, and again when I was in Thailand I brought two prostitutes back to my hotel room

At the time, I thought this was acceptable behaviour, as I have been doing a lot of inward reflection I have come to the conclusion that this is not acceptable at all and the whole thing is just damaging in a lot of ways to both parties involved.

and it pains me, because this can’t really be talked about openly with anyone around me. it has put me in a little bit of a world of my own.

I am crippled by feelings of shame over my decision to use escorts. I know that I was doing my best with the information and mental state I had at the time, but it is still shameful. and when I think about forming relationships with girls and dating, it’s saddening to me that this is part of my past.

I don’t know how this will be received by girls, and overall I am just sad at the moment at myself.

life has been exceptionally difficult for me for a long time, it feels like I have had to fight tooth and claw to even get to where I am mentally at the moment but it hurts when you have things part of your past that can’t be changed.