I (21f) recently went overseas for two months. My boyfriend (20m) didn’t come with me and stayed behind. We didn’t see each other for two months other than occasional pictures we sent over text.
I came back and was welcomed by my loving boyfriend at the airport. I immediately noticed he lost a lot of weight. According to him he lost almost 25 pounds which is absolutely insane to me.
He said while I was gone his main focus was spent on working out and eating better. I of course assured him that he looked great and he genuinely does look great, but I prefer his chubby body.
I can’t tell anyone since he’s so proud of himself and he worked hard to get where he’s at. It’s also not my place to tell him what to do with his body.
When we are cuddling I miss his soft body and I miss his soft hugs. I feel like I’m hugging a TV remote now.
EDIT: I feel like I should clear this up. My boyfriend was chubby, but was not overweight. He went from lifting with a bit of chub to a flat stomach and just doing cardio workouts. I promise I’m not encouraging him to clog his arteries.
all the jobs i thought where “good” growing up.. turned out to be crap
when i was a kid i would look at “office” people and think wow they dont have to go do physical labor and they have clean looking clothes and nice cars. it must be really awesome working in an office.
fast forward i have been working in various office settings for the last 10 years.. and they are all shit.
except of course upper management.
how did office work seem so great back then..
Even the “hard” jobs like factory work don’t even pay anything any more. i make more sitting on my bottom doing data entry now than I would if I went and worked in a hot warehouse doing heavy lifting.. and neither pay worth a damn anyway.
Netizens’ comments
Honestly you can make ok money at the right place, there’s alot of leadership jobs they would probably qualify for also that pay better. I work maintenance and it’s kind of a dream job, I get paid to fix stuff in a climate controlled environment and they need me. The wrong machine goes down the whole warehouse is waiting for it to come back up. I can move anywhere and they hire internally before someone on the outside. Labor jobs are coming back because now they involve a lot more tech sometimes robotics and surprise no one still wants to do them lol
I learned this on my first job. Theater. I thought I was the luckiest kid in the world. I get to work at the MOVIES! Popcorn! Video games! Tickets! It’s not even about the hidden stuff. It’s just the nature of being forced to be somewhere, put up with people who think they own you. It made me question the point of civilization. I became a futurist. Now I’m just nothing. Now I’m just tired.
Work from home office job is probably the best thing you can get. Don’t have to deal with coworkers for the most part. Or commute.
Did the office thing for over a decade after college and hated every single second. I’d put it just barely above retail. Switched industries, job tracks, and got out of the 9-5 thing (and the office) and wouldn’t go back without a huge pay raise.
Do anyone of you here hated your secondary school life even after graduating years ago?
It’s been almost a decade since I have graduated my secondary school. Used be outcasted by my cca mates and most of my classmates for years. Almost flunk my Os and having to live with low self esteem until I went to poly.
So nowadays, whenever I saw my secondary school classmates in public or at my workplace, the tendency of me wanting to roll my eyes so bad.
Not to mention those fake secondary school classmates that turned into financial advisors and trying to rekindle the non-existent “friendship” ewww.
Guys, feel free to share your horrible secondary school experience here!
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I’d rather be adulting with all the stress of adulting than to ever go back to a day of Secondary School lol.
Not secondary but JC and its surprisingly so. My mental health was very very bad during that period of time but I thought I’d sort of ‘moved past it’. But recently someone was speaking about their experience during that time and I noticed a lot of heavy emotions sort of just came back so I really sort of have that hang up. Also, I would have recurring nightmares for years of like not studying anything or missing A’level exams altogether or something & waking up very confused before remembering that I am a whole working adult now, and not in JC anymore.
Yes, one of the most hated period in life. Lousy class mates, they often go shop lifting, do all forms of nonsense, disposed other classmates’ text books and cause them to fail exams. They’re fake, toxic, they’ll spread false rumours and laugh at your plight. They’ll target anyone they could – I stood up for myself, got beaten up a few times but, still continue to report them. Teachers then label everyone as either losers or hopeless just because we’re in normal (acad) stream.
I rented a room without viewing in-person and now I want to bail.
I’ve recently signed a 6-month lease with a tenant that has agreed with the landlord to sublet me a room for the next 6 months. Because I was moving directly from overseas, I needed a place before I landed and hence didn’t get a chance to see it in person.
