Not allowing my girlfriend to go clubbing with her friends until she finished the dishes?
My (F25) girlfriend has stopped doing the dishes on days that are her turn over the past two weeks. When I asked her to do them and why she wasn’t doing them, she would just tell me to stop nagging her and that she’ll get to it later.
For context, we’ve lived together for five months and this has never been an issue before.
This has left me to do the dishes every damn day and it’s starting to piss me off. Tonight, there was a large stack of dishes yet my girlfriend refused to do them again.
I refused to let her use my car until she finished doing the dishes. She screamed at me for being a “controlling a-hole” and didn’t even end up going out with her friends.
Netizens’ comments
You didn’t ‘not allow her to go clubbing” – you denied her the use of your car after you’ve been picking up her share of the chores for the last 2 weeks. NTA
She’s not a roommate, she’s your PARTNER and relationships are supposed to be about give and take. But she’s not pulling her weight and then still wants to use your car? You didn’t stop her from going clubbing (she could have gotten a friend to pick her up (they could have left the club to pick her up) or taxied or something), you just put forward a boundary and she didn’t take it well.
There will be moments in your life (sickness, emergencies, pregnancy, kids, etc.) when sticking to the schedule will be impossible, and this means you’ll have to work together instead of against each other. If the only problem is the dishes, try finding another compromise. Maybe she can do other chores you hate instead. Maybe you can invest in a dishwasher. If the problem is her not being responsible enough in general, that’s another story.
It’s not unrealistic to expect your partner to follow through on agreements you’ve made regarding how you will live together. If it were a one-time situation where she just was done for the day and needed to get out and blow off some steam, fine, but this has been ongoing and it is a change in behavior from previous months when she would do the task. I know some people feel that your response was paternal, but one aspect of a partnership is mutual respect and communication which she has clearly discarded.
Playing football and golf has been my favorite pastimes since I was a child. It’s great to get some exercise and have fun with my friends.
However, after playing either one of these sports, my body would usually ache a lot. It would take me some time to recover and I needed a proper massage to help me relax and get rid of the aches.
I cannot afford proper massage because they are usually too expensive, but the prices in the cheaper parlours are a trap for ‘specials’
Unfortunately, proper massage parlours were too expensive for me. I wanted to get a massage but I couldn’t afford it. So, I decided to look around for cheaper parlours, which turned out to be a huge mistake.
The parlours that I found were charging a much lower price, but they were only interested in earning money from special services.
When I went in, I was immediately greeted by a friendly lady. She offered me a massage for a very low price but I sensed something was off.
She kept hinting at special services, and when I declined, she became increasingly insistent. I had no choice but to leave the parlour, feeling embarrassed and violated.
I soon realised that I should have done my research before going to such parlours. I should have read reviews or asked around for recommendations.
Going to such places might have saved me some money, but it would have been a huge risk.
I ended up not getting a proper massage and the aches from playing football and golf were more prolonged.
There was no one I could turn to for help and I didn’t want to risk getting into any more trouble. I eventually had to resort to self-massage, which only helped a little.
WOMAN TO BE CHARGED FOR KNOWINGLY CONSPIRING TO ASSIST SCAM SYNDICATES IN MONEY LAUNDERING ACTIVITIES
A 57-year-old woman will be charged in court on 24 March 2023 for her involvement in various offences related to cheating, computer misuse and money laundering.
Investigations revealed that between July 2020 to August 2022, the woman had allegedly opened six bank accounts, which she had quickly relinquished to her online lovers. The bank accounts with United Overseas Bank (UOB Bank), DBS Bank Limited (DBS Bank), CIMB Bank, Maybank, RHB Bank and Industrial and Commercial Bank of China (ICBC Bank), were allegedly used to launder proceeds of crime amounting to more than S$25,000. The woman was also believed to have relinquished her UOB bank account’s ATM card and i-banking credentials to facilitate the unauthorised transactions.