I’m 2 weeks into moving in and I find that as tolerant and patient as I am, the tenants do a lot of heaving cooking of curries and as a result, the smell has seeped into my room slowly. I’ve done the whole diffuser, thirsty hippo, air freshener etc but it’s to a point that it’s nauseous.
The tenants are truly nice people and I get along well. But how tf am I suppose to tell them to try and cook something else? Plus I won’t cos that’s shitty behaviour.
TL;DR Can I bail on my lease given the grounds that I can’t handle the smell?
Netizens’ comments
If you have a window, you could do positive pressure ventilation. Just a small fan blowing into the room from outside and seal the gap.
Of course not. Especially if this is a HDB, because the minimum rental period for an HDB is 6 months. If people could bail for such lame reasons, it would be a loophole exploited by illegal Airbnbs. Even your subletting situation sounds pretty suspicious. Possibly if you can find a replacement, the subletter might agree? I’d recommend just coping. Buy one of those rubbery strips to seal the gap under your door. And thirsty hippos, only absorb water. Get a big box of baking sofa or bag of charcoal.
How certain are you that the sublet has landlord permission? is it a HDB or condo?
What do you think of the “no taking MC” culture in Singapore?
People at my workplace are sooooo afraid of taking MCs. Too many times they’d come to work even when they’re really really sick and it’s becoming a problem as the virus will spread. Recently there was a flu bug around, and literally the entire office was coughing and sneezing. it started with one guy who had a cold and it spread like wildfire throughout the office. Some would even come to work looking half-dead only to ask to go back home halfway through cause they “can’t take it”.
These people refuse to take MC because they’re afraid it’ll affect their performance grading and they’ll “feel bad” as others will have to tank their workload. With some saying that even if they’re sick and do little work at work, but at least they’re still physically present at work so the bosses can see them ???????? But shouldn’t health come first? Granted maybe you’re living alone, but what about your other colleagues at work who have kids or vulnerable adults at home? Isn’t that too selfish on your end?
Granted, some may say that people always abuse the MC system and will strategically take on MC during long weekends, but if you’re sick, you’re sick and these things abusing of MC is really easy to tell.
Why do people still choose to come to work if they’re sick? If minor cough i get it but not when your office table is full of your mucus-filled tissues like dudeeeeee.
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Lol what. In my current workplace, people take mc like nobody business. Already encountered a couple who finished their 14 days of entitlement and are on NPL if they take more mc. Sometimes people don’t get their roster request, they take mc. Nowadays with those damn cheap tele-consultations, very easy for them to take mc.
sick : go to work as per normal holiday/ hangover from last nite : time to take mc
Kinda opposite in my workplace. If you come in with a viral plague, people will ask if you are well/outright tell you to leave and go see a doctor/work from home instead.
Anyone experienced Taxi Uncle falling asleep while driving?
I encountered one. Took Taxi early around 4 in the morning to go to airport. Uncle is old like 70 something. He dosed off while driving on PIE and car swerved to left.
I was sitting behind and luckily wide awake to notice and shouted him.
Not too many cars on the road that time. These days I am paranoid whenever my taxi is on highway.
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I’ve encountered some too, in Singapore and overseas. They been on the road for too many hours trying to earn more money, i feel for them though. If you’re a passenger in such a situation, don’t panic, just try to keep them awake by talking to them and engaging them.
Same situation as you, twice. Both times coming back home from airport, about 12am, so actually not that late. Old uncles too. First encounter, Uncle clearly dozing off and kept swerving off-lane. Told him nicely that may need him to be a bit more careful, but still like that. I then told Uncle to drop me off at ECP Mcdonalds, cos I was scared for my life. Second encounter, same situation but could tell Uncle put in a lot of effort to stay awake plus drive carefully after my pleading. So we made it back home safely and I tipped him too, for his efforts.
Happened several times when I was out late and in a cab. Most times it’s happened in a cab instead of Grab. I try to keep talking to them to keep them awake and I’ve even offered for them to stop and we have a coffee together. They’re only human. Our bodies aren’t meant to be working long hours and forcing ourselves to stay awake through the night so while it’s a question of safety, we also need to be empathetic and understanding rather than telling them off.