The woman faces the following charges:
four counts of cheating under Section 417, read with Section 109 of the Penal Code, for deceiving four banks into opening the bank accounts, which carries an imprisonment term of up to three years or a fine, or with both.
two counts of cheating under Section 417, read with Section 109, of the Penal Code 1871, for deceiving two banks into opening the bank accounts, which carries an imprisonment term of up to three years or a fine, or with both.
one count of engaging in a conspiracy to cause a computer to perform a function for the purpose of securing access without authority to a program and facilitating unauthorised transactions on her bank account under Section 3(1), read with Sections 10, 11 and 11A, of the Computer Misuse Act, which carries an imprisonment term of up to two years or to a fine of up to $5000, or to both.
one count of entering into an arrangement to facilitate the retention of benefits from criminal conduct using her bank accounts sometime in 2020 under Section 44(1)(a), punishable under Section 44(5)(a), of the Corruption, Drug Trafficking and Other Serious Crimes (Confiscation of Benefits) Act, which carries an imprisonment term of up to ten years or a fine of up to $500,000, or to both.
one count of entering into an arrangement to facilitate the retention of benefits from criminal conduct using her bank accounts sometime in 2022 under Section 51(1)(a), punishable under Section 51(5)(a), of the Corruption, Drug Trafficking and Other Serious Crimes (Confiscation of Benefits) Act 1992, which carries an imprisonment term of up to 10 years or a fine of up to $500,000, or to both.
The Police take a serious view of these offences and will not hesitate to take action against individuals who allow their bank accounts to be used for money laundering. To avoid being an accomplice to crime, members of the public should always reject requests by others to use their bank accounts as they will be held accountable if the bank accounts are linked to crimes.
For more information on scams, members of the public can visit www.scamalert.sg or call the Anti-Scam Hotline at 1800-722-6688. Anyone with information on such scams may also call the Police Hotline at 1800-255-0000 or submit information online at www.police.gov.sg/iwitness. All information will be kept strictly confidential.
PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 23 March 2023 @ 9:15 AM
A 28-year-old man and a 43-year-old man were arrested by the police for cheating, they had allegedly offered hotel room bookings on Carousell, taken money from the victims for the said “booking” and became uncontactable after that.
Police’s press release
TWO MEN ARRESTED FOR CHEATING
The Police have arrested two men, aged 28 and 43, for their suspected involvement in separate cases of cheating involving hotel room bookings.
In February and March 2023, the Police received two separate reports of cheating related to hotel room bookings. In both the reports, the victims responded to listings on Carousell by unknown sellers offering hotel room bookings. After deciding on the room types and length of stay, the victims transferred a sum of $270 and $430 each to the sellers’ bank accounts as a deposit. Upon receipt of the deposit, both sellers became uncontactable.
Through follow-up investigations, officers from Woodlands Police Division established the identity of the sellers for both cases and arrested them on 21 March 2023. Preliminary investigations reveal that both men are believed to be involved in at least 10 other cases of cheating related to hotel scams, involving losses of at least $3,000.
The men will be charged in court on 23 March 2023 with cheating under Section 420 of the Penal Code 1871, which carries an imprisonment term of up to 10 years and a fine.
For more information on scams, members of the public can visit www.scamalert.sg or call the Anti-Scam Helpline at 1800-722-6688. Anyone with information related to such scams may call the Police Hotline at 1800-255-0000 or submit information online at www.police.gov.sg/iwitness.
All information will be kept strictly confidential. If you require urgent Police assistance, please dial ‘999’. Fighting scams is a community effort. Together, we can ACT Against Scams and prevent our loved ones from becoming the next victim!
PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 22 March 2023 @ 9:30 PM
50 PERSONS INVESTIGATED IN MULTI-AGENCY ENFORCEMENT OPERATIONS
A total of 27 men and 23 women, aged between 17 and 77, are being investigated for various offences, following a multi-agency enforcement operation conducted from 6 to 10 March 2023.
The operation was led by Bedok Police Division and supported by officers from the Criminal Investigation Department, Central Narcotics Bureau (CNB), Health Sciences Authority (HSA), Immigration & Checkpoints Authority (ICA), Singapore Customs, Land Transport Authority (LTA), Singapore Food Agency (SFA), and Ministry of Manpower (MOM). The operation aimed to clamp down on illegal activities in Geylang, including illegal gambling, vice activities and sale of illegal sexual enhancement medication, among others.
The details of some of these operations are as follows:
Illegal gambling
In a joint enforcement operation against illegal gambling involving officers from Bedok Police Division, ICA and MOM, a unit along Geylang Road was raided.
Five men and 16 women, aged between 35 and 77, are being investigated for offences under the Gambling Control Act 2022.
Of the five men investigated, a 36-year-old man is also being investigated for working without a valid work pass under the Employment of Foreign Manpower Act 1990. More than $83,000 in cash and gambling paraphernalia were seized.
Under Section 24(3)(a) of the Gambling Control Act 2022, an individual who organises or manages, or assists in organising or managing an unlawful gambling place shall be guilty of an offence and be liable on conviction to a fine of up to $200,000 and imprisonment of up to five years.
Under Section 18(3)(a) of the Gambling Control Act 2022, an individual who conducts betting operations, gaming, or lotteries unlawfully, shall be guilty of an offence and be liable on conviction to a fine of up to $200,000 and imprisonment of up to five years.
illegal medicine and pills
In a series of joint enforcement operations along the Geylang Lorongs involving officers from HSA, ICA and CNB, electronic vaporisers and unregistered health products consisting of cough syrup and various enhancement products with an estimated value of around $5,000 were seized.
Three men, aged between 19 and 46, are being investigated under the Health Products Act 2007. Of the three men investigated, a 26-year-old man is also being investigated under the Tobacco (Control of Advertisement and Sales) Act 1993.
Those found guilty of importing, manufacturing and/or supplying of unregistered health products, may be liable to an imprisonment term for up to two years and/or fined up to $50,000.
Those found guilty of selling, offering for sale, possessing for sale, importing, or distributing e-vaporisers and its accessories, are liable to a fine not exceeding $10,000, imprisonment of up to six months, or both, for the first offence; and to a fine not exceeding $20,000, imprisonment of up to 12 months, or both, for the second or subsequent offence.
In addition, for possessing, using, or purchasing such items, offenders are liable to a fine not exceeding $2,000.
Illegal cigarettes
Officers from Singapore Customs conducted an enforcement operation along the Geylang Lorongs against duty-unpaid cigarettes, and a 26-year-old man was arrested under the Customs Act 1960, while 15 men, aged between 27 and 68, were issued composition sums and an advisory under the Customs Act 1960.
Buying, selling, conveying, delivering, storing, keeping, possessing, or dealing with duty-unpaid goods are serious offences under the Customs Act 1960 and the Goods and Services Tax (GST) Act 1993.
Massage parlour & illegal employment
Officers from Bedok Police Division conducted an enforcement operation against an exempted massage establishment along Geylang Road. Five women, aged between 17 and 41, were arrested for offences under the Employment of Foreign Manpower Act 1990.
A 31-year-old man is also being investigated for employing a foreign employee without a valid work pass under the Employment of Foreign Manpower Act 1990.
Officers from MOM also led an enforcement operation against illegal employment in the vicinity of Geylang Serai.
A 31-year-old man and a 34-year-old woman were arrested for working without a valid work pass under the Employment of Foreign Manpower Act 1990. Those convicted can be fined up to $20,000, jailed for up to two years, or both.
Errant PAB users
Officers from LTA conducted an enforcement operation against non-compliant active mobility devices. A 23-year-old woman and a 32-year-old man are under investigation for offences under the Road Traffic Act 1961 for their involvement in riding of non-compliant and unregistered Power-Assisted Bicycles (“PAB”).
Any person who rides a non-compliant PAB on any road may face a fine of up to $20,000, imprisonment of up to 24 months, or both.
In the case of a repeat offender, a fine not exceeding $40,000, imprisonment up to 48 months, or both. Persons who use or keep an unregistered PAB may face a fine not exceeding $2,000, imprisonment of up to three months, or both.
In the case of a subsequent conviction, they may face a fine not exceeding $5,000, imprisonment of up to six months, or both.