Can email CDG to provide feedback. While you can be sympathetic towards older taxi drivers, falling asleep at the wheel is very serious. Someone could have died. For deterrence purposes, there needs to be some consequences. A life is more precious than a job (tho frankly i doubt they would lose their job just because of a complaint).
A recent Facebook post has brought attention to a customer’s disappointing experience with Foodpanda, raising concerns about delivery standards and rider conduct.
The incident occurred when the customer ordered food from VeganBurg via the Foodpanda platform, resulting in an unpleasant surprise.
Rider left like a ghost
In the Facebook post, the customer explained that they had not instructed the Foodpanda rider to leave the order outside the house.
However, the rider silently dropped off the food and departed without any indication of a delivery being made, leaving the customer unaware that their order had arrived until they received a notification.
The customer recounted that, in previous instances, riders had hung their deliveries on a hook on the gate for convenience when in a hurry.
However, in this case, the customer found the food on the ground by the side wall of their house, making it virtually invisible unless they ventured outside to check. Despite the inconvenience, the customer initially decided to accept the situation.
Drink spilled, paper bag torn, order abandoned
Unfortunately, this gesture of understanding led to further disappointment. Upon picking up the bag to bring it inside, it tore, causing the contents, including a drink, to spill onto the ground.
The spilled drink made the paper bag wet and weakened its structure, rendering it unable to carry the weight of the food items inside.
The handle of the bag was also torn. Consequently, the rider decided to abandon the order on the ground and left the scene without any explanation.
The disgruntled customer made it clear that their frustration was not directed at delivery riders in general. They acknowledged the challenges of the job and the need for understanding in various situations.
However, their complaint centered on what they perceived as a lack of dignity and integrity displayed by the particular rider in question.
The customer expressed their disappointment and disgust at the rider’s behavior, emphasizing that customers order food for consumption, not to eat from the ground or drink from a plastic bag.
The customer concluded by urging Foodpanda to take note of the incident and address the matter, calling for improved delivery standards and greater accountability among their riders.
Here is what he said on Facebook
foodpanda please take note of this…
Ordered food from VeganBurg via Food Panda. Did NOT instruct to leave outside house. Rider quietly came, delivered and left. Not even a “delivery” sound. Only realised food was delivered after the notification came. Opened the door and I couldn’t find any food at the gate. I have a hook on the gate and usually riders who are in a rush will just hang it on the gate and leave. Yes you read that correctly. Riders have left food at my gate before and I never made an issue about it as long as the food was safe.
Now… I opened the gate and realised the food was on the floor by the wall at the side of my house. Which means it’s not visible if I did not come out of the house to check. Yet, I said “fine it’s ok” and carried the bag to go inside. Guess what. The bag tore and everything dropped on the floor. That’s when I realised that the drink has already spilled inside the bag, made the paper bag wet and weak to carry the weight of the items inside. Since the handle too was already torn, the rider decided to leave it on the floor and run away.
I have totally nothing against delivery riders. I’ve done this job before so I know it’s not an easy job. But please have some dignity. People order food to eat. Not to eat it from the floor. People order drink not to drink from plastic bag. All the rider had to do was just tell me what had happened and I wouldn’t even have bothered putting up this post. What irritates me is that the rider has no dignity nor integrity to inform the customer. Extremely disappointed and disgusted.
A Singapore animal welfare group, Chained Dog Awareness in Singapore, posted several videos and photos on their Facebook page, where they shared the plight of a group of dogs that were allegedly chained up at an office building area in Joo Koon.
One of the dogs had died and was thrown inside a rubbish bag, about to be buried in a hole that the workers had dug up.
The group is asking for an autopsy to be conducted on the death of the dog, named Max.
Chained Dog Awareness in Singapore’s Facebook post
The Heartbreaking Last Moments of a Chained Dog’s Life
This morning we received a distressing report from a concerned individual about three dogs that were cruelly chained up in the rain at 3 Joo Koon Circle. Overwhelmed with emotion, she described the heart-wrenching situation of Max, one of the dogs, who lay lifeless on the grass. As we watched the video, our hearts sank, heavy rain relentlessly beating down on his motionless body. We feared the worst, as she had predicted.
Upon reaching the factory, we were informed by the staff that Max had passed away at 9:53 am, as confirmed by CCTV footage. Shockingly, his body had been callously discarded and thrown into a trash bag by his owners. The workers had already begun digging a hole, seemingly ready to bury him without any dignity or respect.