Investigations against the 50 individuals are ongoing.
Commanding Officer of Geylang Neighbourhood Police Centre, Superintendent of Police Muhammad Firdaus Bin Abdul Raub expressed his appreciation to all the agencies involved for their strong support and commended the officers for their professionalism and excellent teamwork during the operation. The Police will continue to work closely with other enforcement agencies to clamp down on illegal activities.
The Police take a zero-tolerance approach towards illegal activities and will take firm action against those who blatantly disregard the law. Members of the public are advised to report those engaging in unlawful activities to the Police.
PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 22 March 2023 @ 1:00 PM
I was on my way to meet a girl I had been talking to for a few weeks. She was stunningly beautiful and I was excited to finally meet her in person.
I am a ‘neh neh’ lover, only want to date minimum ‘C cup’
However, as I got closer to the place where I was supposed to meet her, I started to get nervous. You see, I had a certain criteria I had to follow when it comes to the girls I date.
I only date girls with a minimum bra cup size of C. This may sound shallow and judgmental, but I was confident that my standards were justified.
When I arrived at the girl’s house, I was taken aback. She was so much more beautiful than in the pictures and her ‘size’ looks good under her shirt.
We started talking and I felt like I could be completely honest with her. So, I decided to tell her about my preference for the girls I date. I immediately regretted it.
The girl’s face dropped and I could tell that she was hurt. She told me that she was a small B cup and that she had always been insecure about her ‘neh neh’ size which was why she wear pushup to come out and meet me.
I felt terrible, but I couldn’t ignore my preference. I apologized and said goodbye.
As I drove home, I felt disappointed in myself. I had been so focused on a superficial detail that I had failed to appreciate the person in front of me.
I had let my shallow standards get in the way of something that could have been really special.
I felt even worse when I got home and saw a message from the girl. She had sent me a short note saying that she never wanted to see me again and that she was done with me.
I had ruined something wonderful with my rigid standards. From that day forward, I resolved to be more open-minded when it comes to the girls I date.
I had learned the hard way that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.
An image of a Mercedes was seen on Facebook with a carton box on top if it as well as a ticket from the authorities.
The image was accompanied by a caption which says that the incident happened at Blk 981 Buangkok Crescent yesterday 22-03-2023 where the Mercedes was parking on motorcycle lots.
This led to the Mercedes driver receiving a ticket for his or her actions and a carton box was also seen placed on top of the vehicle, allegedly left by someone who is unhappy with the actions of the Mercedes driver.
Reporting of illegal parking
You can now report illegal parking should you see any in HDB Carparks or service roads via the OneServiceApp. Parking wardens will be activated to see to the matter immediately.
Here are what netizens think
He choose convenient over summon!
Fines is cheapo to them. Should have placed the bin on roof
Box only next time put green garbage bin with rubbish inside
Next time pour urine
what is $100 to him ? $0.10??? and why do you people have so many suggestion? are you all sick?
these drivers are some of the people that keep our reserve full of money.
The carplate shows its an old plate ER, these types usually quite rich people. 568 means got road huat.
Guy probably more pissed at the box than the summon..
U think the driver care about the summons when he is driving a Mercedes ?
Nine persons were arrested for suspected drug-related offences and gambling offences following a joint enforcement operation conducted from 13 to 17 March 2023.
The enforcement operation was jointly led by officers from Woodlands Police Division and Central Narcotics Bureau (CNB), and aimed to clamp down on illegal activities in Yishun, Sembawang, Woodlands and Marsiling, including illegal gambling, drug-related offences and other offences.
In the enforcement operation, seven men, aged between 24 and 66, and a 60-year-old woman, were arrested for suspected drug-related offences. Four Ziplock packets containing about 28.6 grams of brown granular substances believed to be controlled drugs, a mobile phone and some assorted drug paraphernalia were seized as case exhibits. A 27-year-old man was also arrested for allegedly gambling with an unlicensed gambling service provider. Investigations are ongoing.