To the Management of *company name redacted*, we address you directly. You have callously disposed of a dog, whom you described as a stray that you supposedly cared for and fed. Yet, you lacked the decency to provide him with a proper burial. Is it because he was deemed worthless in your eyes, simply because he was a stray?
We have informed NParks (AVS – Agri-Food & Veterinary Authority of Singapore) about Max’s untimely death, seeking closure and understanding of the circumstances. Fortunately, we were able to intervene and prevent the worker from burying Max prematurely. We have requested that AVS conduct an autopsy to uncover the truth behind his passing.
This is the very least we can do for Max. We hope *company name redacted* will now at least show some decency and provide him with a proper burial. Max deserves to leave this world with the respect and compassion that was denied to him in his final moments.
Julia d’Silva, a 71-year-old retiree, has been sitting on the upper deck of a double-decker Tower Transit bus for the last three years, as she commutes daily from Clementi into the city centre.
However, on Friday, the bus driver told her to take a seat on the lower deck instead, to which she told him that she had been sitting upstairs for years before the driver relented, according to The Straits Times.
She added that she likes to sit on the upper deck and read during the bus ride.
The Company Directive: Ensuring Passenger Safety
In a Facebook post, Ms. d’Silva revealed that the bus driver cited a “company directive” as the reason for instructing her to sit on the lower deck.
This directive aims to encourage senior citizens, pregnant women, and passengers with mobility challenges to choose seats on the lower deck.
The rationale behind this is to minimize the risk of accidents on buses, particularly when passengers need to navigate the bus’s stairs.
While the incident may have been surprising to Ms. d’Silva, it highlights the commendable efforts by public transport operators to prioritize passenger safety.
Tower Transit, the operator of the bus in question, has always promoted the well-being of vulnerable passengers. As the population ages, their efforts have become even more concentrated, with additional reminders to ensure that senior passengers, in particular, take seats on the lower deck.
“Travel Safe” Campaign: A Collective Effort
Tower Transit is not alone in its commitment to passenger safety. SBS Transit, another prominent transport operator, has a “Travel Safe” campaign in place.
This campaign encourages elderly commuters to sit on the lower deck, and it was launched just before the Covid-19 pandemic.
In addition to this, the company organizes monthly roadshows at bus interchanges to reinforce the message of safe travel.
The emphasis on safety is not just about making public transport safer; it’s also about fostering good travel habits among passengers.
SBS Transit’s spokeswoman, Grace Wu, underscores that passenger safety is of the utmost importance. This commitment to safety extends to all passengers, particularly those who might require special attention.
Are All Senior Passengers Frail and Weak?
Julia d’Silva added that she was puzzled and amused by what happened on Friday, but accepts that the transport operators are trying to protect senior citizens.
However, she added that not all older folks are frail and weak, as she has been hitting the gym for over a decade, practicing weight training and pilates, which has kept her agile and feeling much younger than her 71 years.
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Few months back, found out that hubby had been lying about his whereabouts after work. Claimed that he’s on the way home (via public transport) but actually he grabbed home so that he could work longer in office. While giving me the impression he’s on the way home.
When I first found out, I was so hurt he lied to me and confronted him. He claimed he did not want to upset me when he had to work late almost every other day. I usually end work on time so I’m always the one waiting on him at home so to speak. He promised he wouldn’t do it again and he will do whatever he can to earn back my trust.
Fast forward, I caught him in the same lie again. This time I was angry and confronted him, asked him in detail why he felt he had to lie about work. He was apologetic, gave me the same reason that he hates to upset me he has to work late.
He claimed that he is sensitive to other people’s feelings and he feels stressed if he knows he has to upset people (he’s a people pleaser).
So to avoid upsetting me, he lies to me instead. Of course, I told him it was unacceptable and he was just taking the east way out. He said he understood if I would never trust him again but that also he would never do it again from now on.
The next day. He told me he was going for coffee with his best friend. This time yes, he informed me where he was going but lo and behold, God wanted to show me that it wasn’t his best friend he was out with but a colleague.
What the hell do I do with my hubby now? He promised me twice he will not lie to me again but he did it again THE VERY NEXT DAY. Now I’m angry and hurt.