Singapore adopts a strict policy of zero tolerance towards controlled drugs. The importation and exportation, possession, sale and consumption of controlled drugs or products containing controlled drugs, is an offence under the Misuse of Drugs Act (MDA) 1973.
Under the Gambling Control Act 2022, anyone who is found to be involved in unlawful betting operations shall be liable on conviction to a fine of not less than $200,000 and shall also be punished with imprisonment for a term of up to five years. Under the same Act, any person who gambles with an unlicensed gambling service provider shall be liable on conviction to a fine not exceeding $10,000, imprisonment for a term not exceeding six months, or both.
The Police and CNB take a serious view against all forms of illegal betting and drug-related activities. Members of the public are advised to steer clear of such activities. Individuals found to be involved in such illicit activities will be dealt with in accordance with the law.
PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 23 March 2023 @ 2:00 PM
I was recently strolling through my neighbourhood hawker center, minding my own business and looking for something to munch on.
As I walked around, I had a stomachache and rushed to the toilet.
Note: I had never used the toilets at the hawker centres before because I usually would just go home to do my business but this time it was too unbearable and I really had to go.
Realised that got no toilet paper, luckily I haven’t full blast release
Just when I entered the cubicle and I was about to release, I quickly forced a stop to my release because I realised that there was no toilet paper in the cubicle and also no bidet.
I was completely taken aback by this. I wondered why we had to pay for something that we got for free in the shopping malls.
I quickly pulled up my pants and rushed out to the drinks store to buy a packet of tissues.
I started talking to the stall owners and asking them why we still had to pay for toilet paper in the hawker centers when we don’t have to pay for them in the shopping malls.
Most of them shrugged and said that it was just the way things were. They said that the hawker center had been around for a long time and that’s the way it had always been.
I was a little disappointed by this answer. I thought that in this day and age, we should all be able to access basic amenities like toilet paper without having to pay for them. But apparently, that’s not the case.
It turns out that the hawker centers are not as well-funded as the shopping malls and so they don’t have enough money to provide free toilet paper.
They rely on the income from the toilet paper to keep the bathrooms clean and stocked with supplies.
While I understand the need to generate income, I still can’t help but feel disappointed. It seems like a double standard that we have to pay for something that we get for free in other places.
I guess this is just one of those things that we have to accept and move on. Even though it’s not fair, it’s just the way things are in the hawker centers and there’s nothing we can do about it.
So, the next time you’re at a hawker center and need to use the restroom, make sure you have some spare coins on hand to pay for the toilet paper.
46-year-old veteran Singaporean actress Vivian Lai, shared a series of Instagram stories on her profile on 17 March, complaining about her disappointing experience with a doctor at Raffles Hospital during a medical checkup, according to Mothership.
She captioned her stories in Mandarin (translated to English): “what the f-, how can you even become a doctor if you don’t even have the basic respect towards your patients? Everyone don’t come to this place.”
“The more I think about it, the angrier I get! This place is functioning just like a factory! We are people, not machines!”
“An appearance that looks positive from the outside… depending on their reputation… thinking very highly of themselves… abnormal charges and fees… Very rude services… I’m really very disappointed in Rxfxxxx Hospital.”
Following Lai’s unhappy experience going viral, a representative from Raffles Medical Group confirmed that they were made aware of her complaints on her Instagram Stories and have reached out to the actress in private to find out more about the incident.
They said that they have addressed her concerns and believe that her Instagram stories have also been removed.
Responding to the situation as well, Lai’s management company LNX Global said that they are “so disappointed by the service standard at Raffles Hospital.”
They said that their doctor was allegedly “condescending and impatient throughout that medical checkup that took place 2 days ago, as if Vivian was imposing on her busy schedule and the service was provided for free.”
They said that the doctor had spoken to Lai in a dismissive manner and “insinuated that Vivian was ignorant when she had to repeat and explain some medical terms because Vivian didn’t quite understand.”
They added that they find the behaviour “unacceptable and intolerable” and that they hope Raffles Hospital will take disciplinary action against the doctor, as well as other doctors who are “impolite, inconsiderate and disrespectful towards patients.”
